ACT, its best friend COMPASSION, and SELF TALK

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Q: How can I start to feel better?

A: Speak to yourself with kindly words and a gentle tone.

The way we speak to ourselves is really important.  The words we use, the tone of voice we employ, the type of self talk we indulge in, it really matters.

Many of us are probably not aware of the running commentary that goes on incessantly in our heads; many of us probably pay little attention to the way that we treat ourselves mentally.  And yet we are with ourselves all day, every day, talking to ourselves, commenting on everything, judging the world, other people and crucially ourselves all the time.

If we spend a lot of time telling ourselves how stupid we are, what fools we have been, how we should be doing this or that differently, it is little wonder that we feel beaten up inside.  Self criticism and shame, guilt and blame too often rule the roost.  They leave us feeling worn out and worthless.

It doesn’t have to be this way.  When we learn about Compassion, when we start to treat ourselves in a more kindly way then our internal landscape begins to change.  We can catch ourselves in the act of beating ourselves up and we can choose to adopt a different tone, a kindly tone.  When we start to make a bit of distance from our thoughts we can listen to them in a different way.  We can choose different word, kinder words.  This will make such a difference.  We have nothing to lose except our misery.  Why not try it today?

I wrote “KINDLY WORDS” to remind me of that.

HOW ABOUT YOU?

  • How do you talk to yourself?
  • Do you beat yourself up mentally, or are you learning to speak to yourself more kindly?
  • What can you share that might be of help to others?

Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

POEM FOR TODAY

KINDLY WORDS

 

Sometimes a something happens, and it comes out of the blue,

It’s a something unexpected and right now we’re in a stew

As the shame and blame start swirling, and of logic there is none,

We’re a mass of seething feelings, and compassion is long gone.

For the moment we’re bewildered, we’re in shock, and so it’s hard

To reach any kind of clarity, as reason we discard

And give in to high emotion, flooding through us turbulently,

But if we will let it flow through then eventually we’ll see

That beyond the high emotion we can reach a calmer place,

We can call on our compassion to this turbulence displace

And start easing our discomfort, if we try it now we’ll find

That it has the power to soothe us both in body and in mind.

So, no matter what has happened let us take some time out now

And breathe slowly ‘til the rhythm starts to calm us down somehow,

And let us still the strident voices that are causing us such grief,

And replace them with some kindly words that can bring us relief.

© Corinne Shields, 2018

If you enjoyed “KINDLY WORDS” please pass it on, and do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

And just before you go …..

A final word from ACT, and its best friend COMPASSION ……..

Last night I was having trouble sleeping.  I was going over and over something that had happened that was causing me grief when I remembered selfcompassion.org, Dr Kristin Neff’s wonderful website.  I headed over and clicked on to one of her guided meditations.

There is one entitled “Soften, Soothe, Allow: Working with emotions in the body.”  It’s a 15 minute meditation specifically designed for dealing with difficult emotions and it did the trick for me.

You don’t need to wait until you are having trouble sleeping.  Take a look now and put it in your tool kit.  That’s what it’s all about really.  Life doesn’t stop being difficult because we are practicing Compassion.  Life will always be difficult, that’s Life.  But if we are willing, we can learn about tools that can help us to deal with Life’s difficulties more skilfully.  Compassion is one of those tools.  I am glad I found it.

ACTivation Point!

SO …………………….

How about YOU?

What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life? What can YOU do just for today to add some Compassion, some Kindness, into your life?

 Just for today I will ………………………

If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you? Is Compassion part of your life?

I am a student of ACT, I am learning about Compassion.  I am on a journey.  I would love you to join me.

With all good wishes

Corinne

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ACT, its best friend COMPASSION, and HARD TIMES

ACCEPTANCE AND COMMITMENT THERAPY (ACT) – AN ONLINE RESOURCE of inspirational quotes, poems and other act goodies!
And introducing COMPASSION, ACT’s best friend!

 

Q: How can I get through the dark times?

A: Be kind to yourself.  Know that this too shall pass.  Beyond the darkness there is light.

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Nobody likes dark times.  It is human nature to pull away from suffering, to move away from what hurts us and to move towards what pleases us.  There is nothing wrong with that.  It is the natural human reaction.

However, life is not all about good times.  We know that.  Being human it goes with the territory that we will all get our share, not always our fair share you might say, of the good, bad and indifferent that life has to offer.  The skill then becomes how to deal with it all.  How to live a life where we can accept with more equanimity all these things that life will inevitably bring.

