ACT, its best friend COMPASSION, and TRANSITIONS

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Q: Why are transitions so difficult?

A: Because we focus too much on an ending and not a beginning See the source image

Life is all about transitions, nothing stays the same. Some transitions we welcome more than others. When we are young, we often can’t wait for the next stage, we can’t wait to be a teenager, we can’t wait to finish our exams, we can’t wait to leave home and make our way in the world. When we are young life seems full of possibility, we feel full of possibility. Nothing is set in stone yet. We can invent and re-invent ourselves, we can try on new identities. Later on, transitions may become more problematic. Sometimes they are thrust upon us. External events catapult us from our comfort zones, people come and go, sometimes unexpectedly. Normal life transitions can be difficult enough, but when they are exacerbated or delayed through no fault of our own, they can become very hard to handle. We try to hang on to things, to people, too long, we resist change in ourselves and in others, we focus too much on what we are losing rather than on what we have to gain. We forget that nothing can begin until something ends. Butterflies are beautiful, but they were not always so. They had to go through many changes to turn from ugly grubs to the magnificent insects that delight us. We forget that. Likewise, when we are in transition, we may feel uncomfortable, ill-at-ease, frightened about what we are leaving and what we are becoming. But transitions are inevitable. The most skilful way to approach them is with an open heart, trusting that we will come out alright, maybe more than alright. Transitions are where we grow, in that space between no longer and not yet. I wrote “TRANSITIONS” to remind me of that. HOW ABOUT YOU?

  • How do you cope with transitions?
  • What have transitions taught you?
  • What can you share that might be of help to others?

Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

POEM FOR TODAY

TRANSITIONS

To glide into transitions, well now wouldn’t that be grand?

And to welcome in the changes because now we understand

That wherever we are now is the best place by far to be,

For the future’s only fantasy, the past’s now history.

But the present, ah, the present, that is where the action is,

Where our senses get to frolic, where they get to whizz and fizz

And be part of something wonderful, if we see with fresh eyes,

And can see that in transition we can be like butterflies.

And butterflies are beautiful, such hidden wonder things,

As they shake away their chrysalides to stir and spread their wings

In a cavalcade of loveliness, which delights all around

And we too can be like butterflies, if we will break new ground,

And stop trying to re-invent a past that now is dead and gone,

Or refuse to leave a stage where we now truly are outshone

And move on to where we’re meant to be, another story tell,

And be just like those butterflies and tell our story well.

For life’s all about transitions, in our time we’ll get to play

Many parts upon the stage of life, but we must choose the way

We enact them when the time comes, we interpret every act,

For transitions cannot be denied, and that, my dear’s a fact.

 © Corinne Shields, 2018

If you enjoyed TRANSITIONS” please pass it on, and do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

And just before you go …..

A final word from ACT, and its best friend COMPASSION ……..

It takes courage to let go of the old and embrace the new. In that period of time when we are in a sort of no man’s land let’s be kind to ourselves. Being hard on ourselves in hard times, being impatient with ourselves when we feel vulnerable, is not going to help. Often, when we are in transition we haven’t fully developed the skills we will need for the next stage. Of course, we haven’t. We are in the middle of a learning curve. So, let’s accept what we cannot change, our vulnerability, our fear, our sadness maybe, but let’s also commit to seeing this transition through. ACT encourages this and Compassion facilitates it, so let’s make use of all the tools at our disposal. I am in transition at the moment in several areas of my life. Letting go of the old, trying to move on to the new, and not feeling very confident in my skills to do so, is making me feel shaky and scared. But, I am trying to be kind to myself, and I am accepting my feelings, without trying to push them away. In short, I am trying to use the tools at my disposal. It helps.

ACTivation Point!

SO ……………………….

How about YOU? What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life? What can YOU do just for today to add some Compassion, some Kindness, into your life?

 Just for today I will ………………………

If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you? Is Compassion part of your life? I am a student of ACT, I am learning about Compassion.  I am on a journey.  I would love you to join me. With all good wishes Corinne

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ACT, its best friend COMPASSION, and EARLY WARNING SYSTEMS

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Q: What should I do with difficult feelings?

A: Learn from them!

