ACT and Holding Our Values Near

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Q:  What can I do when my world takes a knock?

A:  Take time to steady and turn to your values.

When unexpected things happen of course we are going to be momentarily shaken, shocked, delighted, horrified, excited etc.  Our emotional reaction will vary according to the event in question.  If we like it expect good reactions, if not, well we know the answer to that one!

The important thing to remember is that although we cannot stop the reaction from arising in the first place we can choose what happens next.  ACT reminds us that although we cannot avoid the first cut, we do not have to make it deeper.  Accepting the first reaction is not always easy.  When we are reeling, when our mind is in turmoil, when every fibre of our being is shouting, “NO!” acceptance may seem a million miles away.

We would be saints if we just rolled over and said, “Yes, Ok, I am fine with this.”  We are not saints, we are human beings, fallible, imperfect, wonderful human beings.  When unexpected things happen, particularly unwelcome unexpected things, this is the time to be kind to ourselves, to exercise the same compassion that we would extend to our very best friend.  This is also the time to turn to our values.  When everything else is in turmoil our values are our lifeline.  They are constant, they will not let us down.

Whilst we are absorbing the shock, whilst we are coming to the terms with the new what is, let’s do ourselves a favour.  In the midst of the mayhem we can find a way out.  Our values will guide us to new beginnings.

I wrote “HOLDING OUR VALUES NEAR” to remind me of that.

HOW ABOUT YOU?

  • Do you remember to turn to your values in times of trouble?
  • Have you revisited your values recently?  Is it time to pay them a visit?
  • What can you share that might be of help to others?

Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

POEM FOR TODAY


HOLDING OUR VALUES NEAR

 

Sometimes our mind’s in turmoil, there is so much going on,

Too much newness to assimilate, or something sudden gone,

An enthusiasm waning, or a disappointment new,

Something close to disappearing, something coming into view.

Yes, for now the landscape’s changing, and that really is the crux,

We may strive for equilibrium but everything’s in flux

And for the moment we must tolerate an unknown what will be,

So, let’s not fix upon an outcome, let us sit it out and see.

For what will happen in the future is not something we can know,

We may give it our best guesstimate, accepting even so

That predictions are notorious for being way off beam,

And even seeming drawbacks are not always what they seem.

And so, if Mind is in a turmoil and things seem for now unclear,

That’s the time to turn to values and to hold them very near,

For then we won’t be in a quandary, Mind rushing round disturbed,

Because when values drive our actions we need not be too perturbed.

© Corinne Shields, 2017

If you enjoyed, “HOLDING OUR VALUES NEAR” please pass it on, and do leave your comments.  I would love to hear from you.

And just before you go …..

A final word from ACT …..

When we are struggling with events in our lives, when we have lost touch with our values and are finding it hard to cope, the Six Core Processes of ACT offer us a wealth of choice.  What a tool box we have at our disposal.

If you want a swift reminder of what’s on offer there is a great overview at goodtherapy.org.  I visited today and I was so glad that I did.  It reminded me that even though I turn my back on one core process there are five more waiting in the wings!  Today it was this that resonated with me:

“Accepting one’s emotional experience can be described as the process of learning to experience the range of human emotions with a kind, open, and accepting perspective.”

I was so glad to be reminded of that today.  The first cut really can be the deepest if we don’t keep digging at it!

ACTivation Point!

SO ……………………….

How about YOU?

What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life?

 Just for today I will ………………………

If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you?

I am a student of ACT.  I am on a journey.  I would love you to join me.

With all good wishes

Corinne

ACT and Accepting the Feelings

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Q:  What should I do when someone hurts me?

A:  Acknowledge it, accept the feelings and move on.

When someone hurts us, especially when someone hurts us unexpectedly, it can be quite a shock to the system.  If we didn’t see it coming then it can leave us reeling, unable for the moment to make sense of what is happening.

At such times it is probably best not to try to analyse too much.  We cannot know what causes someone else to lash out, we are not privy to their inner landscape, we cannot get inside their head.

Of course it would be great if people went around being nice to each other, of course it would be wonderful if everyone took account of everyone else’s feelings, but that isn’t going to happen any time soon.  We are all human, imperfectly human, and we all say and do things we don’t mean and wish we could take back.  Sometimes things do spill out, sometimes the pressure builds and things are said and done to relieve it.