Most of us have no difficulty in dealing pretty well with the good stuff.  When things are going well we may not appreciate it as much as we might, may even come to expect that life should continue to bestow its bounties upon us, but dealing with the good stuff is not usually a problem.

Even the indifferent may not be too problematic.  True, we might wish that life were more exciting, less dull, less routine, but truth be told many of us quite like routine, are not too bothered about having our comfort zones stretched.  It’s the bad stuff that causes the difficulties!

Learning to deal with the rough stuff, the unpleasant, the unwelcome, the shocking, the unfair, the unwholesome, the list is endless really.  This is where we need a plan.  This is where we need a strategy.  ACT has a plan.  And so does Compassion.

I have written many posts which discuss how ACT can help us to deal with the dark times.  Now I want to talk about its best friend Compassion.

Compassion is a wonderful ally to have by our side in the dark times.  Being kind to ourselves when things are going wrong will be much more helpful than beating ourselves up.  For those of us who are self critical and quick to shame and blame ourselves Compassion may be a stranger.  When we decide to change that, our internal landscape begins to change too.  Try it and see.

It’s official.  Compassion is good for you.

I wrote “SHADES OF LIGHT AND DARK” to remind me of that.

HOW ABOUT YOU?

  • How do you speak to yourself in the dark times?
  • Do you think being kind to yourself is the soft option or do you think it might help you?
  • What can you share that might be of help to others?

Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

POEM FOR TODAY

SHADES OF LIGHT AND DARK

 

We can tell if we’ve made progress, if we’re in a better place,

We can look back down the year and we our ups and downs can trace,

And we can see if we’re now standing more securely than we were,

If our heart’s a little lighter, our emotions less astir.

It may be that nothing’s changed much, and yet we are pleased to see

That we’re feeling more contented, more than once we used to be,

And that we’re not so agitated by the vagaries of life,

We somehow can now accept them more, the good times and the strife.

Oh, if we have made such progress then let’s now take time to dwell

On the whys and on the wherefores that have helped us do so well,

On the strategies we’ve practiced, on what programmes we’ve relied,

And let’s appreciate our efforts, all the things that we have tried.

For we know change won’t come easy, it takes effort, sweat and tears,

Fears will not just disappear, we have to learn to manage our fears,

And it maybe our compassion is the ally we have found,

That has reached for us when shaky, helped us move to solid ground.

Oh, this life was never meant to be just walking in the park,

For every time we walk in brightness there’ll be times we walk in dark

And disregarding our resistance, Life says, “Don’t you hiss and spit,

I’ve bequeathed you all you need so you must just get on with it.”

And though we wish that it were other, it’s in dark times that we find

All the jewels that evolution has bequeathed us in our mind,

And if we find that we’ve made progress and the future looks more bright,

‘Twill most likely be the dark times taught us how to reach the light.

© Corinne Shields, 2018

If you enjoyed, “SHADES OF LIGHT AND DARK” please pass it on, and do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

And just before you go …..

A final word from ACT, and its best friend COMPASSION ……..

If you want to learn more about Compassion, and I really hope you do, then there are some great resources on line.  I particularly like the work of Dr Kristin Neff.  She is one of the leading authorities on Compassion and Self Compassion and I visit her site often.  You can find it at selfcompassion.org

There is a wealth of material including videos, guided meditations, exercises, tips for practice, resources etc.  Do go and visit.  You will not be disappointed.

ACTivation Point!

SO ……………………….

How about YOU?

What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life? What can YOU do just for today to add some Compassion, some Kindness, into your life?

 Just for today I will ………………………

If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you? Is Compassion part of your life?

I am a student of ACT, I am learning about Compassion.  I am on a journey.  I would love you to join me.

With all good wishes

Corinne

ACT, its best friend COMPASSION, and A TRIBUTE TO CHARLIE

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Q: I am so sad for what I have lost.  How can I get over it?

A: Give it time and be kind to yourself.  Remember, this too shall pass.

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We have just lost our lovely dog, Charlie.  We shared our lives for nine years and during that time we had many adventures and he brought so much joy and happiness into our lives.  When he passed away it was devastating.  He was not only a dog, he was our dog, and we loved him.  We miss him so much.

