ACT, its best friend COMPASSION, and BEING A HERO

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And introducing COMPASSION, ACT’s best friend!

Q: How can I become a hero?

A: Be brave for just a little longer. 

Being a hero is not reserved for other people, special people, extraordinary people. We all have the potential to be heroes. History is shot through with people who have blazed an heroic trail. Maybe, because history tends to report on the extraordinary, to favour the victors, we have a rather distorted view of heroes and heroism.

Nowadays, when news is available 24/7, the good, the bad and the ugly, we have more exposure to the everyday hero, the ordinary person doing extraordinary things. This should give us comfort. This should reassure us that we too, being human, imperfectly, amazingly human, have the same capacity within us. Maybe, just maybe, we could be heroes too.

And it’s not as if we need to wait to be put to the test. We don’t need to wait for extraordinary circumstances to present themselves in order for us to see if we are up to the challenge. We can develop and test our heroism every day. We can decide to venture out of our comfort zones of our own accord. We can decide to test our resilience as a matter of course. We can make being a hero a life-style choice, maybe in little ways, but sufficient to start to build our courage. This can make life an exciting adventure and not just a re-run of the same old, same old.

I wrote “BEING A HERO” to remind me of that.

HOW ABOUT YOU?

  • Are you willing to begin to build heroism into your life?
  • Do you give yourself credit for the times when you have already been a hero?
  • What can you share that might be of help to others?

Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

POEM FOR TODAY

BEING A HERO

I’d love to be a hero, to surprise myself and be

Someone more than I imagined I could ever, ever be,

But being a hero as a life-style, well that seems improbable

’til we remember other heroes, then it seems more possible.

For though our heroes may be special, they’re just human after all,

They are all humanly imperfect, just like us they rise and fall,

But for the moments they’re heroic, then we gaze at them in awe,

Forgetting all our heroes did was take one step and then one more.

And we all can become heroes, push our comfort zones and feel

The resistance rising in us, for it’s this that will reveal

If we have the guts to do it, step into that great unknown,

Or scurry back to seeming safety, then too late, that bird has flown.

And yet, if we had dared to do it, take that step, and leave behind

The constraints that we imagined, the illusive chains that bind,

Then we could step into adventure, and who knows where that might lead

If when, for once, Life said, “Come here!” and like a hero we agreed.

© Corinne Shields 2019

If you enjoyed “BEING A HERO” please pass it on, and do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

And just before you go …..

A final word from ACT, and its best friend COMPASSION ……..

ACT makes Values work a pivotal part of its therapy. Values are the things that drive us, really drive us. They are the things that are most important to us. Values are not right or wrong, they just are. No-one else needs to share them or to condone or deride them. They are ours.

Although Values are constant, that doesn’t mean that we can’t add to them, re-evaluate them even. As we develop, it may be that we do decide that some Values which have served us well may need a bit of refining. So it is with courage, with deciding that maybe being a bit more heroic may be something we want to add into the mix.

Being human, we are not going to get away with cowardice anyway. The human condition demands that we do step up and be counted whether we like it or not. We will all have our fair share of suffering, of grief, of unhappiness. How we meet these things will determine our lived experience. Being brave, being courageous, being a hero in demanding times, is something that we all have the potential to be. We may not want it, may not welcome it, but it is what it is. We cannot escape it.

A final, final word though. Let’s not forget to add compassion into the mix too. Life is hard, it is difficult, as well as being wonderful and amazing. Being a hero is something to maybe aspire to, but it is not something to beat ourselves up about. Let’s not make things harder than they already are.

If, or rather when we fail, let’s not give ourselves a hard time. Let’s treat ourselves with the compassion that we would so readily give to a friend, to a stranger even. In fact, while we’re at it, let’s start being a friend to ourselves. Let’s encourage the hero in us and it will emerge, maybe a little shyly, a little shakily, but if we take it by the hand it will come out of the shadows and into the light. How good would that be.

ACTivation Point!

SO ……………………….

How about YOU?

What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life? What can YOU do just for today to add some Compassion, some Kindness, into your life?

 Just for today I will ………………………

If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you? Is Compassion part of your life?

I am a student of ACT, I am learning about Compassion.  I am on a journey.  I would love you to join me.