Nobody likes difficult feelings, the ones that translate in the body as stomach upsets, aches and pains, headaches, skin complaints, constipation, diarrhoea, whatever! But there is no clearer signal that our feelings are trying to tell us something, something important.

These physical manifestations of something going on inside are our early warning systems, or more likely our repeated warning systems, our ignored warning systems. Most of us will have a weak spot in the body where our feelings gather, where they gurgle or rumble or shriek or whatever! We ignore them at our peril.

Feelings are evolution’s gift to us, although they often feel less like a blessing than a curse. When we are in danger, perceived or actual, our early warning system gets going, our physical reactions are instinctively triggered, as fight or flight hormones flood us. Feelings are the way that our body communicates with us. Without them we would be done for. Our feelings are our friends.

Human beings are programmed to move towards pleasure and away from pain. It therefore follows that when we feel unpleasant feelings we are going to instinctively want to get away from them. Being intelligent animals, we have any number of ways of doing this. We have learned to ignore them, deny them, displace them, distract them. What we have probably not learned so well is to befriend them, stay with them, explore them, learn from them.

And yet, this is what would be really intelligent. Our feelings flow through us with all sorts of useful information to help us to move more skilfully through the world. Developing a different relationship with our feelings can be the start of something wonderful.

I wrote “EARLY WARNING SYSTEMS” to remind me of that.

HOW ABOUT YOU?

  • How do you cope with difficult feelings?
  • Are you learning to develop a different, a more friendly relationship with your feelings?
  • What can you share that might be of help to others?

Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

POEM FOR TODAY

EARLY WARNING SYSTEMS

Let’s not deny our feelings, nor else mix them up with facts,

Let’s acknowledge our sensations, how our body now reacts,

But let’s not get into a panic if there’s something we abhor,

For we will find the more we struggle then we’ll feel the feeling more.

It’s more skilful to accept it, to explore it, get to know

Where it is within our body that our feelings tend to show,

Oh, for me it is my tummy, gastroenteritis gone berserk,

I don’t like it when it happens, but I’m learning not to shirk

Away from messages it sends me, for it has something to say,

It alerts me to a something that is going wrong today,

And though I wish that it were other, would I really wish it gone?

It’s my early warning system, which I’d miss if I had none.

And so, although we may have feelings we deem difficult to bear,

Let’s remember they alert us to the dangers everywhere,

And if we get a bit more skilful, we can learn a trick or two

To help a feeling that’s unhelpful find a way to move on through.

© Corinne Shields, 2018

If you enjoyed “EARLY WARNING SYSTEMS” please pass it on, and do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

And just before you go …..

A final word from ACT, and its best friend COMPASSION ……..

At the heart if ACT lies Mindfulness. At the heart of Mindfulness lies Awareness, a special way of noticing what is going on internally and externally. When we are being mindful we are simply noticing what is happening in a spirit of curiosity. We are not making judgments, we are learning to be with the what is, accepting it just as it is, without wanting to change it in any way.

This is a great way to develop a new and fruitful relationship with our thoughts and feelings. When feelings arise, as they will, we just notice them, explore them, really feel what they feel like, where they are located in our body, their texture, their shape.

Likewise with our thoughts. When thoughts arise, as they will, we watch them come and we let them go. We don’t get entangled with them, make them “sticky”. ACT has the potential to help us to improve our mental health. These are some of the powerful techniques that it uses to do so.

For some lovely quotes with an ACT theme visit the ACBS website. Here’s one to both start with and leave you with.

ACTivation Point!

SO ……………………….

How about YOU?

What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life? What can YOU do just for today to add some Compassion, some Kindness, into your life?

 Just for today I will ………………………

If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you? Is Compassion part of your life?

I am a student of ACT, I am learning about Compassion.  I am on a journey.  I would love you to join me.

With all good wishes

Corinne

ACT, its best friend COMPASSION, and THE PRAYER OF KINDNESS

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Q: What can I do to combat sinking spirits?

A: Say a prayer of kindness.

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We may be good at giving Compassion to others, very good, but giving it to ourselves, that may be more difficult. And yet, unless we can learn to be less stingy with ourselves, there won’t really be that much to give away. Compassion really does start at home. Unless we know what it feels like, how can we know what it is that we give away?

