ACT and Attitude

ACCEPTANCE AND COMMITMENT THERAPY (ACT) – AN ONLINE RESOURCE of inspirational quotes, poems and other act goodies!

Q:  What can I do when I can’t change what’s happening?

A:  Change your attitude!

Accepting what we cannot change and changing what we can is at the heart of ACT.  It is a wonderful way to clarify what action we should take, what action we can take.

Struggling against the impossible, the unchangeable is, ACT reminds us, a waste of our precious energy.  We can use that energy to make a positive difference elsewhere in our lives.

What ACT also reminds us about is the power of our attitude.  Accepting things we cannot change is not easy.  It can be terrifying, heart-breaking even, but there is something about acceptance that also brings a sense of release.  Surrender can be a peaceful thing, the final laying down of arms can be a beginning as well as an ending.

When we finally accept the things we cannot change we are always left with something we can.  That something is our attitude.  That is ours and ours alone.  We need never surrender that.  And a change of attitude has the power to change any event, no matter how unpleasant.

I wrote “ATTITUDE” to remind me of that.

HOW ABOUT YOU?

  • Have you found how a change of attitude can transform an event?
  • Are you able to make that space and choose how you will respond to something?
  • What can you share that might be of help to others?

Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

POEM FOR TODAY

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ATTITUDE

 

An attitude’s a wondrous thing, it frees us from events,

Makes a space where we can choose how of events we will make sense,

It’s a liberating feeling, when we know we have the power

To interpret each occurrence by the minute, by the hour.

We no-longer need to dread them, these events which random call,

Good or bad or just indifferent, we can now embrace them all

In a spirit of acceptance, what a great place to begin,

For when we give up our resistance we can seek the jewel within.

And there’ll always be a jewel, maybe murky, hidden from view,

Lurking in the far recesses of events now passing through,

But what glory for explorers who are willing to dig deep,

Sifting through the heaps of debris for the jewels they can reap.

And so next time an event floors us and we’re floundering on the ground

Let’s remember it’s our attitude can turn events around,

And though it maybe we’ll need patience ‘til we’re willing to begin,

There’ll be jewels to discover when our attitude kicks in.

© Corinne Shields, 2017

If you enjoyed, “ATTITUDE” please pass it on, and do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

And just before you go …..

A final word from ACT …..

When reality comes a calling and something unexpected, unwelcome and unpleasant hits us in the face it is hardly surprising that our first reactions are denial, resistance, anger and so forth.  This is normal and natural.  But there comes a point when refusal to give up these reactions becomes harmful.  Left unchecked they are likely to spoil our lives.

ACT reminds us that there is another more skilful way to respond.  When we are ready to accept the unacceptable, when we are willing to change our attitude then meaningful change can occur.  Things can get better.

Russ Harris has written a great book on this.  I have recommended it before, I am recommending it now and am sure will recommend it again.  It is a great read.

ACTivation Point!

SO ……………………….

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How about YOU?

What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life?

 Just for today I will ………………………

If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you?

I am a student of ACT.  I am on a journey.  I would love you to join me.

With all good wishes

Corinne

ACT and Healthy Options

ACCEPTANCE AND COMMITMENT THERAPY (ACT) – AN ONLINE RESOURCE of inspirational quotes, poems and other act goodies!

Q:  What can I do in the midst of turbulent events?

A:  Choose a healthy option!

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Even in the midst of turmoil and uncertainty we have a choice to choose a healthy option.   Sometimes it doesn’t seem so.   Sometimes we are so overwhelmed by events that we forget that we always do have a choice.  We may not be able to change an event but we can choose how we react to it; we may not be able to alter a circumstance but we can choose our attitude towards it.

ACT is very keen to remind us that it is not so much what we view as right or wrong that will make a difference, but rather what is the most effective action we can take.   What will work for us, what will move us towards a desired outcome, what actions are most in line with our values, this is what matters in ACT.   ACT also reminds us that we are not just our thoughts, we are more than our stories.  Learning to recognise this helps us to create a space, to defuse.  Defusion is a healthy option.

I wrote “HEALTHY OPTIONS ” to remind me of that.

HOW ABOUT YOU?

  • Are you able to choose healthy options?
  • How is defusion helping you to cope with difficult thoughts?
  • What can you share that might be of help to others?

Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

POEM FOR TODAY

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HEALTHY OPTIONS

 

It may be we are scattered, there is so much going on,

Mind goes mad amongst the mayhem, something’s starting, something’s gone,

And we’re drowning in uncertainty where certainty once reigned,

And ‘twill take a bit of time before composure is regained.

Oh Mind loves to have illusion of a being in control,

And dislikes it when it’s challenged or cast in a minor role,

When the concepts it’s constructed are now threatened in some way,

Like someone has torn their roots out and they lie in disarray.

Yes, it takes a bit of time before realities sink in,

Before the winds of change can rearrange and healing can begin,

And there’s no place for impatience and the turmoil that it makes,

We demand that we be healed but healing takes the time it takes.

And so the more effective action is to take a bit of time,

Let Mind go about its business as it digs amongst the grime

Of a circumstance unwanted, for we still are free to choose

To select a healthy option, and we do when we defuse.

© Corinne Shields, 2016

If you enjoyed, “HEALTHY OPTIONS” please pass it on, and do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

And just before you go …..

A final word from ACT …..

Learning some defusion techiques can stand us in good stead when troublesome thoughts come to visit.

ACT is not concerned with challenging or changing a thought, it is not in the business of trying to stop thoughts arising.  What ACT is interested in is helping us to develop a different relationship with our thoughts, to see ourself as the Thinker distinct from the thoughts that we are creating.

When we can do this then we will be less in thrall to our thoughts, less inclined to be bossed about them, less likely to take them so seriously.  They are only thoughts after all.

ACT often uses metaphors as teaching tools, to help us to see things more clearly.   I particularly like the metaphor of the playground bully.  This really helped me to view my troublesome thoughts in a different way and to see how treating them more skilfully would lessen their grip on me.
Playground Bully

The playground is fenced in and the children have to learn to live with the bully. This bully uses threats, mocking and abusive words to upset his victims. We can’t stop our thoughts, but perhaps we can react to them in a different way, as these victims show us.
Victim 1 – believes the bully (the thoughts), becomes distressed, and reacts automatically. The bully sees this as great entertainment and will carry on targeting this victim. This is how we normally respond to our thoughts.

Victim 2 – challenges the bully, and bully eventually gives up on this victim.

Victim 3 – acknowledges then ignores the bully, changing focus of attention, and the bully soon gives up.

For more defusion techniques and useful metaphors head over to getselfhelp.co.uk.  There is some really useful information there.

ACTivation Point!

SO ……………………….

How about YOU?

What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life?

 Just for today I will ………………………

If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you?

I am a student of ACT.  I am on a journey.  I would love you to join me.

With all good wishes

Corinne