ACCEPTANCE AND COMMITMENT THERAPY (ACT) – AN ONLINE RESOURCE
Q: How can I stop my feelings getting in the way?
A: Accept them and take action anyway.
We can get very attached to our feelings. The good ones we want to hang on to, the bad ones we want to get rid of. Many of us may spend a good deal of our time trying to alter our feelings. Many of us may feel that we cannot get on with our lives until we feel better. A lot of time gets wasted this way. A lot of opportunities are lost because we are waiting for that elusive feel good feeling. We tell ourselves that we cannot do this, go there, try this, risk that until we are feeling at our absolute tip-top best.
ACT, however, tells us something quite different. ACT says, “Feel the fear and do it anyway.” ACT says, “Don’t wait. Take action right now, irrespective of how you feel.” ACT says, “You can’t control how you feel, but you can control what you do.”
No matter how small, we can always take a meaningful action in line with our values. That action has the potential to change our feelings. It isn’t guaranteed. ACT isn’t in the business of making those promises. What it is in the business of is helping us to create a more meaningful life despite our feelings. And feelings pass anyway. They are transitory, like clouds in the sky.
I wrote “FLIRTING WITH A SMILE” to remind me of that.
HOW ABOUT YOU?
- Have you been able to feel the fear and do it anyway?
- How do you put your feelings in their place?
- What can you share that might be of help to others?
Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.
THOUGHT FOR TODAY
POEM FOR TODAY
FLIRTING WITH A SMILE
Oh wouldn’t it be wonderful to always feel alright,
To wake up and greet each morning with a disposition bright,
And to never know discomfort nor to feel uncertainty,
Well it might be wonderful but it is not reality.
For we’re full of little nuances, there’s no escaping that,
There’ll be times we’ll feel uplifted, there’ll be times when we’ll feel flat,
And sometimes life may seem wearisome, when all is dull and grey,
But for all our wishful thinking some things will not go away.
So we’ll just have to live with them, find a better way to cope,
When we’re feeling our most hopeless, find a way to reach for hope,
And when our spirits are all deadened and for now we’ve lost our spark,
Keep the faith for long enough to find our way out of the dark.
For we will wake up one morning when the wheel has somehow turned,
When we’re feeling more light-hearted, our concerns somehow adjourned
And we start planning little actions that will make life seem worthwhile,
And we’re not sure how it happened but we’re flirting with a smile.
© Corinne Shields, 2016
If you enjoyed, “FLIRTING WITH A SMILE” please pass it on, and do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.
And just before you go
A final word from ACT …..
I recently read an interesting article about ACT and Feelings at anxietyhappens.com. Anyone who is familiar with the feeling of Anxiety would probably be quick to tell you that it is not a particularly pleasant feeling. I can vouch for that! Anxiety is an old familiar friend to me.
In the past I have certainly not welcomed it, and have spent considerable time and effort in trying to get rid of it. However, since discovering ACT, I have changed my attitude somewhat.
When anxiety visits me, which it still does from time to time, I am more likely to dredge up my Mindfulness skills and take some time to just be with it. Exploring it gently and with curiosity, as ACT recommends we do, is less likely to increase my stress, my anxiety.
What do you think?
How about YOU?
What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life?
Just for today I will ………………………
If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you?
I am a student of ACT. I am on a journey. I would love you to join me.
With all good wishes