ACT and Complacency

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Q:  I have  been too complacent for too long.  Now what?

A:  If you are ready to change, ACT principles will help you.

Complacency is one of the more dangerous emotions.  It can be snatched away at anytime and so we would do well to treat it with suspicion.  It is a false friend.  Usually we do not even know when we are suffering from complacency.  When things are going well there is a tendency to think they will always go well, but we should know better.  Life is all about change.  Nothing stays the same.

Nevertheless, that doesn’t stop the pain when we are suddenly shaken out of our complacency.  Events come to rock us, to shake us awake, and we can be left reeling in their aftermath.  It is in that aftermath that we can look back at that complacency for what it was, a risky, fragile thing.  This is the time for re-building.  This is where ACT can help us.   ACT is built on surer foundations than shaky complacency.

I wrote “PRECARIOUS COMPLACENCY” to remind me of that.

HOW ABOUT YOU?

  • Have you come to realise that complacency is a false friend?
  • Are you ready to explore ACT for surer foundations?
  • What can you share that might be of help to others?

Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

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PRECARIOUS COMPLACENCY

 

Maybe we’re feeling battered, tossed about ferociously,

As life deals to us its hammer blows quite indiscriminately,

And we didn’t see them coming, in blind ignorance we bathed

Until it seemed that life decided we should not escape unscathed.

It may be that we resisted, we resented, felt betrayed,

As we railed against injustice and the penalty we paid

For a bit of sweet complacency, that risky, fragile thing,

Now it’s lying round in tatters and we’re suffering its sting.

It maybe that life felt good then, we were smug then, unaware

That precarious complacency could vanish in thin air,

Leaving us to make adjustments, come to terms with what we’ve lost,

But it’s likely in the meantime we’ll feel battered, torn and tossed.

And that’s just the way it is now, there’s no shame, and there’s no blame,

We’re just feeling what we’re feeling, we won’t always feel the same,

And it may be good to name it, this is anger, this is fear,

There’s no point in a denial, if we feel it, then it’s here.

But it won’t be here forever, if we give it time ‘twill go,

So right now, whilst it is visiting we could it get to know,

Where is it now located, and how does it manifest?

Yes, such knowledge can be scary but sometimes knowledge is best.

And so, let’s not deny emotion, let us be prepared to meet

With a feeling that’s arising, sometimes bitter, sometimes sweet,

And if we can gain perspective, from a feeling point of view,

We’ll see who we are is permanent, whilst feelings just pass through.

© Corinne Shields, 2016

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And just before you go …..

A final word from ACT …..

Complacency can feel like a lovely warm comfort blanket, that’s why we love it so much.  It makes us feel safe, except we’re not, not really.

Change is almost a given these days.  Increasing job insecurity, an unpredictable economy, turbulent world events, anything can happen at any time, but the one thing that remains constant is that those who deal with change on a regular basis as opposed to those who don’t, will most likely be able to deal with that change more effectively.

Complacency robs us of the chance to develop those skills.  Complacency tends to nip in the bud any potential for change and consequently when change does occur it is a big shock to the system.

ACT is not about complacency, ACT is about change, development, growth, personal fulfilment.  None of these are available to us when we are complacent.  So next time we are shaken out of our complacency let’s not look on it as a loss, which it is not, let us look at it as an opportunity for growth, which it is.

If you are ready to ACTivate your life then the book of the same name is a good read.  I love it!

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ACTivation Point!

SO ……………………….

How about YOU?

What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life?

 Just for today I will ………………………

If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you?

I am a student of ACT.  I am on a journey.  I would love you to join me.

With all good wishes

Corinne

ACT and Healthy Options

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Q:  What can I do in the midst of turbulent events?

A:  Choose a healthy option!

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Even in the midst of turmoil and uncertainty we have a choice to choose a healthy option.   Sometimes it doesn’t seem so.   Sometimes we are so overwhelmed by events that we forget that we always do have a choice.  We may not be able to change an event but we can choose how we react to it; we may not be able to alter a circumstance but we can choose our attitude towards it.