As I am writing this tears are starting to spill.  It is going to take a long time to get over it.  But that is right surely.  When we lose something or someone we love it is right that we should be sad.  That is the mark of our caring, it is the proof that we did care.  Although we do not welcome in pain and suffering sometimes it is the price that we must pay for the joy and happiness that we have enjoyed.

Sometimes the pain is so intense that we feel that we will never get over it.  We determine that we are never going to open ourselves up to such pain again and we start to withdraw, to shut down.  That is perhaps a natural reaction but it is a pity.  Because when we close down we shut ourselves off from so much potential joy and happiness.  Is the avoidance of pain worth it, is it even possible?  Probably not.

Human experience is full of all sorts of emotion, and pain and suffering is part and parcel of it.  When pain and suffering come to visit, as they surely will, let’s be kind to ourselves.  Let’s remind ourselves that this too shall pass.  And let’s not be afraid to feel our feelings, to honour them even.  When we have loved and lost there will be pain, there must be.  But rather than trying to deny it, decry it, we could honour what we have lost and wear our pain as a badge of pride.

I am doing that for Charlie and this is a tribute for him.

I wrote “A BADGE OF PRIDE” to remind me of that.

HOW ABOUT YOU?

  • How do you cope when you lose something or someone you love?
  • How have you learned to deal with your sadness?
  • What can you share that might be of help to others?

Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

POEM FOR TODAY

A BADGE OF PRIDE

 

It’s hard to lose something we love, it’s hard to be in pain,

And it’s hard to summon the energy to try to start again,

And it’s hard to just surrender and to let the pain flow through,

But sometimes, though it is hard, it is the best thing we can do.

When we try to block our suffering it just gets more intense,

And when we’re trying to deflect it, it is like it takes offence

And determines to remind us that we cannot it outwit,

For sometimes it’s simply better we just learn to live with it.

And there’s something rather noble in a pain rightfully there,

It’s the proof that what we’ve lost was worthy of the pain we bear,

And if we allocate it time and space, don’t try from it to hide,

Then the pain that we’re now feeling can become a badge of pride.

 

© Corinne Shields, 2018

If you enjoyed “A BADGE OF PRIDE” please pass it on, and do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

And just before you go …..

A final word from ACT, and its best friend COMPASSION ……..

When something awful happens Compassion can be our best friend, Compassion that we receive from others and Compassion that we give to ourselves.

During this sad time I took much comfort from the lovely messages that I received from friends and family.  Many of them had gone through the same thing and so, of course, they understood.  Letting others show compassion to us helps both us and them, so let’s not be stingy about it.  A special mention to my lovely friend Denise.  She loved Charlie too and I know how upset she was.  We cried together.  It helped, it helped alot.

Allowing ourselves to be upset, giving ourselves permission to grieve is not soft, it is sensible, it is kind, it is the right thing to do.  So let’s honour our pain, let’s accept it and give it time to pass through.  And let’s remember that compassion is not something that we reserve for other people.  It is something that we can give to ourselves too.

ACTivation Point!

SO ……………………….

How about YOU?

What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life? What can YOU do just for today to add some Compassion, some Kindness, into your life?

 Just for today I will ………………………

If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you? Is Compassion part of your life?

I am a student of ACT, I am learning about Compassion.  I am on a journey.  I would love you to join me.

With all good wishes

Corinne

ACT, its best friend COMPASSION, and OUR INBUILT SOOTHING SYSTEM

ACCEPTANCE AND COMMITMENT THERAPY (ACT) – AN ONLINE RESOURCE of inspirational quotes, poems and other act goodies!
And introducing COMPASSION, ACT’s best friend!

 

Q:  How can I improve my life?

A:  Be kind to yourself!

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We really do have an inbuilt soothing system you know.  We may not be very familiar with it, we may be very sceptical about it, deny it even, but it is there, always at our disposal if we care to use it.

Another name for our inbuilt soothing system is compassion.  Compassion is that quality of kindness, empathy, sympathy that, too often, we reserve for other people.  But compassion is the same whether we give it to others or give it to ourselves.  The quality of compassion does not change.

We know what it is, what it feels like, because we will have given it out freely to other people, animals, the environment, at some time or another.  When we have seen someone in trouble, a lost child, an animal in distress, pollution in the environment, we will have felt something pull at our heartstrings, we will have felt something soften inside.  If we have had an instinctive reaction to reach out to someone, something else, to relieve suffering, that is compassion.  The trick now is to learn how to harness it and give it to ourselves.  The gift of self compassion, that is our challenge.

