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Q: What’s so wrong with comfort zones?
A: A comfort zones’s a prison if it’s one we have outgrown
Oh how we love our comfort zones. After all they are so comfortable, so reassuring, so predictable. We know where we are, there are no surprises. Oh yes, we do venture out sometimes but it is always nice to know that if the going gets tough we can retreat to the old familiar. Taking chances, exploring the unknown, risking failure may not come easily to some of us. So we decide it’s better not to try. We miss opportunities, our lives get smaller.
Sometimes though, something happens unexpectedly and, like it or not, we are unceremoniously turfed out of our comfort zone and that can be extremely uncomfortable. There may be no way back or, even if there is, it may be that the comfort zone just isn’t comfortable anymore. A comfort zone once breached is never the same.
In ACT terms comfort zones are pretty dangerous. Change is the stuff of life and it doesn’t do to get too comfortable, too complacent. We are all likely to get turfed out of our comfort zones sooner or later. Being human it goes with the territory. How we deal with it, ah that’s the thing. In ACT we are encouraged to accept the uncomfortable feelings that inevitably accompany change as being natural and normal. We are encouraged to step out of our comfort zones. This is how we create a vital, rich and meaningful life.
How about you?
- How do you feel about comfort zones?
- How do they operate in your life?
- What can you share that might be of help to others?
Please do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.
POEM FOR TODAY
Maybe we’re on the brink of an exciting sort of thing
We can feel our brains start buzzing and a hum is happening
We catch glimpses of a future full of promise clear and bright
‘Til a little whisper warns us that things may not turn out right.
It’s the dampener we’re used to, the doom merchant we know well,
How he loves to pour cold water and to sound the warning bell
To remind us that excitement is a risky route to take,
Heaven knows we might fail, God forbid make a mistake.
So it’s easy to be thwarted, it is simpler to retreat,
To take comfort in a comfort zone than hazard a defeat
And for a while we’re spared those feelings that accompany the unknown,
But a comfort zone’s a prison if it’s one that we’ve outgrown.
And so the next time we are starting an exciting kind of thing
And we feel our brains start buzzing and a hum is happening
Let’s resist that old doom merchant and refuse him to appease,
Because we can’t know what will happen ‘til that risk we’ve dared to seize.
© Corinne Shields, 2015
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And just before you go ………
A final word from ACT
Russ Harris is one of my favourite ACT authors. He has many best-sellers to his name and has been instrumental in making ACT accessible to the mass market. “The Happiness Trap” is perhaps his best known book and rightly so. It is wonderfully entertaining and gives the reader a comprehensive overview of Acceptance Commitment Therapy.
However, it is “The Reality Slap” that I found personally the most illuminating. Russ Harris tells his own story and how a personal trauma turfed him, an ACT guru, unceremoniously out of his own comfort zone. What happened next inspired the book and I recommend it to you. It is a wonderful read.
Bad things do happen to good people, life does rear up and slap us in the face and comfort zones, in the end, do turn out to be precarious, so best not to get too comfortable!
Which leads us to the ……
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I am a student of ACT. I am on a journey. I would love you to join me.
With all good wishes.