With all good wishes

Corinne

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ACT, its best friend COMPASSION, and RESILIENCE

ACCEPTANCE AND COMMITMENT THERAPY (ACT) – AN ONLINE RESOURCE of inspirational quotes, poems and other act goodies!
And introducing COMPASSION, ACT’s best friend!

Q: How do I develop resilience?

A: Turn your stumbling blocks into stepping stones.

Most of us say we want to be stronger, more adaptable, more resilient, and then when life throws us learning opportunities, we shy away from them, resent them, complain about them.

Unfortunately, the way to get stronger, more adaptable, more resilient is not going to be found by sticking with the tried and trusted, by seeking to stay put. Only by allowing ourselves to be tested are we going to be able to develop the strength, adaptability and resilience that we say we want.

Sometimes we don’t have much choice. Life takes no notice of our safety first slogan. It slams into us, demanding that we sit up and take notice, that we sit up, take notice and take action. Sometimes we just feel that the time is right to do something different. We begin to realise that if we want our lives to expand then we are going to have to start stretching our comfort zones.

Resilience is a great thing to have, a great thing to develop. For with it comes confidence, confidence that we are going to be able to cope no matter what life throws at us. This is why, although we may not welcome problems, set-backs, obstacles, if we can view them as learning opportunities we will not be defeated by them.  We may even come to see them as blessings in disguise.

When we look back we surely see that the times that we most grew were not in the sunny uplands of our lives, but in the difficult and dark times. We should take comfort from this. We came through then and we will come through again. And all along, our resilience is being fired in the heat of adversity. That is the pay off for our trouble.

I wrote “RESILIENCE” to remind me of that.

HOW ABOUT YOU?

  • How do you turn stumbling blocks into stepping stones?
  • How have you developed your own resilience?
  • What can you share that might be of help to others?

Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

POEM FOR TODAY

RESILIENCE

 If we would be resilient, we’ll have to find a way

To transform the different challenges that face us every day

Into learning opportunities, and go to any length

To use them as raw material to grow our inner strength.

We might wish that life was easier, more kindly, more benign,

Long for days when storm clouds pass us by, and let the sun just shine,

But if this our wish were granted, not much growing would go on

For our resilience would wither if the sun just constant shone.

And so, although our first reaction to a setback may well be

A resistance to perceive it as an opportunity

To develop our resilience, to stoke our inner core,

Let’s remember that each challenge met helps us grow that bit more.

And it’s great to have a knowing emanating from within,

That adversity won’t break us, but will help us to begin

To build up our own resources, reinforce them, and renew

Our commitment to our courage, for we know we’ll see it through.

And so next time we face an obstacle, a problem, let’s commit

To embrace this raw material and do our best with it,

So, when we look back from the future from a place where we feel strong,

We see the challenges we faced were there to help us all along.

© Corinne Shields 2019

If you enjoyed “RESILIENCE” please pass it on, and do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

And just before you go …..

A final word from ACT, and its best friend COMPASSION ……..

Those of you who are regular visitors to this blog will know that I am in the throes of self publishing a book. And I am having to practice a lot of resilience I can tell you.

Because I do not have the requisite technical skills, it would be very easy to throw in the towel. There is always something else to learn and although I like learning, when it comes to things technical I lack confidence and really doubt my ability to carry it through.

I would love someone to come along and do it for me, and of course I could pay someone with the expertise to do just that. But, the mean-streak in me says, “You can do this and if you can learn to do it once you can learn to do it again and again, and that will save you a heap of money.”

When it comes to cover design I surrender. I can’t do that and I am more than willing to pay, but the technical stuff I feel I should be able to master. So, I carry on. I carry on in the hope that along the way my resilience in not giving up will pay off, in more ways than one!

From an ACT point of view, I think I am acting in accordance with ACT principles. I hope I am. I am accepting my limitations where it is wiser to do so, and I am ploughing on to change the things I can. And I am letting my values lead me. This book, this series of books, is important to me, is in line with my values. If I continue to build my resilience I believe that will see me through.

ACTivation Point!

SO ……………………….

How about YOU?

What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life? What can YOU do just for today to add some Compassion, some Kindness, into your life?

 Just for today I will ………………………

If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you? Is Compassion part of your life?

I am a student of ACT, I am learning about Compassion.  I am on a journey.  I would love you to join me.