ACT is very keen to remind us that it is not so much what we view as right or wrong that will make a difference, but rather what is the most effective action we can take.   What will work for us, what will move us towards a desired outcome, what actions are most in line with our values, this is what matters in ACT.   ACT also reminds us that we are not just our thoughts, we are more than our stories.  Learning to recognise this helps us to create a space, to defuse.  Defusion is a healthy option.

I wrote “HEALTHY OPTIONS ” to remind me of that.

HOW ABOUT YOU?

  • Are you able to choose healthy options?
  • How is defusion helping you to cope with difficult thoughts?
  • What can you share that might be of help to others?

Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

POEM FOR TODAY

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HEALTHY OPTIONS

 

It may be we are scattered, there is so much going on,

Mind goes mad amongst the mayhem, something’s starting, something’s gone,

And we’re drowning in uncertainty where certainty once reigned,

And ‘twill take a bit of time before composure is regained.

Oh Mind loves to have illusion of a being in control,

And dislikes it when it’s challenged or cast in a minor role,

When the concepts it’s constructed are now threatened in some way,

Like someone has torn their roots out and they lie in disarray.

Yes, it takes a bit of time before realities sink in,

Before the winds of change can rearrange and healing can begin,

And there’s no place for impatience and the turmoil that it makes,

We demand that we be healed but healing takes the time it takes.

And so the more effective action is to take a bit of time,

Let Mind go about its business as it digs amongst the grime

Of a circumstance unwanted, for we still are free to choose

To select a healthy option, and we do when we defuse.

© Corinne Shields, 2016

If you enjoyed, “HEALTHY OPTIONS” please pass it on, and do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

And just before you go …..

A final word from ACT …..

Learning some defusion techiques can stand us in good stead when troublesome thoughts come to visit.

ACT is not concerned with challenging or changing a thought, it is not in the business of trying to stop thoughts arising.  What ACT is interested in is helping us to develop a different relationship with our thoughts, to see ourself as the Thinker distinct from the thoughts that we are creating.

When we can do this then we will be less in thrall to our thoughts, less inclined to be bossed about them, less likely to take them so seriously.  They are only thoughts after all.

ACT often uses metaphors as teaching tools, to help us to see things more clearly.   I particularly like the metaphor of the playground bully.  This really helped me to view my troublesome thoughts in a different way and to see how treating them more skilfully would lessen their grip on me.
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The playground is fenced in and the children have to learn to live with the bully. This bully uses threats, mocking and abusive words to upset his victims. We can’t stop our thoughts, but perhaps we can react to them in a different way, as these victims show us.
Victim 1 – believes the bully (the thoughts), becomes distressed, and reacts automatically. The bully sees this as great entertainment and will carry on targeting this victim. This is how we normally respond to our thoughts.

Victim 2 – challenges the bully, and bully eventually gives up on this victim.

Victim 3 – acknowledges then ignores the bully, changing focus of attention, and the bully soon gives up.

For more defusion techniques and useful metaphors head over to getselfhelp.co.uk.  There is some really useful information there.

ACTivation Point!

SO ……………………….

How about YOU?

What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life?

 Just for today I will ………………………

If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you?

I am a student of ACT.  I am on a journey.  I would love you to join me.

With all good wishes

Corinne

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

ACT and Mood Swings

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Q:  How can I cope with my mood swings?

A:  Give them space to come and go and choose a valued action.

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Mood swings are part of the human condition.  If we are fortunate then we will be blessed with proportionately more “good” moods than “bad” moods, but we can’t count on it!  Moods have a mind of their own!

Of course we would prefer to feel happy rather than sad, up-beat rather than down-beat, optimistic rather than pessimistic?  It’s a no-brainer isn’t it?  And yet the chances are that we will feel all of these moods, “good” and “bad” pretty frequently.  And what is more, it is equally likely that we won’t get to choose them.  They will just appear, seemingly out of the blue, alarmingly at the most inappropriate times.  Remember moods have a mind of their own!

ACT reminds us though that moods are fleeting, both “good” and “bad”, they are only passing through.  Sadly, we can’t hang on to the “good” moods; happily, the “bad” moods won’t last either.  When we remember this it makes it easier to accept our moods, give them space to come and go, and choose a valued action. We can’t do much about our moods but we can do a lot about taking an action that will enrich our lives.  We don’t need to wait “to be in the mood” either.  We can just get on with it.