If we are at the receiving end of someone’s unkindness that says more about what is happening to them than it does about us.  ACT reminds us that we are more than our feelings, more than our thoughts.  If we make space we can observe them and let them pass through.

When we are upset by what someone has said or done it helps to remember that we cannot stop the feelings arising but we do not have to hold on to them.  When someone offends us we do not have to take offence.  We have a choice.  We can acknowledge our feelings, accept them and move on.

I wrote “ACCEPTING THE FEEINGS” to remind me of that.

HOW ABOUT YOU?

  • Are you too quick to take offence?
  • Are you willing to act in your own best interests and let it go?
  • What can you share that might be of help to others?

Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

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POEM FOR TODAY

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ACCEPTING THE FEELINGS

 

Sometimes somebody lets us down, or so it sometimes feels,

And we didn’t see it coming, we’re off balance, our world reels,

And it really was surprising when our world view took a knock,

But right now, the shock is over and it’s time for taking stock.

It maybe we were complacent and forgot how things could change

When our world view took a tumble, and began to rearrange,

But it’s time now for acceptance of what’s happened, of what’s gone,

Leaving energy to spare to best decide how to move on.

For a someone who’s surprised us doesn’t have to take account

Of emotional reactions that in us begin to mount,

For our feelings are our business, our responsibility,

So, they’re never down to you my friend, they’re always up to me.

And so, although we may not like it when a someone seems unkind,

Or we find things have moved on and we’ve been somehow left behind,

It will be in our best interests if we simply let it go

And refuse to take offence so that our peace of mind can grow.

And that really is so lovely, when we find a way to say,

“I’m protective of my peace and I don’t give it quick away,

And despite your careless actions I won’t seek to shift the blame,

I may not like the way I feel but I’ll accept it all the same.”

© Corinne Shields, 2017

 

If you enjoyed, “ACCEPTING THE FEELINGS” please pass it on, and do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

And just before you go …..

A final word from ACT …..

There is a very interesting article at mindfulnessmuse.com entitled 5 Ways to Let Go of Judgment and Fear.  The 5 Strategies are:

  • Mindfulness
  • Reframe the judgment in terms of consequences
  • Reframe the judgment in terms of goas or gratitude for others
  • Actively look for exceptions and what is going unnoticed
  • Apply validation

The article reminds us that it is possible to let go of judgment and fear.  We can make the choice in this moment to practice a new way of relating to ourselves, others, and the world.

When we realise that taking offence, no matter how justified, hurts us more than choosing not to take it, then it becomes easier to let it go.  The 5 strategies are useful tools to have in our kit-box.

ACTivation Point!

SO ……………………….

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How about YOU?

What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life?

 Just for today I will ………………………

If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you?

I am a student of ACT.  I am on a journey.  I would love you to join me.

With all good wishes

Corinne

ACT and Fear

ACCEPTANCE AND COMMITMENT THERAPY (ACT) – AN ONLINE RESOURCE of inspirational quotes, poems and other act goodies!

Q:  How can I deal with my fearful feelings better?

A:  Explore them, breathe into them!

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Fear is generally acknowledged to be an unpleasant emotion.  Dry throat, churning stomach, sweaty palms, pounding heart etc.  And yet, these are the same sensations that we experience when we are excited.  It’s just that fear gets a bad press whilst excitement, on the whole, doesn’t.

Excitement is usually associated with something positive, fear is not.  When we are afraid it is because we are putting our own negative interpretation on an event, a future event, because fear is usually future based.  When we are excited we are generally putting a positive spin on things.

ACT encourages us to become willing to accept our internal experiences, our thoughts and feelings, in a spirit of openness and curiosity.  Rather than struggling to get rid of feelings we don’t like ACT suggests that we get to know them, where these feelings locate in our body, their size, their texture.  When we adopt this approach we are less likely to be overwhelmed by them.

Given that the body’s reaction to fear and excitement is pretty much the same, this might help us to be less judgemental, become less frightened of our fear.

I wrote “FEAR” to remind me of that.

HOW ABOUT YOU?

  • How do you react to your fearful feelings?
  • Are you willing to become less hostile to them, maybe explore them a little?
  • What can you share that might be of help to others?

Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

POEM FOR TODAY

 

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FEAR

 

Oh, how we’d love to banish it, this fear that haunts us so,

Love to kick it from its hiding place, before it starts to grow,

Or to give it scant attention, should it dare to raise its head,

But it’s likely when it does so we’re consumed by it instead.