Self Compassion is not selfish, self-indulgent, narcissistic. It never was, although in some traditions it has come to be seen as such. Self Compassion is the grown up thing to be. When we can be kind to ourselves without feeling guilty, wrong or weak then we are honouring our true nature and combatting whatever mixed messages we have received from others.

Next time we feel our spirits sink, when we are feeling low and out of sorts, instead of berating ourselves let’s try a word of kindness, an act of comfort. Let’s stop beating ourselves up and give ourselves a break. Our spirits will thank us for it!

Research shows that Compassion is good for us. It’s official. Enjoy!

I wrote “A PRAYER OF KINDNESS” to remind me of that.

HOW ABOUT YOU?

  • How do cope with sinking spirits?
  • Are you learning the benefits of Prayers of Kindness?
  • What can you share that might be of help to others?

Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

POEM FOR TODAY

THE PRAYER OF KINDNESS

 

I am waking with a flatness, feeling out of sorts, and so

I will remember at such times that to Compassion I can go

And treat myself with loving kindness, gently keep myself afloat,

For when I’m feeling all at sea I can become my own life-boat.

I can whisper words of comfort as I stand back from the stream

Of a consciousness gone crazy, say thoughts are not what they seem,

Though they present themselves convincingly and masquerade as fact

They’re only story-lines of fiction, they’re just putting on an act.

So, I’ll combat them with Compassion, and I’ll use a kindly tone

As I remind them with respect their story-lines are over-blown,

And though they’re welcome at the table there are others with tales to tell,

And it’s the story of Compassion that we want to hear as well.

And as the story starts unfolding and the soothing words begin

The strident voices start to soften as the gentleness seeps in,

And of a sudden there’s a feeling we could not discern before,

It’s generated by Compassion, as it leads us to the shore

Of a consciousness grown calmer, even flatness too recedes,

There is a stirring of the spirit, this is just what spirit needs

To re-ignite enthusiasm, that most precious gift, that we

Know transforms our lives with colour, helps us live whole-heartedly.

And so, let’s give thanks for Compassion, let’s remember why it’s there,

It is the antidote to clamour, it’s the answer to the prayer

Of a spirit that is pining, wanting only to shine bright,

And when it hears the prayer of kindness then once more it comes alight.

© Corinne Shields, 2018

 If you enjoyed “THE PRAYER OF KINDNESS” please pass it on, and do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

And just before you go …..

A final word from ACT, and its best friend COMPASSION ……..

The quote by Jack Kornfield reminds me of a book of his that I read years ago that is still sitting on my bookshelf and ready I feel for a re-read.

Jack Kornfield is a wonderful writer. If you are interested in learning more about the Buddha’s universal teachings then Jack Kornfield’s books make those teachings more accessible to western minds. I am eager to read this one again.

ACTivation Point!

SO ……………………….

 

How about YOU?

What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life? What can YOU do just for today to add some Compassion, some Kindness, into your life?

 Just for today I will ………………………

If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you? Is Compassion part of your life?

I am a student of ACT, I am learning about Compassion.  I am on a journey.  I would love you to join me.

With all good wishes

Corinne

ACT, its best friend COMPASSION, and FEAR

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Q: How can I stop my fears holding me back from change?

A: Feel the fear and do it anyway.

When we understand where our fears come from, maybe we can treat them more kindly. Fear is a natural reaction to threat, perceived or imagined. It is a gift of evolution and it is not going anywhere soon. Fear evolved to protect us and to help us to survive. It is there to help us, it is part of our self-protection system.

Unfortunately, this can make our lives difficult at times, particularly when we are facing the unknown, change, uncertain outcomes. This is when Fear really gets its knickers in a twist. Just when we could do with a good dose of courage, Fear is more likely to jump in and rule the roost. “Don’t do this”, “Don’t go there”, “Stay here, stay safe”, these are the words of Fear.

It is easier to let Fear have its way, and comfort zones are notoriously difficult to escape. Change represents the unknown. Maybe things will go well, but maybe they won’t, maybe the grass will be greener but maybe it won’t, maybe we have things to gain, but we have much to lose too. Trying to weigh up all the outcomes can just leave us paralysed. Yes, it is easier to let Fear have its way, it is easier to stay where we are.