I wrote “MOOD SWINGS” to remind me of that.

HOW ABOUT YOU?

  • How do you cope with your mood swings?
  • Are you able to view them as transitory, only passing through, and choose a valued action?
  • What can you share that might be of help to others?

Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

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MOOD SWINGS

 

Sometimes we’re full of gusto, overflow with energy,

And sometimes we are depleted, think, “What’s happening to me?

Yesterday the world was sparkling and I was sparkling too,

But now the sparkle’s disappeared so what am I to do?”

Well of course we could explore it, that’s a cunning sort of plan,

‘Stead of trying to resist it we could do a body scan,

Watch the heaviness pervading, feel the aching in our bones,

Listen to what our Mind is saying in accusatory tones.

For it’s a fact that our mood changes, no two days are quite the same,

So to try to tie a mood down is at best a loser’s game,

But if we are willing to live with it and to simply give it space,

Go about our daily business, it will shift at its own pace.

And we won’t have made it master, we will not have crowned it king,

We’ll have proven to ourselves that we can live with a mood swing,

We can select a valued action, never mind we’re feeling flat,

Because a mood is only fleeting and there’s more to us than that.

© Corinne Shields, 2016

If you enjoyed, “MOOD SWINGS” please pass it on, and do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

And just before you go …..

A final word from ACT …..

Mood swings vary in their intensity.   Bipolar disorder, also known as Manic Depressive Illness, is characterised by severe mood swings from intense, manic ‘highs’, to depressive ‘lows’.  Hypomania is typically milder but both can have a devastating impact on people’s lives.  Even at the less extreme end of the scale normal mood swings can affect our lives adversely.

Managing mood swings more effectively is bound to be beneficial.  There is an interesting article at The Academy of Cognitive Therapy that you might want to check out.  If mood swings are creating problems in your life head over and give it a read.

ACTivation Point!

SO ……………………….

How about YOU?

What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life?

 Just for today I will ………………………

If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you?

I am a student of ACT.  I am on a journey.  I would love you to join me.

With all good wishes

Corinne

ACT and Becoming a Hero

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Q:  How can I get over my fear?

A:  Become a hero!

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When we are facing difficult or unfamiliar situations it is natural to feel anxious, nervous, even afraid.  We are pre-programmed that way and it is what has kept us safe over the ages, it is how our species has survived to tell the tale.

It follows, therefore, that when we have these uncomfortable feelings, rather than trying to avoid them or deny them we would do better to acknowledge them, thank them even for trying to keep us safe, and then carry them with us as we take positive action.

ACT talks a lot about “experiential avoidance” and cites it as being a number one culprit for much that we feel goes wrong in our lives.  When we have uncomfortable feelings it is easier, much easier to use them as an excuse to avoid doing what we don’t feel like doing anyway.  Although that may make us feel better in the short term, ACT reminds us that in the longer term we are missing out two-fold.  Firstly, we don’t develop skills that would help us to tolerate and learn from internal unpleasant events, and secondly we miss out on all the good stuff we could do and the confidence we could build by doing it.

No one denies that uncomfortable feelings are unpleasant, but when we understand where they come from and why they are there we can maybe use them in a more productive way.  Using them doesn’t mean we’re losing them, but it does mean that we are not letting them stop us doing things that in the long term could make our lives richer and more meaningful.

If we can do this then bit by bit we will become more like the hero that we would like to be.

I wrote “BECOMING A HERO” to remind me of that.

HOW ABOUT YOU?

  • How do you cope with uncomfortable feelings?
  • What strategies do you use to help you to act even when you don’t want to?
  • What can you share that might be of help to others?

Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

POEM FOR TODAY

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BECOMING A HERO

 

Have we got the guts to do it, to step into the unknown?

Find the courage, if it’s needed, to move forward there alone

And be tolerant of strangeness as the customary declines,

Become a stranger in a country where we cannot read the signs.

There’s a multitude of reasons why we wash up in this place,

Some may be of our own choosing, but sometimes we’ll have to face

Situations most unwelcome we would rather far not meet,

But can we still return to where we were or is there no retreat?