With all good wishes

Corinne

ACT, its best friend COMPASSION, and GETTING BACK ON TRACK

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Q: I’ve lost my way. How do I get back on track?

A: Refer to your values. 

I have been on a detour, a rather long detour. It has certainly taken me away from blogging for a while. It is good to be back.

Where have I been? Well, I have still been writing, just not blogging. I am, as ever, writing a book, several books, a series of books. I have so many stashed away in the depths of the computer that I shall be hard-pressed to recover them all.

In the old days it was perhaps easier. A heap of dusty note-books at the bottom of the wardrobe, stuffed at the back of cupboards, lost on the bookshelves. Nowadays, for the less technically gifted amongst us, they have to be resurrected from forgotten computer files, strangely named titles, multiple locations, all very confusing.

Sometimes the very confusion is sufficiently daunting to preclude trying to make sense of it all again. Sometimes the detours are so long, so convoluting that it is easier to forget all that went before and just start again. Consigning old stuff to the trash is tempting.

And yet, coming back full circle doesn’t have to been a sign of failure. It can be a sign of re-commitment. Detours may not have been the straightest way to get from A to B, but they are useful. We will have learned things along the way. That means that arriving back where we started is not at all the same. We are not the same.

It is comforting to know that whilst we may not be the same, our values are. No matter where we are, irrespective of whatever wrong road we are taking, we can always get a correction. The moment that we refer to our values we can get back on track.

A word about compassion here. If we have lost our way, if we have been wandering around in the foothills, not even aware of the mountain to climb, let’s not be too hard on ourselves. In fact let’s not be hard on ourselves at all.

We are back now, and if we treat ourselves gently, with kindness and compassion, our future progress will be all the sweeter.

It’s official.  Compassion is good for you.

I wrote “FEELING ALL DISJOINTED” to remind me of that.

HOW ABOUT YOU?

  • Have you been lost?
  • How did you find your way back?
  • What can you share that might be of help to others?

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

POEM FOR TODAY

FEELING ALL DISJOINTED

Maybe we’ve been distracted, we’ve lost touch with things that count,

We’ve been lured into a detour, other things are paramount,

And now we’re feeling all disjointed, with awareness creeping in

That it’s time to re-align, and yet again start to begin.

To begin a new beginning, will it always be the same,

Will we never get the hang of playing the values driven game,

Where we’re looking to our values for the way that we should take,

Well, at least we finally can see this detour’s a mistake.

And so, let’s not be too despondent, for a detour helps us see

That the way that we are taking’s not quite right for you and me,

But it is useful for alignment, relocating from inside,

So if discomfort’s building up it’s time to get back in our stride,

And refer back to our values, for they’re constant, they don’t change,

So, if we’re feeling all disjointed it is we must re-arrange

‘Til our direction and our focus is adjusted bit by bit,

And we no-longer feel disjointed, for it’s all beginning to fit.

© Corinne Shields, 2017

If you enjoyed “FEELING ALL DISJOINTED” please pass it on, and do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

And just before you go …..

A final word from ACT, and its best friend COMPASSION ……..

Values are integral to ACT. When we are lost, feeling all disjointed, it is likely that we have strayed away from our values. When we re-align, put values at the heart of what we are doing, where we are going, then the path becomes clearer.

Sometimes taking a detour is good for us. When we get back on track it is usually with a re-commitment that this time we will follow “it”, whatever “it” is, through. For me “it” means actually resurrecting those computer files. “It” means turning all those lost books into something for others to see.

Another of the fundamental tenets of ACT is Commitment. ACT encourages us to commit to the things that we can change, the things that will help us to develop and become the best version of ourselves.

I am committing to self publishing my books. I am committing to learning the requisite skills and seeing it through. I have reached this point many times before. I have backed away many times before. I have taken the detour rather than the difficult path. This time I commit to doing things differently. My values have brought me back here. They haven’t changed. I hope I have. I hope that this time coming back full circle will be the launch pad for something new.

And, with a nod to compassion, I will treat myself kindly and gently in the process!

ACTivation Point!

SO ……………………….

How about YOU?

What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life? What can YOU do just for today to add some Compassion, some Kindness, into your life?

 Just for today I will ………………………

If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you? Is Compassion part of your life?

I am a student of ACT, I am learning about Compassion.  I am on a journey.  I would love you to join me.