And yet doing nothing, staying put, not daring to make a change doesn’t make us feel better in the long term. There is always the “what if” in the back of our mind. What if we had found some courage, what if we had dared to make a change, what if we had found a way to allay our fears, to take them with us into the unknown?

This is the key really. This is where Self-Compassion comes in. We are not meant to be fearless, we were born with Fear as an integral part of our DNA. It is an indispensable component of our tool kit. Accepting our Fear, learning how to soothe it allows us scope, gives us choice. Courage is not being without fear, courage is fear that has said its prayers, courage is feeling the fear and doing it anyway.

And when we do it, let’s not do it with gritted teeth and dread in our heart, let’s do it in a spirit of kindness and compassion. If things go wrong, as well they might, let’s not rail at ourselves for making a bad decision, let’s just accept it all as part of our human experience, a learning curve that we might never have had.

And let’s remember that we are not perfect, we were born to make mistakes, and with each mistake we make we learn what not to do next time. This is the way of progress, this is what change offers us, a chance to grow, if we are willing to feel the fear and do it anyway.

I wrote “ON THE CUSP OF CHANGE” to remind me of that.

HOW ABOUT YOU?

  • How do you cope with change?
  • Do you let fear hold you back from new experiences?
  • What can you share that might be of help to others?

Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

POEM FOR TODAY

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ON THE CUSP OF CHANGE

Sometimes we feel it happening, we’re on the cusp of change,

And unease now stirs within us as the pieces rearrange,

And we must call upon our courage and our fears begin to quell,

For we’re sloughing off the old world where ‘til lately we did dwell.

It’s a scary sort of feeling, this transition we must make

And Fear’s not there to make it easy, it is there to make us quake,

And remind us of the dangers that are always lurking near,

For though we may find some courage, Fear will not just disappear.

It’s a part of evolution that was careful to instil

A resistance to imprudence, safety first’s its motto still,

But it’s just part of our heritage, and there are others too,

We are driven to make progress through the things we think and do.

And so, we need to strike a bargain with our Fear which sees its role

As a constant overseer, which must always seize control

Of any scary situation, draw us back quick from the brink,

Saying, “Don’t go in the water, you can’t swim, and you will sink.”

And oh, thank goodness for our Fear because it tries so hard to please,

Tries to keep us out of danger, tries to quell our least unease,

But we weren’t born to quiver naked at the edge of scary things,

We were born to face them bravely and find out all that life brings

When we refuse to be defeated by a Fear that stirs within,

When we are willing to accept it, but allow our Courage in

To soothe and whisper words of comfort to our Fear, so it can be

Reassured it’s done it duty before leaving gracefully.

Corinne Shields, 2018

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And just before you go …..

A final word from ACT, and its best friend COMPASSION ……..

Self-Compassion is the antidote to Fear, it is the right-hand man of Courage.

Learning how to soothe our own Fear is a wonderful attribute. Who wouldn’t want someone on hand to say the right things, to tell us that everything is going to be OK, to reach out a hand of reassurance, to remind us that we aren’t perfect and were never meant to be? Unfortunately, there isn’t always a someone else on hand and, in lieu of a someone else, we may need to be that someone for ourselves.

If we can do that, if we can learn how to soothe ourselves, wouldn’t that be something??

Fortunately, there are plenty of resources out there to teach us just that. I am currently reading “Present Perfect”, recommended to me by a friend. Thank you, Doug. If you, like me, struggle with an outsize streak of Perfectionism, then this is the book for you. Perfectionism is Fear’s best friend. They go hand in glove. If Fear is out to stop you doing stuff, Perfectionism is right up there with it. “Present Perfect” landed on my desk, or more accurately showed up on my Kindle, in the nick of time. It is helping me to feel the fear and do it anyway!

Present Perfect: A Mindfulness Approach to Letting Go of Perfectionism and the Need for Control by [Somov, Pavel G]

ACTivation Point!

SO ……………………….

 

How about YOU?