And if retreating’s not an option what are we supposed to do,

Find a hidey hole to cower in and hope that help comes through,

Or can we be a little bolder, accept fear is here to stay

And if we’re going forward hand in hand it won’t get in our way.

And then despite our own misgivings we will get to make a choice,

Be like pioneers of yesteryear with reason to rejoice,

Because although the path was arduous and we were oft afraid

We learned that heroes aren’t born fearless, it is out of fear they’re made.

And so let’s treat our fear more gently, let’s not look on it with scorn,

But remember that a hero’s shaped, a hero’s not just born,

And then when fear is coursing through us we can choose how we react,

And if we want to be a hero, then despite our fear we’ll act.

© Corinne Shields, 2016

If you enjoyed, “BECOMING A HERO” please pass it on, and do leave your comments.  I would love to hear from you.

And just before you go …..

A final word from ACT …..

“Experiential avoidance” is such a key concept in ACT, that it is well worth trying to get our heads around it, even though it can be quite difficult to understand, at least I found it that way!

There are plenty of great resources on-line to help and one that I enjoyed was aptly named:

“Understanding Experiential Avoidance”

The article is to be found at thecareerpsychologist.com and shows how experiential avoidance spreads its tentacles in all sorts of places.

“Experiential avoidance is so common to everyone experiencing career paralysis and yet so unheard of that it needs some closer attention.  Here’s the formal definition:

“Attempts to avoid thoughts, feelings, memories, physical sensations, and other internal experiences even when doing so creates harm in the long-run.”  Hayes, Strosahl, Wilson, 1999

If you want to read more then head over to thecareerpsychologist.com.

It makes for good reading whatever stage of our lives we are at!

ACTivation Point!

SO ……………………….

 

How about YOU?

What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life?

 Just for today I will ………………………

If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you?

I am a student of ACT.  I am on a journey.  I would love you to join me.

With all good wishes

Corinne

ACT and Crises

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Q:  What do I do in the midst of a crisis?

A:  Keep calm and carry on!

Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.

Sometimes life comes up to shock us!  It may be personal, it may be political, or the personal may have become political and vice versa.

We may not have seen it coming or maybe we did, and it shocked us anyway!

Whatever and however it happened, if we are in the midst of something that feels like a crisis it is likely we are not feeling very comfortable.  Fears of the unknown are natural, resistance to something we view as unwelcome is understandable, we are in shock!

At times like these ACT reminds us to be kind to ourselves, to treat ourselves with patience and compassion.  The shock will pass, if we let it; the uncomfortable feelings will move through, if we give them time and space; if the world, our world has re-arranged, we will catch up with it, in time.

Allowing ourselves to accept and experience all of our feelings just as they are without struggle may seem counter-intuitive.  Human beings are, after all, pre-programmed to move away from what they don’t like and towards what they do, but ACT is clear on this.  Accepting what we cannot change, uncomfortable feelings in this case, and changing what we can, maybe taking a valued action, will serve us better than wasting precious energy on futile struggle.

I wrote “A COMPLETE HUMAN BEING” to remind me of that.

HOW ABOUT YOU?

  • How have you dealt effectively with a crisis?
  • How has ACT helped you to keep calm and carry on?
  • What can you share that might be of help to others?

Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

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A COMPLETE HUMAN BEING

Sometimes a something happens and its impact is so great

That we can’t internalise it, nor expect it to abate,

For the moment we’re all rawness and all we can do is hurt,

There’s no place that we can hide in, we cannot this pain avert.

So if we cannot escape it then what are we meant to do?

It could be we’d best accept it and allow it to move through,

For although it’s only natural to wish we could repair

This event that’s come to floor us, it’s not going anywhere.

For this something is a fact now, it’s unchangeable, and so

All the wishing in the world is not enough to make it go,

For we’re in a new reality, and though we it resist

When we wake up in the morning this new thing will still exist.

And so for now all that is possible may be that we endure

And accept the pain we’re feeling, for right now ‘tis premature

To expect to circumvent it or reduce it in some way,

For if we have loved what now is lost that is the price we pay.

And this journey we are facing is not one we want to take,

But if we are in a state of loss ‘tis one we’ll have to make,

And if we would find some value in the face of what we’re seeing,

It will be in being prepared to be a complete human being.