With all good wishes

Corinne

ACT and Accomplishments, Values and Goals

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Q:  What can I do to make my life feel more meaningful and enjoyable?

A:  Acknowledge each accomplishment you make.  Don’t be in such a rush. 

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Accomplishments are strange things.  When we are very goal driven then we may have to wait a very long time for feelings of accomplishment and satisfaction.  If we equate accomplishment with a conclusion, a successful outcome, then the road towards it can seem both long and arduous.

It doesn’t have to be this way.  ACT reminds us that if we are focused on values instead of driven by goals then our lives will feel very different.  Yes we can have goals along the way, things, accomplishments if you like, that we can tick off as we go, but they are not the be all and end all.  Underneath there is something more profound, something unchanging and solid that underpins everything.  When we identify a value, something that really matters to us, and make that value central in our lives, then any action based on that value will feel right.

In other words we won’t have to wait for a conclusion before we feel a sense of accomplishment.  We will be able to feel it every step of the way because all of our actions will feel important.  Life feels very different when we live it from this perspective.

I wrote “ACCOMPLISHMENTS” to remind me of that.

HOW ABOUT YOU?

  • Do you have to wait a long time for a sense of accomplishment?
  • Do you think that living a value focused life might make a difference?
  • What can you share that might be of help to others?

Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

POEM FOR TODAY

ACCOMPLISHMENTS

 

Accomplishment’s a strange thing, it’s not always what we think,

Not so much about an ending, as the forging of a link,

A connection unimagined, a discovery so profound

That accomplishment has now become the breaking of new ground.

When it’s seen from this perspective motivation gathers pace,

Every step becomes significant, deserving of its place,

For when we are not so focused on conclusions lost from view

Then accomplishment’s potentially in everything we do.

And what a wondrous way to then proceed, each little step a gain,

Motivation’s flowing through us for now nothing is mundane,

Every link has an importance, there is not the same duress

For when we’re not fixed on an ending, we’re caught up in the process.

And so, let’s do ourselves a favour, let us claim all those rewards,

Let’s enjoy all those accomplishments that each fresh step affords,

And then as journey’s end’s approaching, we will know what made it great

Was that we treasured each accomplishment, we didn’t have to wait.

© Corinne Shields, 2017

If you enjoyed, “ACCOMPLISHMENTS” please pass it on, and do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

And just before you go …..

A final word from ACT …..

We do have a choice when it comes to deciding how best to lead our lives.  If we are overly goal driven then it is likely that life feels unduly fraught and full of tension a lot of the time.  If you think you might benefit from learning more about the values focused life then take a look at Russ Harris’ video which clearly differentiates between values and goals.

When I start to feel over-wrought it’s often because I am letting goals become too dominant and I am forgetting that values offer a gentler but more powerful alternative.  Head over to the video and see what you think.

ACTivation Point!

SO ……………………….

How about YOU?

What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life?

 Just for today I will ………………………

If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you?

I am a student of ACT.  I am on a journey.  I would love you to join me.

With all good wishes

Corinne

ACT and Holding Our Values Near

ACCEPTANCE AND COMMITMENT THERAPY (ACT) – AN ONLINE RESOURCE of inspirational quotes, poems and other act goodies!

Q:  What can I do when my world takes a knock?

A:  Take time to steady and turn to your values.

When unexpected things happen of course we are going to be momentarily shaken, shocked, delighted, horrified, excited etc.  Our emotional reaction will vary according to the event in question.  If we like it expect good reactions, if not, well we know the answer to that one!

The important thing to remember is that although we cannot stop the reaction from arising in the first place we can choose what happens next.  ACT reminds us that although we cannot avoid the first cut, we do not have to make it deeper.  Accepting the first reaction is not always easy.  When we are reeling, when our mind is in turmoil, when every fibre of our being is shouting, “NO!” acceptance may seem a million miles away.

We would be saints if we just rolled over and said, “Yes, Ok, I am fine with this.”  We are not saints, we are human beings, fallible, imperfect, wonderful human beings.  When unexpected things happen, particularly unwelcome unexpected things, this is the time to be kind to ourselves, to exercise the same compassion that we would extend to our very best friend.  This is also the time to turn to our values.  When everything else is in turmoil our values are our lifeline.  They are constant, they will not let us down.

