ACCEPTANCE AND COMMITMENT THERAPY (ACT) – An Online Resource
Q: When will I finally get where I want to go?
A: You are already here!
The Dalai Lama said it well, didn’t he? Well he would, wouldn’t he?
“Man lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived.”
Because we forget that the present moment is the only place where we can actually do our living.
ACT is very clear about this. Life is always lived in the present moment. We can’t go back and change the past, we can’t go forward and control the future. Yes, reflecting on the past and planning for the future are valuable activities and helpful, most of the time, but we are in trouble when we fuse with the past or future and lose contact with the present.
So, if we spend our lives worrying about the future or living in the past as if they are really here, we have turned our back on the present moment. If we spend our time planning and projecting a wonderful tomorrow or looking back with regret at better times now gone, we have turned our back on the present moment. This is not good news! Each time we do this our opportunity to live well in the present is lost; and many of us do this a lot!
Sometimes too, we can become so dazzled by the idea of better times ahead that we don’t bother much with the present moment. It doesn’t seem to measure up so we disregard it. We are so focused on the destination that we forget to pay attention to the journey, and we miss out big-time. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we were able to see that there is no destination, because wherever we are is the destination. If we could adopt that mind-set then there would be no more waiting for better times because they would already be here, and we would act accordingly.
So, in ACT terms that doesn’t mean that we need to stop thinking about the future or the past but what it does mean is that we should try to become more flexible. Choose to be in the present when that is needed, to be in the future when planning is required, or to be in the past when that works best.
Simple??? Not at all. But worth the effort.
I wrote “THE DESTINATION DAZZLE” to remind me of that.
HOW ABOUT YOU?
- How good are you at staying in the present moment?
- How do you cope with thoughts that drag you back to the past or try to lure you into the future?
- What can you share that might be of help to others?
Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.
TIP FOR TODAY
POEM FOR TODAY
THE DESTINATION DAZZLE
Let’s not be dazzled by destination when the journey will suffice,
Nor trade in a passing pleasure, for it won’t come our way twice,
For when we are over focused on whatever lies afar,
We are blind to all the treasures that are scattered where we are.
Oh it’s easy to be hijacked by a future seemingly
That much shinier and finer than where we are presently,
But it’s only an illusion, just a dream that we have spun,
It’s the present we must look to for our moments in the sun.
And the destination dazzle does have power to eclipse
All those lovely little moments as it plays its brinkmanships
Saying, “This is insufficient, better times lie just ahead,”
But if we don’t call its bluff ‘twill say it still on our death-bed!
And so let’s put it in perspective, let’s allow ourselves to dream
But futures come with a health warning, they are rarely what they seem,
Whereas the present has the power to transform lives instantly
When we see our destination’s everywhere we happen to be.
© Corinne Shields, 2015
If you enjoyed, “THE DESTINATION DAZZLE” please pass it on, and do please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.
And just before you go …..
A final word from ACT ……….
D J Moran, PHD, has posted an excellent video entitled “Demystifying ACT – The Present Moment.
I found it really interesting and I am sure that you will too. He talks about how research shows that most of us spend approximately 47% of our waking hours anywhere other than in the present moment. We are, to quote Moran, “there and then, as opposed to here and now.” And, of course when we are “there and then” we are missing out on the opportunity to do something meaningful “here and now!”
Which brings us to the ACTivation Point!
How about YOU?
What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life?
Just for today I will ………………………
If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you?
I am a student of ACT. I am on a journey. I would love you to join me.
With all good wishes