© Corinne Shields, 2016

If you enjoyed, “A COMPLETE HUMAN BEING” please pass it on, and do leave your comments.  I would love to hear from you.

And just before you go …..

A final word from ACT …..

Bearing in mind the human predisposition to move away from difficult and distressing things and towards attractive and appealing things, we do well to remember that although this often makes sense in the external world it often works less well in the internal world of our thoughts and feelings.

In ACT terms this means that avoidance of, or struggle with difficult thoughts and feelings is not the most effective way of behaving.  ACT teaches us other, more effective ways and amongst them is Mindfulness.

I came across a really interesting article written by Melissa O’Brien at everyday-mindfulness.org entitled:

“How to Use Mindfulness to Work with Difficult Emotions: A Six Step Process”

Melissa shows us how we can “learn to turn our difficult emotions into our greatest teachers and sources of strength”.

Her Six Step Process for mindfully dealing with difficult emotions is well worth a read.

ACTivation Point!

SO ……………………….

 

How about YOU?

What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life?

 Just for today I will ………………………

If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you?

I am a student of ACT.  I am on a journey.  I would love you to join me.

With all good wishes

Corinne

ACT and Setbacks

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Q:  How do I overcome set-backs?

A:  Pick yourself up, dust yourself down and start all over again!

Nobody likes failure, nobody welcomes setbacks, nobody wants to fall short.  And yet, being human it is highly likely that we will fail, we will face setbacks, we will fall short.  We are human, we are not perfect, we will make mistakes.

Whether we are on a mission to lose weight, stop smoking, stay sober, stay clean, it is likely that at some time or another we will go off the diet, we will have another cigarette, we will fall off the wagon, we will have a slip.

How we deal with it, that’s the thing.  The great thing about ACT is that it reminds us that in the health domain, it is natural to experience setbacks, but these setbacks are only a problem when they cause us to move away from our values.

A slip does not have to become a relapse.  We can use a setback as fuel to get us back on the right track.  If we look to our values then they can help us to leave the slip behind as we choose effective actions in the here and now that will move us towards the desired outcome, to becoming the person we want to be.

I wrote “THE LONG HAUL” to remind me of that.

HOW ABOUT YOU?

  • Have you been able to learn from setbacks?
  • How have your values helped you to move on from a slip?
  • What can you share that might be of help to others?

Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

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THE LONG HAUL

So it’s OK we have a set-back, it’s OK we fall from grace,

Because we’re in it for the long haul, we’re not in it for the race,

So it won’t matter if we stumble, it won’t matter if we fall,

Because as long as we keep trying then we’ll keep on walking tall.

If we base our lives on values, there’s an underlying seam

That runs deep beneath the mishaps, shining like a laser beam,

It will steady us through failure, make short shrift of goals we’ve missed,

And remind us life is more than things we’re ticking off a list.

And so if we have had a set-back let’s not see it as defeat,

Let us use the fuel within it our next challenges to meet,

And though we may be disappointed let’s look long enough to find

What it is we truly value and then failure’s left behind.

Because already we’ve an option here and now to make a choice,

We can select another action that will make our soul rejoice,

And then the set-back that we’ve suffered will soon sink without a trace,

Because we’re in it for the long haul, we’re not in it for the race.

© Corinne Shields, 2016

If you enjoyed, “THE LONG HAUL” please pass it on, and do leave your comments.  I would love to hear from you.

And just before you go …..

A final word from ACT …..

At the moment I am on a mission to lose weight.  I am often on a mission to lose weight and sadly, that means that more often than not my mission fails.

Like many others I have tried a multitude of diets, become obsessed by this or that exercise plan and succeeded at varying times to shed the stones.  What I have not been able to do though is to maintain the weight loss.  Sooner or later, generally sooner, the pounds pile back on and I am back where I started, usually with interest!

So I am willing to give ACT a try.  It has worked for me in other domains so let’s see if it can work its magic with weight loss.

I am putting my trust in

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So far I like what I read, but reading isn’t going to be enough.  We all know what we need to do to lose weight but knowing is not enough.  If it were then nobody would have a weight problem!  This book uses the psychological science of ACT to help us to establish a healthy relationship with food and promises to show us how to control our weight without the stress of dieting.  Sounds good to me!