Whilst we are absorbing the shock, whilst we are coming to the terms with the new what is, let’s do ourselves a favour.  In the midst of the mayhem we can find a way out.  Our values will guide us to new beginnings.

I wrote “HOLDING OUR VALUES NEAR” to remind me of that.

HOW ABOUT YOU?

  • Do you remember to turn to your values in times of trouble?
  • Have you revisited your values recently?  Is it time to pay them a visit?
  • What can you share that might be of help to others?

Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

POEM FOR TODAY


HOLDING OUR VALUES NEAR

 

Sometimes our mind’s in turmoil, there is so much going on,

Too much newness to assimilate, or something sudden gone,

An enthusiasm waning, or a disappointment new,

Something close to disappearing, something coming into view.

Yes, for now the landscape’s changing, and that really is the crux,

We may strive for equilibrium but everything’s in flux

And for the moment we must tolerate an unknown what will be,

So, let’s not fix upon an outcome, let us sit it out and see.

For what will happen in the future is not something we can know,

We may give it our best guesstimate, accepting even so

That predictions are notorious for being way off beam,

And even seeming drawbacks are not always what they seem.

And so, if Mind is in a turmoil and things seem for now unclear,

That’s the time to turn to values and to hold them very near,

For then we won’t be in a quandary, Mind rushing round disturbed,

Because when values drive our actions we need not be too perturbed.

© Corinne Shields, 2017

If you enjoyed, “HOLDING OUR VALUES NEAR” please pass it on, and do leave your comments.  I would love to hear from you.

And just before you go …..

A final word from ACT …..

When we are struggling with events in our lives, when we have lost touch with our values and are finding it hard to cope, the Six Core Processes of ACT offer us a wealth of choice.  What a tool box we have at our disposal.

If you want a swift reminder of what’s on offer there is a great overview at goodtherapy.org.  I visited today and I was so glad that I did.  It reminded me that even though I turn my back on one core process there are five more waiting in the wings!  Today it was this that resonated with me:

“Accepting one’s emotional experience can be described as the process of learning to experience the range of human emotions with a kind, open, and accepting perspective.”

I was so glad to be reminded of that today.  The first cut really can be the deepest if we don’t keep digging at it!

ACTivation Point!

SO ……………………….

How about YOU?

What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life?

 Just for today I will ………………………

If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you?

I am a student of ACT.  I am on a journey.  I would love you to join me.

With all good wishes

Corinne

ACT and Attitude

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Q:  What can I do when I can’t change what’s happening?

A:  Change your attitude!

Accepting what we cannot change and changing what we can is at the heart of ACT.  It is a wonderful way to clarify what action we should take, what action we can take.

Struggling against the impossible, the unchangeable is, ACT reminds us, a waste of our precious energy.  We can use that energy to make a positive difference elsewhere in our lives.

What ACT also reminds us about is the power of our attitude.  Accepting things we cannot change is not easy.  It can be terrifying, heart-breaking even, but there is something about acceptance that also brings a sense of release.  Surrender can be a peaceful thing, the final laying down of arms can be a beginning as well as an ending.

When we finally accept the things we cannot change we are always left with something we can.  That something is our attitude.  That is ours and ours alone.  We need never surrender that.  And a change of attitude has the power to change any event, no matter how unpleasant.

I wrote “ATTITUDE” to remind me of that.

HOW ABOUT YOU?

  • Have you found how a change of attitude can transform an event?
  • Are you able to make that space and choose how you will respond to something?
  • What can you share that might be of help to others?

Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

POEM FOR TODAY

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ATTITUDE

 

An attitude’s a wondrous thing, it frees us from events,

Makes a space where we can choose how of events we will make sense,

It’s a liberating feeling, when we know we have the power

To interpret each occurrence by the minute, by the hour.

We no-longer need to dread them, these events which random call,

Good or bad or just indifferent, we can now embrace them all

In a spirit of acceptance, what a great place to begin,

For when we give up our resistance we can seek the jewel within.

And there’ll always be a jewel, maybe murky, hidden from view,

Lurking in the far recesses of events now passing through,

But what glory for explorers who are willing to dig deep,

Sifting through the heaps of debris for the jewels they can reap.

And so next time an event floors us and we’re floundering on the ground

Let’s remember it’s our attitude can turn events around,

And though it maybe we’ll need patience ‘til we’re willing to begin,

There’ll be jewels to discover when our attitude kicks in.