Oh, we wish that it were other, that we had the power to choose

Which sweet feelings we would cling to, and which ones we would refuse,

But our feelings are not like that, they won’t to our bidding bend,

They just spring up automatically, they’re neither foe nor friend.

And if we would learn to treat them in a different sort of way,

Become willing to receive whatever ‘tis we feel today

In a spirit of acceptance, “Here comes wonder, here comes fear,”

Then we won’t put up a struggle against what’s already here.

And then whatever we are feeling is allowed sufficient space

To achieve its true proportions, to take up its rightful place,

Not as some crass interloper who has no right to occur,

But as just another feeling, it’s just one we don’t prefer.

But it’s one we’ll welcome anyway, it’s here now after all,

And so, it’s only common courtesy when feelings come to call

To acknowledge them politely, maybe call them by their name,

“Hello fear, I may not like you, but you’re welcome all the same.”

And then when we’re not resisting, we may find to our surprise

That whatever we are feeling is somehow cut back to size,

And we can go about our business, invite fear to come along,

For when we’re finished with resisting it, then fear can make us strong.

© Corinne Shields, 2017

If you enjoyed, “FEAR” please pass it on, and do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

And just before you go …..

A final word from ACT …..

Two acronyms that are often used in ACT are FEAR, and its antidote ACT.

The FEAR acronym summarises core problems as stemming from:

  • Fusion with your thoughts
  • Evaluation of experience
  • Avoidance of your experience
  • Reason-giving for your behaviour

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy proposes its own acronym for how to deal with FEAR, ACT:

  • Accept your reactions and be present
  • Choose a valued direction
  • Take action

There is a very interesting article at elizabethweiss.org entitled:

“ACT Challenges the “Healthy Normality” Assumption,” which goes into more detail about how ACT can combat FEAR.  You might like to head over and check it out.

ACTivation Point!

SO ……………………….

 

How about YOU?

What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life?

 Just for today I will ………………………

If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you?

I am a student of ACT.  I am on a journey.  I would love you to join me.

With all good wishes

Corinne

ACT and Looking for Answers – Self as Context

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Q:  When I don’t know which way to turn, who should I turn to?

A:   Yourself.  Turn to your Self as Context.

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One of the core processes of ACT is Self as Context, and it is perhaps the most difficult to get to grips with.  Why?  Because it is a concept that is unfamiliar to many of us.  We get so embroiled in the content of our lives, the things that happen, the feelings and emotions that pass through us, that we find it difficult to get past all that to another sense of Self.

It is hard to define Self as Context in a way that makes sense to us and yet the word “sense” is a good starting point.  The word “sense” gives us a clue to what Self as Context is, and where we are likely to find it.

We get a glimpse, a sense of Self as Context, through our senses.  When we stop thinking and start sensing then we get a notion of what it’s all about.  When we are struck dumb by something awesome in Nature, we are glimpsing our Sense as Context, when we get goose-bumps or the hairs of our head stand on end we are in touching distance of our Sense as Context.  These are clues that there is this other part of ourselves.

Another way to understand our Self as Context is as that part of ourselves that is pure awareness.  When we are thinking, judging, planning, analysing, we are in our Thinking Mind.  This is not Sense as Context.  When we are caught up in the content of our lives, the stuff that comes and goes, moment by moment, day by day, we are experiencing our lives as Self as Content.  This is not Self as Context.

Self as Context is bigger than the bits of content that we experience.  When we experience our lives from the position of Self as Context our lives feel different.  We are not swept away by what happens to us because we are standing back and are able to observe it more dispassionately.  We are using our senses to just experience what is right here, right now, without judging it.  We are willing to experience it, whatever it is, just as it is.

From this viewpoint, the viewpoint of Self as Context, we are something more than what happens to us.  This is another part of our Self, and it is powerful.  The more we become aware of it, the wiser and more tranquil we will become.  It is not easy but it is so worth the effort of discovery.  What do we find there?  A wiser I.

Self as Content and Self as Context both reside in us.  If we feel overwhelmed by what is happening to us, this is the very time to try to see the bigger picture, to turn to Self as Context.  When we are looking for answers and do not know which way to turn, let’s remember Self as Context is always there.  We have many of our own answers, no-body knows us better than ourselves.