I will keep you posted about my progress.

ACTivation Point!

SO ……………………….

 

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How about YOU?

What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life?

 Just for today I will ………………………

If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you?

I am a student of ACT.  I am on a journey.  I would love you to join me.

With all good wishes

Corinne

ACT and Valued Action

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Q:  What can I do when I’m feeling fed up?

A:   Do something meaningful!

Taking action when we don’t feel like it is at the very heart of ACT.  In fact it is so central to it that it gives it its very name.

ACT or Acceptance and Commitment Therapy is about just that.  Accepting what we cannot change and committing to take an action in line with our values is what this Therapy is all about.

In order to change our lives for the better, in order to bring about meaningful change, ACT encourages us to develop a different relationship with our thoughts and feelings.  When we start living our lives based on our values rather than our moods things start to improve.  Why?

Because when we see ourselves as more than our thoughts and our feelings we can make some space, what ACT calls Defusion, and watch our thoughts come and go.  Defusion frees us up to do things that are important to us.  This is what will help us to create a meaningful life, so that when we look back there will be something to see.

I wrote “SOMETHING TO SEE” to remind me of that.

HOW ABOUT YOU?

  • Are you learning to turn to your values rather than letting fleeting moods dictate your day?
  • What defusion techniques do you find helpful?
  • What can you share that might be of help to others?

Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

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SOMETHING TO SEE

When lifetimes are ending and years are lived through

We won’t ask how we felt, we’ll ask, “What did we do?”

What activities flourished, what did we achieve?

Did we make any difference, give more than receive?

Oh our feelings are with us each step of the way,

But did they know their place or were they holding sway,

Did we learn to live with them, take them in our stride?

Or did we let them rule us and push us aside?

If we’re asking these questions it isn’t too late

To establish new orders, re-negotiate,

And decide from now on we won’t be shoved along

By a feeling that’s fleeting, no matter how strong.

For a feeling is flimsy whilst action is real,

We can choose what to do, we can’t choose how to feel,

And a lifetime of action has something to show

Whilst a lifetime of feeling is lived in limbo.

So let’s look for an action and do it right now,

Irrespective of feelings let’s act anyhow,

For we find when we’re living life more flexibly

That when we’re looking back there is something to see.

 © Corinne Shields, 2016

If you enjoyed, “SOMETHING TO SEE” please pass it on, and do leave your comments.  I would love to hear from you.

And just before you go …..

A final word from ACT …..

Acting when we don’t feel like it isn’t easy and it isn’t guaranteed to make us feel better.  What it is guaranteed to do, however, is to help us to build a more meaningful life.  Meaningful lives are built on meaningful actions not fleeting feelings, and though we can’t choose how we feel, that is beyond us, we can choose what we do.

Having and exercising that choice is a great boon.  It helps us to spring the trap of difficult feelings that can rob us of our joy.  It is the beginning of freedom.

For more on the benefits of the psychological flexibility that is at the heart of ACT I enjoyed an article at harleytherapy.co.uk.

It can be difficult to understand what psychological flexibility is and isn’t and I particularly liked their explanation.

Perhaps an easy way to understand what psychological flexibility is, is to first look at what it is not. 

The main contributors to psychological inflexibility are:

  • living in the past or the future instead of the present moment
  • being “stuck” and unable to let go of thoughts, beliefs, emotions, and sensations that cause suffering (called being ‘fused’ to them)
  • always trying to avoid your unpleasant thoughts, memories, and feelings, hoping that they will, somehow, go away
  • being addicted to an idea of yourself, or ‘self-concept’, always telling the same stories about yourself and your life
  • not being aware of your personal values
  • patterns of behaviour that keep all of the above going

Source: http://www.harleytherapy.co.uk/counselling/what-is-acceptance-and-commitment-therapy.htm#ixzz48Kke0b5H

It’s a great website with lots of useful information and resources.  I shall visit often.

ACTivation Point!

SO ……………………….

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How about YOU?

What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life?

 Just for today I will ………………………

If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you?

I am a student of ACT.  I am on a journey.  I would love you to join me.

With all good wishes

Corinne