What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life? What can YOU do just for today to add some Compassion, some Kindness, into your life?

 Just for today I will ………………………

If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you? Is Compassion part of your life?

I am a student of ACT, I am learning about Compassion.  I am on a journey.  I would love you to join me.

With all good wishes

Corinne

ACT, its best friend COMPASSION, and BEING OUR OWN BEST FRIEND

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Q: Who can I turn to when everyone and everything else lets me down?

A: Yourself. Become your own best friend.

When things go wrong, when we are hurting, it is a natural reaction to look for comfort in externals.  We have been taught to do it from the beginning.  As babies we cried and somebody from outside came to comfort us, when we fell down as toddlers, somebody else picked us up, dried our tears and set us on our way again.  As we got older we looked for support within our immediate family, and as we got older still we learned to look further afield for approval, affection and backing.

This isn’t wrong, it is just the way things are, it is what we have learned to do.  Problems can arise though if we don’t find what we need in externals.  Sometimes people aren’t there for us, sometimes things that used to give us pleasure begin to pall, sometimes the externals just don’t work.  What to do?

Well, for many of us, although we are very good at giving compassion, kindness and support to other people, we are less good at giving it to ourselves.  Self compassion can have a bad press.  It can smack of self indulgence, weakness even.  Maybe we have grown up in backgrounds that didn’t encourage it, maybe positively discouraged it.  Maybe we grew up in backgrounds where we received precious little compassion from others, and certainly weren’t taught how to give it to ourselves.

This is a shame.  If we learn how to offer compassion to ourselves then we won’t be so dependent on externals to give it to us instead.  If we learn how to speak kindly to ourselves instead of berating ourselves for our last seeming foolishness, then our internal landscape will start to change.  The world we inhabit inside will become a much pleasanter place to be.  When we treat ourselves as we would a good friend, when we begin to become our own best friend, our lives can change radically for the better.

It’s official.  Whether we are giving it to others or giving it to ourselves, Compassion is good for you.

I wrote “BEING OUR OWN BEST FRIEND” to remind me of that.

HOW ABOUT YOU?

  • How do you treat yourself when things are going  badly?
  • Are you learning to treat yourself more gently, more kindly?
  • What can you share that might be of help to others?

Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

POEM FOR TODAY

BEING OUR OWN BEST FRIEND

 

To learn to be our own best friend, oh what a gift ‘twill be,

To develop loving kindness, treat ourselves compassionately,

And to still the voice of judgement ringing shrilly in our ears,

And to breathe into our essence until gentleness appears.

Oh, how lovely to feel peaceful, to accept life as a flow

That can move through unimpeded if we learn to just let go

And accept the present moment, without judgement, without flaw,

Saying, “This is how it is now, and I could not ask for more.”

There’s a freedom in acceptance, there’s a lightening of the load,

When we treat ourselves more gently we are in a different mode

Where our tension’s disappearing as a softness takes its place,

And the whispers of compassion start to fill our inner space.

Oh, let’s not become too tardy, too reluctant to kickstart

All the gifts that self-compassion has to lift a heavy heart,

For we do not need externals to bring us comfort and ease,

We have all we need within us to a cold heart now unfreeze.

So, let’s speak with words of kindness, let us use a gentle tone,

And remind ourselves we’re human and we never are alone,

For we all share in the suffering humanity must bear,

If we look around we’ll see that there is suffering everywhere.

And that’s not to make it burdensome, more awful, more severe,

It just acts as a reminder, others feel what we feel here,

And our suffering’s not just personal, it treats us all the same,

And if we would seek an antidote, compassion is its name.

© Corinne Shields, 2018

If you enjoyed “BEING OUR OWN BEST FRIEND” please pass it on, and do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

And just before you go …..

A final word from ACT, and its best friend COMPASSION ……..

Self Compassion is not weak, wishy-washy, narcissistic, self indulgent.  It is none of these things.  Self Compassion requires courage, awareness, commitment and trust.  If we want to become our own best friend that is not going to happen overnight.  Friendships don’t just happen they develop, they develop over time and they develop as a result of shared history, shared experiences, shared compassion.