Is it worth it?  Yes it is.  Self compassion will improve our lives no end!  Science confirms it.  It’s official.  Compassion is good for you.

I wrote “OUR INBUILT SOOTHING SYSTEM” to remind me of that.

HOW ABOUT YOU?

  • Are you a fan of self compassion?
  • Have you learned how to harness its power to soothe yourself?
  • What can you share that might be of help to others?

Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

POEM FOR TODAY

 

OUR INBUILT SOOTHING SYSTEM

 

Maybe we had a bad day, faced some pretty awful things,

Had to make some space for suffering which every life-time brings,

And found out though we could fix most things, we couldn’t fix them all,

So, we called on our compassion to composure reinstall.

Oh, when fears are coursing through us and our heart begins to pound

It is hard to find some peace of mind when thoughts are swirling round,

And as one feeds on another in a maelstrom we are caught,

It can happen in an instant, and it all starts with a thought.

When we’re in this situation then the best thing we can do

Is to breathe into our fears and give them space to move on through,

And rely on our compassion, it is there to still our fears,

So, let’s use the power within us ‘til composure reappears.

It’s a wonderful endowment, and it’s ours to freely use,

We are always in its orbit, it is always ours to choose,

Yet we often are reluctant to call on its healing powers,

Are we mad, or are we stupid, these are powers and they are ours.

And so next time that we are reeling from the bad day we’ve endured,

And our fears are running rampant, and a maelstrom is assured,

Let’s be ready to combat it with this wondrous power within,

And use our inbuilt soothing system so that healing can begin.

© Corinne Shields, 2017

If you enjoyed, “OUR INBUILT SOOTHING SYSTEM” please pass it on, and do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

And just before you go …..

Learning about self compassion is a wonderful thing.  It can be a real revelation, this realisation that there is another way to live our lives.  We don’t always have to be fighting, fleeing, achieving.  We can live in a more peaceful way, we can inhabit a different world within.

Like anything else though, if we want to make changes we are going to have to make an effort.  We are going to have to seek out teachers, resources, to help us.  Fortunately there is a mass of wonderful stuff at a click of the finger.  That is what is so great about living in this day and age.  New Technology makes it all possible, right here, right now.

Why not do yourself a favour, just type “self compassion” into the search bar and see where it takes you.  Start your own journey.

ACTivation Point!

SO ……………………

How about YOU?

What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life? What can YOU do just for today to add some Compassion, some Kindness, into your life?

 Just for today I will ………………………

If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you? Is Compassion part of your life?

I am a student of ACT, I am learning about Compassion.  I am on a journey.  I would love you to join me.

With all good wishes

Corinne

ACT, its best friend COMPASSION, and SELF KINDNESS

ACCEPTANCE AND COMMITMENT THERAPY (ACT) – AN ONLINE RESOURCE of inspirational quotes, poems and other act goodies!
And introducing COMPASSION, ACT’s best friend!

 

Q: What should I do when I mess up, when I make a mistake?

A: Be kind to yourself.  We are human, we are not perfect.

When we mess up, when we make a mistake what is our default reaction?  If you are like me then you probably start beating yourself up, tell yourself what a stupid fool you are, you should have seen it coming, how could you have been so naive, shortsighted, foolish, brainless …………..

What you probably don’t do, if you are like me, is to show a little sympathy, a little empathy, a bit of compassion.  We are usually much better at being kind to others than we are to ourselves.  This is such a shame.  We are giving ourselves a hard time when it really isn’t necessary.

We are quick to tell our children that the best way to learn is through our mistakes but we don’t extend that same wisdom to ourselves.  We forgive the faults of others, remind them that nobody’s perfect and then forget that that applies to us too.  We are not perfect, we all make mistakes, that is what makes us human.

If we could cultivate self compassion what a difference that would make in our lives.  Body, mind and spirit would be in much better shape with a little bit of loving kindness coming their way.

Scientific research shows that compassion is good for you and I want to claim my share.

I wrote “IN THE LIGHT OF COMPASSION” to remind me of that.

HOW ABOUT YOU?

  • How do you treat yourself when you mess up, when you make a mistake?
  • Are you kind to yourself or are you self critical and harsh?
  • What can you share that might be of help to others?

Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

POEM FOR TODAY

IN THE LIGHT OF COMPASSION

 

Remember to practice compassion,

Don’t forget what it’s like to be kind,

And if you’re feeling hurt don’t be snappy and curt,

Learn to leave those responses behind.

Let it be like you’re swinging a lantern,

There to guide a lost soul in the dark,

And if you lose your way make it kind words you say,

For compassion is now your hallmark.

Don’t be tempted to self-criticising,

Or else rush to harsh judgement and shame,

For remember the lantern’s your guidance

And it does it in compassion’s name.

It’s a glow that you see in the distance,

And you know if you want to draw near,

You must follow the light that is shining,

Until darkness and fears disappear.

And if we would emerge from the darkness,

And move steadily into the light,

Then we must keep an eye on the lantern,

And ensure that it always burns bright.

© Corinne Shields, 2017

If you enjoyed, “IN THE LIGHT OF COMPASSION” please pass it on, and do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

And just before you go …..

A final word from ACT, and its best friend COMPASSION ……..

Self compassion can bring wonderful benefits into our lives but it may not come naturally.  This is strange really, because compassion is a natural attribute that we all possess.  It was gifted to us by evolution and it has been crucial in ensuring the survival of our species.  Without compassion we would have died out long ago.

Why?  Without compassion we would not nurture our young, our sick, our vulnerable.  Without compassion we would not reach out to others in trouble, we would not lend a helping hand, we would not co-operate. Without compassion we would not be able to nurture ourselves, encourage ourselves, forgive ourselves.  Without compassion we might just give up!

If you need a helping hand to access and nurture your compassion there are some great guided meditations online.  Dr Kristin Neff has a wonderful website at self-compassion.org.  I go there often.  Check it out.

ACTivation Point!

SO ……………………….

How about YOU?

What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life? What can YOU do just for today to add some Compassion, some Kindness, into your life?

 Just for today I will ………………………

If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you? Is Compassion part of your life?

I am a student of ACT, I am learning about Compassion.  I am on a journey.  I would love you to join me.

With all good wishes

Corinne

ACT, its best friend COMPASSION, and DECISIONS

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And introducing COMPASSION, ACT’s best friend!

 

Q: I’m not sure where my responsibilities lie.  What should I do? 

A: Wait awhile.  Remember, fools rush in where angels fear to tread.

It can be difficult to know where our responsibilities lie, where we should set our boundaries.  Some of us may feel we are like Mr or Mrs Fix-It.  We should be rushing in to solve someone else’s problems.  We see someone in trouble and we think we know what is the best thing to do.  Funny how we can see someone else’s situation so clearly when, so often, we have so much difficulty making sense of our own!

If we are in a quandary, if we are not sure what to do, then probably the best thing we can do is do nothing.  That in itself is a decision.  The decision to do nothing may be the best decision that we can make right now.  And if the decision we are wavering over concerns something that we can’t control then doing nothing is definately a good option.  Letting go and letting things run their course may not be easy, but it is likely to be infinitely better than interfering in things that are not our business.

A word about compassion here.  Whilst all this is going on let’s recognise that none of this is easy.  Treating ourselves with kindness and compassion in difficult situations is something I am learning about and it is helping me.  It’s something that I shall be exploring more and more in this blog.  I hope you will come along with me on the journey.

It’s official.  Compassion is good for you.

I wrote “DECISIONS” to remind me of that.

HOW ABOUT YOU?

  • How do you cope when you are unsure of your responsibilities?
  • Are you willing to explore the possibilities that Compassion can bring into your life?
  • What can you share that might be of help to others?

Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

POEM FOR TODAY

DECISIONS

 

It can be hard deciding where responsibility lies,

To establish where our borders are so we can recognise

When we’re straying into territories where we’re not meant to be,

Yes, it can be hard to know where we can go legitimately.

And sometimes we are encouraged by another to wade in

And to mind another’s business, uninvited to begin

To enforce our own solutions to a problem we perceive,

Well, let’s not be too surprised if it’s resistance we receive.

For nobody will take kindly to such interference if

It is given unsolicited, and with a certain whiff

Of a distinct disapproval and a sense of censure, so

Let’s be sure where we’re about to go is where we want to go.

For sometimes it’s best allowing things to simply run their course,

We can’t know that our solutions represent the best recourse,

And when we’re deliberating should we go, or should we stay,

It is seldom wrong deciding just to wait another day.

