ACT, its best friend COMPASSION, and DECISIONS

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Q: I’m not sure where my responsibilities lie.  What should I do? 

A: Wait awhile.  Remember, fools rush in where angels fear to tread.

It can be difficult to know where our responsibilities lie, where we should set our boundaries.  Some of us may feel we are like Mr or Mrs Fix-It.  We should be rushing in to solve someone else’s problems.  We see someone in trouble and we think we know what is the best thing to do.  Funny how we can see someone else’s situation so clearly when, so often, we have so much difficulty making sense of our own!

If we are in a quandary, if we are not sure what to do, then probably the best thing we can do is do nothing.  That in itself is a decision.  The decision to do nothing may be the best decision that we can make right now.  And if the decision we are wavering over concerns something that we can’t control then doing nothing is definately a good option.  Letting go and letting things run their course may not be easy, but it is likely to be infinitely better than interfering in things that are not our business.

A word about compassion here.  Whilst all this is going on let’s recognise that none of this is easy.  Treating ourselves with kindness and compassion in difficult situations is something I am learning about and it is helping me.  It’s something that I shall be exploring more and more in this blog.  I hope you will come along with me on the journey.

It’s official.  Compassion is good for you.

I wrote “DECISIONS” to remind me of that.


  • How do you cope when you are unsure of your responsibilities?
  • Are you willing to explore the possibilities that Compassion can bring into your life?
  • What can you share that might be of help to others?

Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.





It can be hard deciding where responsibility lies,

To establish where our borders are so we can recognise

When we’re straying into territories where we’re not meant to be,

Yes, it can be hard to know where we can go legitimately.

And sometimes we are encouraged by another to wade in

And to mind another’s business, uninvited to begin

To enforce our own solutions to a problem we perceive,

Well, let’s not be too surprised if it’s resistance we receive.

For nobody will take kindly to such interference if

It is given unsolicited, and with a certain whiff

Of a distinct disapproval and a sense of censure, so

Let’s be sure where we’re about to go is where we want to go.

For sometimes it’s best allowing things to simply run their course,

We can’t know that our solutions represent the best recourse,

And when we’re deliberating should we go, or should we stay,

It is seldom wrong deciding just to wait another day.

And when we have a dilemma let’s not roll it round and round

Without remembering that compassion has an input to expound,

And if we listen to its soothing words which calm our fractured mind

Then it may be that our decision is much easier to find.

© Corinne Shields, 2017

If you enjoyed, “DECISIONS” please pass it on, and do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

And just before you go …..

A final word from ACT, and its best friend COMPASSION ……..

I stumbled across Compassion when I was having some difficult times in my own life.  ACT was helping me, is still helping me, but Compassion is a lovely adjunct, a wonderful companion to have at your side.

The book that I recommended in my last post is the one that introduced me to Compassion.  It is the one that I am still reading, still studying, still recommending.  It is a great place to start if you are new to Compassion.

ACTivation Point!

SO ……………………….


How about YOU?

What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life? What can YOU do just for today to add some Compassion, some Kindness, into your life?

 Just for today I will ………………………

If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you? Is Compassion part of your life?

I am a student of ACT, I am learning about Compassion.  I am on a journey.  I would love you to join me.

With all good wishes


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Corinne Shields

I am a wife, mother, grandmother, erstwhile teacher for thirty plus years, and permanent student. I have long been interested in psychology and spirituality and enjoy writing inspirational poetry. Hence the publication of this blog at ACT Made I play golf badly, piano a little better and I love reading, writing, and all things French. I divide my time between Wales and France and enjoy travelling with my husband, Len and my dog Charlie.

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