There is a Wiser I in all of us.  Its name is Self as Context.  It has seen it all before!

I wrote “A WISER I” to remind me of that.

HOW ABOUT YOU?

  • Are you able to stand back from the content of your life?
  • Do you have a sense of this other side of you, this Self as Context?
  • What can you share that might be of help to others?

Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

POEM FOR TODAY

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A WISER I

 

Sometimes there is confusion, there is so much going on,

That we’re caught up in the maelstrom of what’s coming or what’s gone,

And for now, it’s all chaotic, and our mind’s chaotic too,

What we crave is a Director telling us what we should do.

But the truth is no Director’s going to know us well enough

To produce for us solutions, they’re not privy to the stuff

That has brought us to this juncture, where we are floundering now,

They may offer us suggestions, but they cannot tell us how

We should implement them skilful, nor how we can pick and choose

From the smorgasbord before us what we will discard or use,

And although chaos confronts us, in the end it’s good to know

That when we seek out direction we do not have far to go.

For we are our own Director, one that’s always ours to find

When we look beyond the turbulence that’s stirring up our mind,

And when we create some distance, in the spaces we will see

That beside the I demanding, there’s a wiser I in me.

© Corinne Shields, 2017

If you enjoyed, “A WISER I “ please pass it on, and do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

And just before you go …..

A final word from ACT …..

Perhaps because I find it the most difficult of the core processes in ACT to get a handle on, Self as Context, engages me quite a lot.

I wrote another post about it a while ago, entitled, not surprisingly,  ACT and Self as Context!  Head over and take a look if you want to learn a bit more about this most challenging but powerful of concepts.

When I feel that my own life is getting out of hand, or that I am allowing myself to be swept away by what is happening to me, the content of my life, I know that making contact with my own Self as Context will help me.  I hope it does the same for you.

ACTivation Point!

SO ……………………….

How about YOU?

What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life?

 Just for today I will ………………………

If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you?

I am a student of ACT.  I am on a journey.  I would love you to join me.

With all good wishes

Corinne

ACT and Perfectionism 2

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Q:  What’s so wrong with being a perfectionist?

A:  It sets you up for failure.

Perfectionism is a cruel task master.  Once it’s got us under its cosh it is most unwilling to let us go.  It whispers siren songs trying to convince us that it has our best interests at heart, it doesn’t, that it won’t let us down, it will, and that if we do what it says that we won’t go far wrong, we will!

Perfectionism is not our friend.  Most of the time perfectionism leaves us feeling disappointed, miserable and exhausted.  This is not a good way to live!  If left unchecked it can destroy our health and our relationships.  Although we may have started out with good intentions, high standards are, after all, generally believed to be desirable, when high standards turn into impossible, unremitting high standards, perfectionism turns out to be not such a good idea after all.

This is where ACT can be so helpful.  ACT reminds us that perfectionism is essentially just an idea.  Our perfectionism is the result of the stories we tell ourselves, the thoughts that our mind generates.  If our thoughts are full of “oughts” and “shoulds” and “musts”, then it is likely that they are giving us a pretty hard time.  Every time our mind tells us that we are not good enough, that what we are doing is not good enough, that good enough is not good enough, we suffer.  When it tells us that only perfection will do, it is selling us a lie.

There is no such thing as perfection.  We are imperfect human beings and doing our best is surely good enough.  When we fail to take satisfaction in our achievements, imperfect though they may be, we are missing out.  When we fail to do something because we cannot do it perfectly, we are missing out.  Being a perfectionist stops us from learning the lessons that failure would teach us.  Perfectionists are afraid to fail and so they often do not try.  What a lot of life we are missing out on when perfectionism rules the roost.

ACT helps us to become aware through Mindfulness, then it offers us Defusion to show us how to defuse from unhelpful thoughts.  Perfectionist thoughts are rarely helpful.  When we are in their grip we are more likely to be moving away from where we want to go than towards it.

I wrote “PERFECTIONISM” to remind me of that.

HOW ABOUT YOU?

  • Is perfectionism an issue in your life?
  • Does it work for you or against you?
  • What can you share that might be of help to others?

Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

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POEM FOR TODAY

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PERFECTIONISM

 

It doesn’t all have to be perfect, whatever we think perfect is,

For the price that we pay for perfection is to stress and to get in a tizz,

And it’s all just a silly illusion, this perfection that’s driving us mad,

Better far we accept we’re a little inept and let go and relax just a tad.