If you want to learn more about Self Compassion there are many resources on line and one in particular is becoming a life-line for me.  Kristin Neff’s website at selfcompassion.org has guided meditations which have helped me many times. Check it our for yourself.  It is good to know that there is an alternative to a sleepless night!!  The Self Compassion Break only takes 5 minutes and that 5 minutes can make a big difference.

ACTivation Point!

SO ……………………….

How about YOU?

What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life? What can YOU do just for today to add some Compassion, some Kindness, into your life?

 Just for today I will ………………………

If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you? Is Compassion part of your life?

I am a student of ACT, I am learning about Compassion.  I am on a journey.  I would love you to join me.

With all good wishes

Corinne

ACT, its best friend COMPASSION, and CREATIVITY

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Q: How can I deal better with my difficult emotions?

A: Use their energy to fuel your creativity.

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I have been thinking a lot about Creativity recently.  It plays such a big part in my life and I owe it so much.  When I am upset, which is more often than I would like, I have learned to turn to Creativity to help me.  It never lets me down.  Being upset, feeling difficult emotions, experiencing uncomfortable physical sensations, are cues for me to use my Creativity to soothe me.  As a bonus I often get a better perspective about what’s really going on.

In this way Creativity has a lot in common with Compassion.  Compassion is all about harnessing our inbuilt soothing system to regulate difficult emotions, those emotions triggered by our Self Protection and Drive Systems.  Creativity and Compassion, especially if used in conjunction with each other, can be very powerful.

Emotions, especially those we perceive to be negative, can be difficult to cope with.  But they are part and parcel of the human condition.  We are not going to escape them, no matter how many therapies we practice.  We are not meant to.  What we can do though, is learn more skilful ways to manage them.  This is what ACT is about; this is what Compassion is about; this is what Creativity is about.

When we can use the energy that is generated by powerful emotions in a creative way, that is skilful.  Turning emotional energy into creative fuel can produce amazing results.  Along with the tangible result of a poem, a painting, a tapestry, a garden, a sculpture, a floral display, a carving, a whatever takes your fancy, there is also an accompanying change of mood.

This is the magic of the creative process.  It is itself a therapeutic process.  I am going to be exploring this a lot in the weeks to come.

It’s official, Compassion is good for you.  And it turns out Creativity is good for you too.

I wrote “CREATIVE PARTNERSHIPS” to remind me of that.

HOW ABOUT YOU?

  • Is Creativity important to you?
  • Do you use your Creativity as an outlet for difficult emotions?
  • What can you share that might be of help to others?

Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

 

POEM FOR TODAY

CREATIVE PARTNERSHIPS

 

I love my creativity, it’s saved me many times

From anxiety and turmoil, I just turn them into rhymes,

And no matter where I start from, it is never where I end,

I can feel my spirits lifting as the next new verse is penned.

This is how I use creation, or it’s how it uses me,

It’s exciting when it bubbles up and I can’t wait to see

Where it’s taking me this morning, where it comes from I don’t know,

But there’s nothing that’s quite like it when I’m caught up in its flow.

And it is the same for everyone, this energy within,

Every time we tap into it then the magic can begin

As we share a new dimension where time ceases to exist,

If you don’t do this already, do it now, see what you’ve missed.

For it’s always waiting for us, it just needs us to be there,

To be ready, willing and able in this partnership to share,

For it can’t do it without us, and we can’t do it alone,

But when we get together, what creative seeds are sown.

© Corinne Shields, 2018

If you enjoyed “CREATIVE PARTNERSHIPS” please pass it on, and do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

And just before you go …..

A final word from ACT, and its best friend COMPASSION ……..

I am reading the most wonderful book about Creativity.  I want to share it with you.  It is written by Elizabeth Gilbert, who some of you may have heard of.  She was the author of the bestseller “Eat, Pray, Love”.  I loved that book too.

The book I want to recommend here though is not a novel.  It is a book about Creativity and I loved it because it treats Creativity in a Compassionate way.  This is, in itself, quite a novel approach.  Creativity has long been associated with angst, the writer suffering for his art, the penniless poet in his garret, the tortured artist ….  Elizabeth Gilbert has a new take on Creativity and it is one that makes it far more likely that you will be encouraged to explore it, use it, befriend it, let it befriend you.

