ACT, its best friend COMPASSION, and BEING A HERO

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Q: How can I become a hero?

A: Be brave for just a little longer. 

Being a hero is not reserved for other people, special people, extraordinary people. We all have the potential to be heroes. History is shot through with people who have blazed an heroic trail. Maybe, because history tends to report on the extraordinary, to favour the victors, we have a rather distorted view of heroes and heroism.

Nowadays, when news is available 24/7, the good, the bad and the ugly, we have more exposure to the everyday hero, the ordinary person doing extraordinary things. This should give us comfort. This should reassure us that we too, being human, imperfectly, amazingly human, have the same capacity within us. Maybe, just maybe, we could be heroes too.

And it’s not as if we need to wait to be put to the test. We don’t need to wait for extraordinary circumstances to present themselves in order for us to see if we are up to the challenge. We can develop and test our heroism every day. We can decide to venture out of our comfort zones of our own accord. We can decide to test our resilience as a matter of course. We can make being a hero a life-style choice, maybe in little ways, but sufficient to start to build our courage. This can make life an exciting adventure and not just a re-run of the same old, same old.

I wrote “BEING A HERO” to remind me of that.

HOW ABOUT YOU?

  • Are you willing to begin to build heroism into your life?
  • Do you give yourself credit for the times when you have already been a hero?
  • What can you share that might be of help to others?

Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

POEM FOR TODAY

BEING A HERO

I’d love to be a hero, to surprise myself and be

Someone more than I imagined I could ever, ever be,

But being a hero as a life-style, well that seems improbable

’til we remember other heroes, then it seems more possible.

For though our heroes may be special, they’re just human after all,

They are all humanly imperfect, just like us they rise and fall,

But for the moments they’re heroic, then we gaze at them in awe,

Forgetting all our heroes did was take one step and then one more.

And we all can become heroes, push our comfort zones and feel

The resistance rising in us, for it’s this that will reveal

If we have the guts to do it, step into that great unknown,

Or scurry back to seeming safety, then too late, that bird has flown.

And yet, if we had dared to do it, take that step, and leave behind

The constraints that we imagined, the illusive chains that bind,

Then we could step into adventure, and who knows where that might lead

If when, for once, Life said, “Come here!” and like a hero we agreed.

© Corinne Shields 2019

If you enjoyed “BEING A HERO” please pass it on, and do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

And just before you go …..

A final word from ACT, and its best friend COMPASSION ……..

ACT makes Values work a pivotal part of its therapy. Values are the things that drive us, really drive us. They are the things that are most important to us. Values are not right or wrong, they just are. No-one else needs to share them or to condone or deride them. They are ours.

Although Values are constant, that doesn’t mean that we can’t add to them, re-evaluate them even. As we develop, it may be that we do decide that some Values which have served us well may need a bit of refining. So it is with courage, with deciding that maybe being a bit more heroic may be something we want to add into the mix.

Being human, we are not going to get away with cowardice anyway. The human condition demands that we do step up and be counted whether we like it or not. We will all have our fair share of suffering, of grief, of unhappiness. How we meet these things will determine our lived experience. Being brave, being courageous, being a hero in demanding times, is something that we all have the potential to be. We may not want it, may not welcome it, but it is what it is. We cannot escape it.

A final, final word though. Let’s not forget to add compassion into the mix too. Life is hard, it is difficult, as well as being wonderful and amazing. Being a hero is something to maybe aspire to, but it is not something to beat ourselves up about. Let’s not make things harder than they already are.

If, or rather when we fail, let’s not give ourselves a hard time. Let’s treat ourselves with the compassion that we would so readily give to a friend, to a stranger even. In fact, while we’re at it, let’s start being a friend to ourselves. Let’s encourage the hero in us and it will emerge, maybe a little shyly, a little shakily, but if we take it by the hand it will come out of the shadows and into the light. How good would that be.

ACTivation Point!

SO ……………………….

How about YOU?

What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life? What can YOU do just for today to add some Compassion, some Kindness, into your life?

 Just for today I will ………………………

If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you? Is Compassion part of your life?

I am a student of ACT, I am learning about Compassion.  I am on a journey.  I would love you to join me.

With all good wishes

Corinne