ACT, its best friend COMPASSION, and SELF KINDNESS

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And introducing COMPASSION, ACT’s best friend!


Q: What should I do when I mess up, when I make a mistake?

A: Be kind to yourself.  We are human, we are not perfect.

When we mess up, when we make a mistake what is our default reaction?  If you are like me then you probably start beating yourself up, tell yourself what a stupid fool you are, you should have seen it coming, how could you have been so naive, shortsighted, foolish, brainless …………..

What you probably don’t do, if you are like me, is to show a little sympathy, a little empathy, a bit of compassion.  We are usually much better at being kind to others than we are to ourselves.  This is such a shame.  We are giving ourselves a hard time when it really isn’t necessary.

We are quick to tell our children that the best way to learn is through our mistakes but we don’t extend that same wisdom to ourselves.  We forgive the faults of others, remind them that nobody’s perfect and then forget that that applies to us too.  We are not perfect, we all make mistakes, that is what makes us human.

If we could cultivate self compassion what a difference that would make in our lives.  Body, mind and spirit would be in much better shape with a little bit of loving kindness coming their way.

Scientific research shows that compassion is good for you and I want to claim my share.

I wrote “IN THE LIGHT OF COMPASSION” to remind me of that.


  • How do you treat yourself when you mess up, when you make a mistake?
  • Are you kind to yourself or are you self critical and harsh?
  • What can you share that might be of help to others?

Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.





Remember to practice compassion,

Don’t forget what it’s like to be kind,

And if you’re feeling hurt don’t be snappy and curt,

Learn to leave those responses behind.

Let it be like you’re swinging a lantern,

There to guide a lost soul in the dark,

And if you lose your way make it kind words you say,

For compassion is now your hallmark.

Don’t be tempted to self-criticising,

Or else rush to harsh judgement and shame,

For remember the lantern’s your guidance

And it does it in compassion’s name.

It’s a glow that you see in the distance,

And you know if you want to draw near,

You must follow the light that is shining,

Until darkness and fears disappear.

And if we would emerge from the darkness,

And move steadily into the light,

Then we must keep an eye on the lantern,

And ensure that it always burns bright.

© Corinne Shields, 2017

If you enjoyed, “IN THE LIGHT OF COMPASSION” please pass it on, and do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

And just before you go …..

A final word from ACT, and its best friend COMPASSION ……..

Self compassion can bring wonderful benefits into our lives but it may not come naturally.  This is strange really, because compassion is a natural attribute that we all possess.  It was gifted to us by evolution and it has been crucial in ensuring the survival of our species.  Without compassion we would have died out long ago.

Why?  Without compassion we would not nurture our young, our sick, our vulnerable.  Without compassion we would not reach out to others in trouble, we would not lend a helping hand, we would not co-operate. Without compassion we would not be able to nurture ourselves, encourage ourselves, forgive ourselves.  Without compassion we might just give up!

If you need a helping hand to access and nurture your compassion there are some great guided meditations online.  Dr Kristin Neff has a wonderful website at  I go there often.  Check it out.

ACTivation Point!

SO ……………………….

How about YOU?

What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life? What can YOU do just for today to add some Compassion, some Kindness, into your life?

 Just for today I will ………………………

If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you? Is Compassion part of your life?

I am a student of ACT, I am learning about Compassion.  I am on a journey.  I would love you to join me.

With all good wishes


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Corinne Shields

I am a wife, mother, grandmother, erstwhile teacher for thirty plus years, and permanent student. I have long been interested in psychology and spirituality and enjoy writing inspirational poetry. Hence the publication of this blog at ACT Made I play golf badly, piano a little better and I love reading, writing, and all things French. I divide my time between Wales and France and enjoy travelling with my husband, Len and my dog Charlie.

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