And we’ll find that the heavens don’t open, and no lightening is striking us dead,

And in place of the stress a perfectionist bred there’s a lightness that’s spreading instead.

And so, if we are prone to perfection let us pause to consider the cost

Every time we set standards impossibly high and let sweet satisfactions be lost.

And why is it that we’re so persistent in pursuing impossible dreams,

What a boon it would be were we able to see that perfection is not what it seems,

For it is the most brutal task master, pouring scorn when it sees us fall short,

And it never allows us a moment’s respite, keeps us stuck in the trap where we’re caught.

‘Til one day we see through its illusion, and we’re ready to then call its bluff,

So, when it starts to tell us we’ve much more to do, we respond that we’ve done quite enough,

And what pleasure there is for the taking every time we reply in this way,

For the day then becomes full of promise, as perfection is slinking away.

© Corinne Shields, 2017

If you enjoyed, “PERFECTIONISM” please pass it on, and do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

And just before you go …..

A final word from ACT …..

If we have reached a point when we are fed up with life being an endless report card on achievements or looks, a rather fast track to unhappiness, then hopefully we are ready to make some changes.  This is easier said than done!  After all we have been perfectionists for so long that we have become experts.  New behaviour is going to take some time to kick in!

But ACT does offer some really helpful strategies.  If perfectionism starts to rear its ugly head then it helps to remember that all these “oughts” and “shoulds” and “musts” and “have tos” are just words, just bits of language.  When we speak to ourselves in these terms we are setting up rigid, inflexible rules which create stress and tension.  They also create the likelihood of failure.  They are at the root of much of our emotional suffering, our disappointment with what life offers.

ACT reminds us of the power of language, the potential that it has to impact negatively or positively on our lives.  Even small shifts, saying “may” instead of “must”, “could” instead of “should”, “might” instead of “have to”, reduces the rigidity and creates a choice.

ACT goes one step further.  It reminds us that developing a different relationship with our thoughts, defusing from them and seeing ourselves as the Thinker and not the Thought, reduces their impact still further.

This is all good stuff, a life-line for the perfectionists amongst us.

I have just watched one of Joseph Rhinewine’s videos on Perfectionism.  You might like to go and check it out.  He reminds us that perfectionism has, at base, the common theme of “not enough”, “not good enough”.   Perfectionists have a tendency to get rid of, to discount, anything which is not perfect, which ends up being everything!  Food for thought!

ACTivation Point!

SO ……………………….

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How about YOU?

What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life?

 Just for today I will ………………………

If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you?

I am a student of ACT.  I am on a journey.  I would love you to join me.

With all good wishes

Corinne

ACT and Attitude

ACCEPTANCE AND COMMITMENT THERAPY (ACT) – AN ONLINE RESOURCE of inspirational quotes, poems and other act goodies!

Q:  What can I do when I can’t change what’s happening?

A:  Change your attitude!

Accepting what we cannot change and changing what we can is at the heart of ACT.  It is a wonderful way to clarify what action we should take, what action we can take.

Struggling against the impossible, the unchangeable is, ACT reminds us, a waste of our precious energy.  We can use that energy to make a positive difference elsewhere in our lives.

What ACT also reminds us about is the power of our attitude.  Accepting things we cannot change is not easy.  It can be terrifying, heart-breaking even, but there is something about acceptance that also brings a sense of release.  Surrender can be a peaceful thing, the final laying down of arms can be a beginning as well as an ending.

When we finally accept the things we cannot change we are always left with something we can.  That something is our attitude.  That is ours and ours alone.  We need never surrender that.  And a change of attitude has the power to change any event, no matter how unpleasant.

I wrote “ATTITUDE” to remind me of that.

HOW ABOUT YOU?

  • Have you found how a change of attitude can transform an event?
  • Are you able to make that space and choose how you will respond to something?
  • What can you share that might be of help to others?

Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

POEM FOR TODAY

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ATTITUDE

 

An attitude’s a wondrous thing, it frees us from events,

Makes a space where we can choose how of events we will make sense,

It’s a liberating feeling, when we know we have the power

To interpret each occurrence by the minute, by the hour.