And when we have a dilemma let’s not roll it round and round

Without remembering that compassion has an input to expound,

And if we listen to its soothing words which calm our fractured mind

Then it may be that our decision is much easier to find.

© Corinne Shields, 2017

If you enjoyed, “DECISIONS” please pass it on, and do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

And just before you go …..

A final word from ACT, and its best friend COMPASSION ……..

I stumbled across Compassion when I was having some difficult times in my own life.  ACT was helping me, is still helping me, but Compassion is a lovely adjunct, a wonderful companion to have at your side.

The book that I recommended in my last post is the one that introduced me to Compassion.  It is the one that I am still reading, still studying, still recommending.  It is a great place to start if you are new to Compassion.

ACTivation Point!

SO ……………………….

 

How about YOU?

What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life? What can YOU do just for today to add some Compassion, some Kindness, into your life?

 Just for today I will ………………………

If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you? Is Compassion part of your life?

I am a student of ACT, I am learning about Compassion.  I am on a journey.  I would love you to join me.

With all good wishes

Corinne

ACT and Self Compassion

ACCEPTANCE AND COMMITMENT THERAPY (ACT) – AN ONLINE RESOURCE of inspirational quotes, poems and other act goodies!

Q:  What is the difference between self esteem and self compassion?

A:  Self esteem comes and goes, self compassion is always available.

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I have been away for a while but I have not been idle.  I have been busy.  I have been learning.  What I have been learning has been rather remarkable.  It is something that I want to share with you.

I have been learning about Self Compassion.  It is not something new to me, but it is something that, although I knew about it, I didn’t fancy pursuing at the time, so I put it away for future reference.  Well, that future reference came rather sooner than later.  When things go wrong, sometimes that is the very time, in the midst of our hurt and confusion, that other doors swing open, if we will let them.

I was sufficiently hurting to be open to something different.  Over the next few posts I will be sharing my journey into the world of self compassion with you.  I hope you will join me.

Self Compassion is not a soft option, although it may sound like it.  It requires courage, openness and a determination to learn about it and then to apply it.  It has the power to transform our lives.

I wrote “HEALING THE HEART” to remind me of that.

HOW ABOUT YOU?

  • Are you willing to discover the world of self compassion?
  • Are you open to new ways of thinking, new ways of being?
  • What can you share that might be of help to others?

Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

POEM FOR TODAY

HEALING THE HEART

 

We’re so good at criticising, we’re so used to falling short,

So adept at buying into the harsh lessons we’ve been taught

That we never do consider there might be another way

Which if we would just allow it has the power to change our day.

It’s a thing called self-compassion, well that has the strangest ring,

It implies we’re going soft, when that is really not our thing,

For we’ve shored up our defences, and we’ve learned how to stay strong,

Been the first to criticise ourselves when trouble comes along.

And no, it isn’t very pleasant being trapped inside our head,

Where the voice of accusation complements the voice of dread,

But by now it is a pattern we’re accustomed to, and so

We just let it do its thing and let the pattern grown and grow.

And so, life becomes a battle where we stay on red alert,

As brain goes about its business trying to stop us getting hurt,

And berates us for our carelessness or making a mistake,

Makes us think we should be perfect, well let’s give ourselves a break.

For perfection is a fairy tale, a story spread about

To prevent us being contented, it’s a myth that others shout

To perpetuate a mindset that does not encourage rest,

But sometimes a constant striving isn’t really for the best.

For as we rush round in circles and our stress begins to build,

And our body fills with tension and our mind will not be stilled,

In the middle of the mayhem let us stand a bit apart,

And remember self-compassion has the power to heal our heart.

© Corinne Shields, 2017

If you enjoyed, “HEALING THE HEART” please pass it on, and do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

And just before you go …..

A final word from ACT …..

Over the next few posts I shall be sharing my journey into self compassion with you, and sharing the resources that are helping me.

This is a voyage of discovery for me and I am currently reading a wonderful book by Paul Gilbert and Choden.

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It is fantastic when you discover something that resonates with you.  ACT did and does.  Self Compassion feels like the next right stage for me.  Maybe it will be for you too.

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SO ……………………….

How about YOU?

What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life?

 Just for today I will ………………………

If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you?

I am a student of ACT.  I am on a journey.  I would love you to join me.

With all good wishes

Corinne