The book is called “Big Magic”.  If you are interested in finding out more about how to make Creativity part of your life, it is a great read.

ACTivation Point!

SO ……………………….

How about YOU?

What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life? What can YOU do just for today to add some Compassion, some Kindness, into your life?

 Just for today I will ………………………

If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you? Is Compassion part of your life?

I am a student of ACT, I am learning about Compassion.  I am on a journey.  I would love you to join me.

With all good wishes

Corinne

ACT, its best friend COMPASSION, and SELF TALK

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And introducing COMPASSION, ACT’s best friend!

Q: How can I start to feel better?

A: Speak to yourself with kindly words and a gentle tone.

The way we speak to ourselves is really important.  The words we use, the tone of voice we employ, the type of self talk we indulge in, it really matters.

Many of us are probably not aware of the running commentary that goes on incessantly in our heads; many of us probably pay little attention to the way that we treat ourselves mentally.  And yet we are with ourselves all day, every day, talking to ourselves, commenting on everything, judging the world, other people and crucially ourselves all the time.

If we spend a lot of time telling ourselves how stupid we are, what fools we have been, how we should be doing this or that differently, it is little wonder that we feel beaten up inside.  Self criticism and shame, guilt and blame too often rule the roost.  They leave us feeling worn out and worthless.

It doesn’t have to be this way.  When we learn about Compassion, when we start to treat ourselves in a more kindly way then our internal landscape begins to change.  We can catch ourselves in the act of beating ourselves up and we can choose to adopt a different tone, a kindly tone.  When we start to make a bit of distance from our thoughts we can listen to them in a different way.  We can choose different word, kinder words.  This will make such a difference.  We have nothing to lose except our misery.  Why not try it today?

I wrote “KINDLY WORDS” to remind me of that.

HOW ABOUT YOU?

  • How do you talk to yourself?
  • Do you beat yourself up mentally, or are you learning to speak to yourself more kindly?
  • What can you share that might be of help to others?

Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

POEM FOR TODAY

KINDLY WORDS

 

Sometimes a something happens, and it comes out of the blue,

It’s a something unexpected and right now we’re in a stew

As the shame and blame start swirling, and of logic there is none,

We’re a mass of seething feelings, and compassion is long gone.

For the moment we’re bewildered, we’re in shock, and so it’s hard

To reach any kind of clarity, as reason we discard

And give in to high emotion, flooding through us turbulently,

But if we will let it flow through then eventually we’ll see

That beyond the high emotion we can reach a calmer place,

We can call on our compassion to this turbulence displace

And start easing our discomfort, if we try it now we’ll find

That it has the power to soothe us both in body and in mind.

So, no matter what has happened let us take some time out now

And breathe slowly ‘til the rhythm starts to calm us down somehow,

And let us still the strident voices that are causing us such grief,

And replace them with some kindly words that can bring us relief.

© Corinne Shields, 2018

If you enjoyed “KINDLY WORDS” please pass it on, and do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

And just before you go …..

A final word from ACT, and its best friend COMPASSION ……..

Last night I was having trouble sleeping.  I was going over and over something that had happened that was causing me grief when I remembered selfcompassion.org, Dr Kristin Neff’s wonderful website.  I headed over and clicked on to one of her guided meditations.

There is one entitled “Soften, Soothe, Allow: Working with emotions in the body.”  It’s a 15 minute meditation specifically designed for dealing with difficult emotions and it did the trick for me.

You don’t need to wait until you are having trouble sleeping.  Take a look now and put it in your tool kit.  That’s what it’s all about really.  Life doesn’t stop being difficult because we are practicing Compassion.  Life will always be difficult, that’s Life.  But if we are willing, we can learn about tools that can help us to deal with Life’s difficulties more skilfully.  Compassion is one of those tools.  I am glad I found it.

ACTivation Point!

SO …………………….

How about YOU?

What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life? What can YOU do just for today to add some Compassion, some Kindness, into your life?

 Just for today I will ………………………

If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you? Is Compassion part of your life?

I am a student of ACT, I am learning about Compassion.  I am on a journey.  I would love you to join me.

With all good wishes

Corinne