We no-longer need to dread them, these events which random call,

Good or bad or just indifferent, we can now embrace them all

In a spirit of acceptance, what a great place to begin,

For when we give up our resistance we can seek the jewel within.

And there’ll always be a jewel, maybe murky, hidden from view,

Lurking in the far recesses of events now passing through,

But what glory for explorers who are willing to dig deep,

Sifting through the heaps of debris for the jewels they can reap.

And so next time an event floors us and we’re floundering on the ground

Let’s remember it’s our attitude can turn events around,

And though it maybe we’ll need patience ‘til we’re willing to begin,

There’ll be jewels to discover when our attitude kicks in.

© Corinne Shields, 2017

If you enjoyed, “ATTITUDE” please pass it on, and do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

And just before you go …..

A final word from ACT …..

When reality comes a calling and something unexpected, unwelcome and unpleasant hits us in the face it is hardly surprising that our first reactions are denial, resistance, anger and so forth.  This is normal and natural.  But there comes a point when refusal to give up these reactions becomes harmful.  Left unchecked they are likely to spoil our lives.

ACT reminds us that there is another more skilful way to respond.  When we are ready to accept the unacceptable, when we are willing to change our attitude then meaningful change can occur.  Things can get better.

Russ Harris has written a great book on this.  I have recommended it before, I am recommending it now and am sure will recommend it again.  It is a great read.

ACTivation Point!

SO ……………………….

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How about YOU?

What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life?

 Just for today I will ………………………

If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you?

I am a student of ACT.  I am on a journey.  I would love you to join me.

With all good wishes

Corinne

ACT and The Here and Now

ACCEPTANCE AND COMMITMENT THERAPY (ACT) – AN ONLINE RESOURCE of inspirational quotes, poems and other act goodies!

Q:  How can I make this a good year?

A:  Live it in each present moment!

The beginning of a new year is a time when many of us are inclined to look back at the old year just gone or look forward to the new year to come.  It is a time when resolutions are easily made and just as easily broken, a time when nostalgia for the past is tempting and hopes for the future are most tender.  In other words the beginning of a new year gives us a unique chance to take stock of what is gone and make plans for the future.   I like this time of year.

However, ACT reminds us that too much time spent in the future past is not a good thing.  The past is gone, we cannot do anything about it, the future may not yet be ours.  Future past is just an illusion.  It is only in the present that we can exercise our powers,  where we can take positive action, where we can make a difference.

I wrote “THE HERE AND NOW” to remind me of that.

HOW ABOUT YOU?

  • Do you spend too much time in the future past?
  • Are you able to use the present moment to make a positive change?
  • What can you share that might be of help to others?

Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

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POEM FOR TODAY

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THE HERE AND NOW

 

Let’s not create a crisis where there’s not really one,

And let’s not keep poking at the past, for that’s already gone,

And let’s turn our backs on future stuff which may not yet be ours,

For it’s in the present moment that we exercise our powers.

We can choose this very moment to a valued action take,

Move towards a desired outcome, or reverse a past mistake,

For there’s power in the present that no other time-frame claims,

Future past is just illusion, we can’t live them, they’re just names.

But the present, that is different, that’s a potent place to be,

Offers each of us potential to explore our energy

In pursuit of what’s important, moves us closer to our goals,

Makes each step we take significant, rewards our hungry souls.

And so let’s take each present moment and determine that we’ll do

All we can to make them memorable, so as they’re passing through

We are not tempted to reject them, say they disappoint somehow,

Because there’s always something good to do within the here and now.

© Corinne Shields, 2017

If you enjoyed, “THE HERE AND NOW” please pass it on, and do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

And just before you go …..

A final word from ACT …..

Living as much as we can in the present moment weakens the depression that comes from living too much in the past and the anxiety that comes from living too much in the future.  This is a wonderful thing to know.   ACT offers us the gift of Mindfulness to open the door to the present moment, to the here and now.

If you are new to Mindfulness then I recommend the book that I first read when I was new to it too.  I have recommended it before and I return to it often.  It is a great introduction and comes with an accompanying CD to get you started and keep you going.  Give it a try, it is not called “The Life Changing Bestseller” for nothing!

ACTivation Point!

SO ……………………….

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How about YOU?

What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life?

 Just for today I will ………………………

If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you?

I am a student of ACT.  I am on a journey.  I would love you to join me.

With all good wishes

Corinne