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Q: Why are transitions so difficult?
A: Because we focus too much on an ending and not a beginning
Life is all about transitions, nothing stays the same. Some transitions we welcome more than others. When we are young, we often can’t wait for the next stage, we can’t wait to be a teenager, we can’t wait to finish our exams, we can’t wait to leave home and make our way in the world. When we are young life seems full of possibility, we feel full of possibility. Nothing is set in stone yet. We can invent and re-invent ourselves, we can try on new identities. Later on, transitions may become more problematic. Sometimes they are thrust upon us. External events catapult us from our comfort zones, people come and go, sometimes unexpectedly. Normal life transitions can be difficult enough, but when they are exacerbated or delayed through no fault of our own, they can become very hard to handle. We try to hang on to things, to people, too long, we resist change in ourselves and in others, we focus too much on what we are losing rather than on what we have to gain. We forget that nothing can begin until something ends. Butterflies are beautiful, but they were not always so. They had to go through many changes to turn from ugly grubs to the magnificent insects that delight us. We forget that. Likewise, when we are in transition, we may feel uncomfortable, ill-at-ease, frightened about what we are leaving and what we are becoming. But transitions are inevitable. The most skilful way to approach them is with an open heart, trusting that we will come out alright, maybe more than alright. Transitions are where we grow, in that space between no longer and not yet. I wrote “TRANSITIONS” to remind me of that. HOW ABOUT YOU?
- How do you cope with transitions?
- What have transitions taught you?
- What can you share that might be of help to others?
Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.
THOUGHT FOR TODAY
POEM FOR TODAY
To glide into transitions, well now wouldn’t that be grand?
And to welcome in the changes because now we understand
That wherever we are now is the best place by far to be,
For the future’s only fantasy, the past’s now history.
But the present, ah, the present, that is where the action is,
Where our senses get to frolic, where they get to whizz and fizz
And be part of something wonderful, if we see with fresh eyes,
And can see that in transition we can be like butterflies.
And butterflies are beautiful, such hidden wonder things,
As they shake away their chrysalides to stir and spread their wings
In a cavalcade of loveliness, which delights all around
And we too can be like butterflies, if we will break new ground,
And stop trying to re-invent a past that now is dead and gone,
Or refuse to leave a stage where we now truly are outshone
And move on to where we’re meant to be, another story tell,
And be just like those butterflies and tell our story well.
For life’s all about transitions, in our time we’ll get to play
Many parts upon the stage of life, but we must choose the way
We enact them when the time comes, we interpret every act,
For transitions cannot be denied, and that, my dear’s a fact.
© Corinne Shields, 2018
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And just before you go …..
A final word from ACT, and its best friend COMPASSION ……..
It takes courage to let go of the old and embrace the new. In that period of time when we are in a sort of no man’s land let’s be kind to ourselves. Being hard on ourselves in hard times, being impatient with ourselves when we feel vulnerable, is not going to help. Often, when we are in transition we haven’t fully developed the skills we will need for the next stage. Of course, we haven’t. We are in the middle of a learning curve. So, let’s accept what we cannot change, our vulnerability, our fear, our sadness maybe, but let’s also commit to seeing this transition through. ACT encourages this and Compassion facilitates it, so let’s make use of all the tools at our disposal. I am in transition at the moment in several areas of my life. Letting go of the old, trying to move on to the new, and not feeling very confident in my skills to do so, is making me feel shaky and scared. But, I am trying to be kind to myself, and I am accepting my feelings, without trying to push them away. In short, I am trying to use the tools at my disposal. It helps.
How about YOU? What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life? What can YOU do just for today to add some Compassion, some Kindness, into your life?
Just for today I will ………………………
If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you? Is Compassion part of your life? I am a student of ACT, I am learning about Compassion. I am on a journey. I would love you to join me. With all good wishes Corinne