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Q: What can I do when my world takes a knock?
A: Take time to steady and turn to your values.
When unexpected things happen of course we are going to be momentarily shaken, shocked, delighted, horrified, excited etc. Our emotional reaction will vary according to the event in question. If we like it expect good reactions, if not, well we know the answer to that one!
The important thing to remember is that although we cannot stop the reaction from arising in the first place we can choose what happens next. ACT reminds us that although we cannot avoid the first cut, we do not have to make it deeper. Accepting the first reaction is not always easy. When we are reeling, when our mind is in turmoil, when every fibre of our being is shouting, “NO!” acceptance may seem a million miles away.
We would be saints if we just rolled over and said, “Yes, Ok, I am fine with this.” We are not saints, we are human beings, fallible, imperfect, wonderful human beings. When unexpected things happen, particularly unwelcome unexpected things, this is the time to be kind to ourselves, to exercise the same compassion that we would extend to our very best friend. This is also the time to turn to our values. When everything else is in turmoil our values are our lifeline. They are constant, they will not let us down.
Whilst we are absorbing the shock, whilst we are coming to the terms with the new what is, let’s do ourselves a favour. In the midst of the mayhem we can find a way out. Our values will guide us to new beginnings.
I wrote “HOLDING OUR VALUES NEAR” to remind me of that.
HOW ABOUT YOU?
- Do you remember to turn to your values in times of trouble?
- Have you revisited your values recently? Is it time to pay them a visit?
- What can you share that might be of help to others?
Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.
THOUGHT FOR TODAY
POEM FOR TODAY
HOLDING OUR VALUES NEAR
Sometimes our mind’s in turmoil, there is so much going on,
Too much newness to assimilate, or something sudden gone,
An enthusiasm waning, or a disappointment new,
Something close to disappearing, something coming into view.
Yes, for now the landscape’s changing, and that really is the crux,
We may strive for equilibrium but everything’s in flux
And for the moment we must tolerate an unknown what will be,
So, let’s not fix upon an outcome, let us sit it out and see.
For what will happen in the future is not something we can know,
We may give it our best guesstimate, accepting even so
That predictions are notorious for being way off beam,
And even seeming drawbacks are not always what they seem.
And so, if Mind is in a turmoil and things seem for now unclear,
That’s the time to turn to values and to hold them very near,
For then we won’t be in a quandary, Mind rushing round disturbed,
Because when values drive our actions we need not be too perturbed.
© Corinne Shields, 2017
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And just before you go …..
A final word from ACT …..
When we are struggling with events in our lives, when we have lost touch with our values and are finding it hard to cope, the Six Core Processes of ACT offer us a wealth of choice. What a tool box we have at our disposal.
If you want a swift reminder of what’s on offer there is a great overview at goodtherapy.org. I visited today and I was so glad that I did. It reminded me that even though I turn my back on one core process there are five more waiting in the wings! Today it was this that resonated with me:
“Accepting one’s emotional experience can be described as the process of learning to experience the range of human emotions with a kind, open, and accepting perspective.”
I was so glad to be reminded of that today. The first cut really can be the deepest if we don’t keep digging at it!
How about YOU?
What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life?
Just for today I will ………………………
If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you?
I am a student of ACT. I am on a journey. I would love you to join me.
With all good wishes