ACT and Setbacks

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Q:  How do I overcome set-backs?

A:  Pick yourself up, dust yourself down and start all over again!

Nobody likes failure, nobody welcomes setbacks, nobody wants to fall short.  And yet, being human it is highly likely that we will fail, we will face setbacks, we will fall short.  We are human, we are not perfect, we will make mistakes.

Whether we are on a mission to lose weight, stop smoking, stay sober, stay clean, it is likely that at some time or another we will go off the diet, we will have another cigarette, we will fall off the wagon, we will have a slip.

How we deal with it, that’s the thing.  The great thing about ACT is that it reminds us that in the health domain, it is natural to experience setbacks, but these setbacks are only a problem when they cause us to move away from our values.

A slip does not have to become a relapse.  We can use a setback as fuel to get us back on the right track.  If we look to our values then they can help us to leave the slip behind as we choose effective actions in the here and now that will move us towards the desired outcome, to becoming the person we want to be.

I wrote “THE LONG HAUL” to remind me of that.

HOW ABOUT YOU?

  • Have you been able to learn from setbacks?
  • How have your values helped you to move on from a slip?
  • What can you share that might be of help to others?

Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

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THE LONG HAUL

So it’s OK we have a set-back, it’s OK we fall from grace,

Because we’re in it for the long haul, we’re not in it for the race,

So it won’t matter if we stumble, it won’t matter if we fall,

Because as long as we keep trying then we’ll keep on walking tall.

If we base our lives on values, there’s an underlying seam

That runs deep beneath the mishaps, shining like a laser beam,

It will steady us through failure, make short shrift of goals we’ve missed,

And remind us life is more than things we’re ticking off a list.

And so if we have had a set-back let’s not see it as defeat,

Let us use the fuel within it our next challenges to meet,

And though we may be disappointed let’s look long enough to find

What it is we truly value and then failure’s left behind.

Because already we’ve an option here and now to make a choice,

We can select another action that will make our soul rejoice,

And then the set-back that we’ve suffered will soon sink without a trace,

Because we’re in it for the long haul, we’re not in it for the race.

© Corinne Shields, 2016

If you enjoyed, “THE LONG HAUL” please pass it on, and do leave your comments.  I would love to hear from you.

And just before you go …..

A final word from ACT …..

At the moment I am on a mission to lose weight.  I am often on a mission to lose weight and sadly, that means that more often than not my mission fails.

Like many others I have tried a multitude of diets, become obsessed by this or that exercise plan and succeeded at varying times to shed the stones.  What I have not been able to do though is to maintain the weight loss.  Sooner or later, generally sooner, the pounds pile back on and I am back where I started, usually with interest!

So I am willing to give ACT a try.  It has worked for me in other domains so let’s see if it can work its magic with weight loss.

I am putting my trust in

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So far I like what I read, but reading isn’t going to be enough.  We all know what we need to do to lose weight but knowing is not enough.  If it were then nobody would have a weight problem!  This book uses the psychological science of ACT to help us to establish a healthy relationship with food and promises to show us how to control our weight without the stress of dieting.  Sounds good to me!

I will keep you posted about my progress.

ACTivation Point!

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How about YOU?

What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life?

 Just for today I will ………………………

If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you?

I am a student of ACT.  I am on a journey.  I would love you to join me.

With all good wishes

Corinne

ACT and Decision Making

ACCEPTANCE AND COMMITMENT THERAPY (ACT) – AN ONLINE RESOURCE

Q:  I still feel so confused.  Nothing is clearer.  What now?

A:  Turn to your values

"It's not hard to make decisions once you know what your values are." Roy E. Disney #freeprintable:

Because confusion does not always behave nicely and suddenly clear and present us with the right answers, I wrote a follow up post!

What to do if the mists don’t suddenly lift?  What if, despite all our analysing and ruminating, we are still no further forward?  What do we do if we don’t know what to do?

Well ACT is very helpful here.  ACT suggests that when in doubt turn to our values.  Feelings change, we know that.  Thoughts come and go, we know that too.  But our values are steadfast, they do not change.  If we know what our values are then it will make our decision making much easier.  If we do not know what our values are, it might be time we spent some time finding out.

I wrote “STERNER STUFF” to remind me of that.

HOW ABOUT YOU?

  • Have you spent time clarifying your values?
  • Have you used them as a touchstone in your decision making?
  • What can you share that might be of help to others?

Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

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POEM FOR TODAY

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STERNER STUFF

If we return to values then no matter we’re confused,

For we’ve a touchstone to rely on even though we are bemused,

It’s not our job to know all outcomes, nor to work all problems out,

But just as long as we have values we’ll know what our life’s about.

It can be tricky to negotiate a crisis that appears

Or to find ways to best accommodate our doubts and all our fears,

And it is hard to remain constant when a little voice within

Whispers treacherous misgivings and we’re tempted to give in.

But just as long as we have values we need not be too concerned,

For though our feelings come and go our values won’t be overturned,

For in the midst of our confusions, they are plenty strong enough

To overcome our flimsy feelings, for they’re made of sterner stuff.

© Corinne Shields, 2015

If you enjoyed, “STERNER STUFF” please pass it on, and do leave your comments.  I would love to hear from you.

And just before you go …..

A final word from ACT …..

In ACT terms values are very important.  Much ACT therapeutic work rests on using values to move a client forward.  If there are conflicting values, then a positive value can be used to counteract a more negative one.

This would help me!!!  I want to lose weight.  But do I want to lose it enough to give up all those lovely goodies???

Recently I have been reading “The Diet Trap” which uses ACT strategies to approach the issue of weight loss.  I haven’t done very well so far, but I do understand that it is going to involve me establishing what matters most in terms of my values.

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Watch this space!  I will report back!

ACTivation Point!

SO ……………………….

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How about YOU?

What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life?

 Just for today I will ………………………

If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you?

I am a student of ACT.  I am on a journey.  I would love you to join me.

With all good wishes

Corinne