© Corinne Shields, 2017

If you enjoyed, “ATTITUDE” please pass it on, and do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

And just before you go …..

A final word from ACT …..

When reality comes a calling and something unexpected, unwelcome and unpleasant hits us in the face it is hardly surprising that our first reactions are denial, resistance, anger and so forth.  This is normal and natural.  But there comes a point when refusal to give up these reactions becomes harmful.  Left unchecked they are likely to spoil our lives.

ACT reminds us that there is another more skilful way to respond.  When we are ready to accept the unacceptable, when we are willing to change our attitude then meaningful change can occur.  Things can get better.

Russ Harris has written a great book on this.  I have recommended it before, I am recommending it now and am sure will recommend it again.  It is a great read.

ACTivation Point!

SO ……………………….

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How about YOU?

What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life?

 Just for today I will ………………………

If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you?

I am a student of ACT.  I am on a journey.  I would love you to join me.

With all good wishes

Corinne

ACT and Shocks!

ACCEPTANCE AND COMMITMENT THERAPY (ACT) – AN ONLINE RESOURCE of inspirational quotes, poems and other act goodies!

Q:  I’m in shock!  What can I do?

A:  Use it wisely.   Take stock and reaffirm your values.

I suppose some shocks are pleasant, of course they are, the surprise present, the unexpected encounter, the lucky break, but generally speaking shocks have a more sinister implication.

In my book a shock is more likely to be unpleasant and unwelcome, something that comes out of the blue to shake my complacency and shunt me out of my comfort zone.

If you are the same then you probably view shocks in the same way, unwelcome occurrences that rock your world, at least for a while.  Unless we are pretty extraordinary human beings, and there are some of those around, first reactions to shock are pretty standard.  They may include some or all of the following:

disbelief, fear, anxiety, denial, irritability, nightmares, flashbacks, numbness, detachment, guilt, shame, helplessness, the list goes on!

All of these feelings are unpleasant, none of them are feelings we would want to encourage, but nonetheless in ACT terms, “if we have them they are already here.”  Struggling against them just increases our emotional pain.  Accepting what we cannot change is a tall order, especially in the first after math of a shock, but when we are willing to do so then we are on the road to something different.

That something different can include using a shock in a more constructive way, as a chance to take stock and reaffirm our values.

I wrote “SHOCKS” to remind me of that.

HOW ABOUT YOU?

  • How do you cope with shocks?
  • Are you able to use them constructively, as a way to reaffirm your values?
  • What can you share that might be of help to others?

Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

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POEM FOR TODAY

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SHOCKS

 

Sometimes a something shakes us and it comes as such a shock

That we’re reminded we are overdue some time for taking stock,

And that because we’ve been too busy, too complacent or too low

We haven’t reassessed if where we are is where we want to go.

Maybe life’s become so crowded we forget what we once knew

That when we settle in the stillness values tell us what to do,

And that a little readjustment can a lot of difference make,

And when we let our values lead us then a surer step we take.

It’s a shame this sense of knowing isn’t with us constantly,

How that it often takes a shock to wake us from our reverie,

But although a shock’s unwelcome it can serve us very well

If we allow it to speak to us and we heed its warning bell.

And so if we are still astounded, still dumbfounded or amazed,

Let us use this shock occurrence as a chance to reappraise

If the route that we are choosing is the same route that we chose

When we let our values lead us, long before this shock arose.

© Corinne Shields, 2016

If you enjoyed “SHOCKS” please pass it on, and do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

And just before you go …..

A final word from ACT …..

In ACT terms leading a meaningful life means discovering or rediscovering our values and then taking actions which are in line with them.  This can be easier said than done!  Sometimes we have strayed so far from our values that we cannot easily remember what they are.  Sometimes we are so goal orientated that we mix up values and goals.  Doing this leads to a very different experience of life.

If we want to discover or re-discover our values there is a very good article at Working with Act.  It is entitled “Finding True North:  How to Clarify Values” and it includes some helpful exercises for “finding true north.”  I loved it!

ACTivation Point!

SO ……………………….

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How about YOU?

What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life?

 Just for today I will ………………………

If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you?

I am a student of ACT.  I am on a journey.  I would love you to join me.

With all good wishes

Corinne