ACT and Mind Games

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Q: How can I cope when Mind starts playing Mind Games?

A:  Defuse!

Our Mind is a wonderful thing.  It plans for us, analyses and makes judgements for us, alerts us to threats and dangers and, for much of the time, is an all-round good egg.  Where would we be without it?  Well I guess we would be like the cows munching in the field.  Quite happily enjoying the moment, not worrying where the next blade of grass is coming from.

So far so good.  However, our Mind also has the capacity to cause us much distress.  With its incredible imaginative powers this is where our wonderful Mind ensures that we part company from the cows!  Because we do worry where the next blade of grass is coming from, and more, much more.

Our wonderful Mind seldom rests.  Even when we are asleep it is still busy whirring away.  Mind is always at it.  When it is not planning and analysing and passing judgement, it is imagining, forecasting and projecting.  Unfortunately, due to the way it has evolved to keep us safe, Mind often looks on the black side, errs on the side of caution, and conjures up horror stories just to make sure we are paying attention.

In ACT we learn to look on our Mind with a bit of scepticism.  We learn that just because it thinks things that doesn’t mean they are true.  We learn that we are more than our thoughts, more than our feelings.  We learn that we are the Thinker, we are not the thought.  We learn about defusion.

When Mind starts conjuring up horror stories we can stop it in its tracks when we remember to defuse.  Mind loves to play mind games, but we do not have to fall for them.

I wrote “HAUNTINGS” to remind me of that.


  • What do you do when Mind starts playing mind games?
  • Do you remember to defuse?
  • What can you share that might be of help to others?

Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.





Some things come back to haunt us with alarming regularity,

We look back and see a re-run of the same old same story,

And we thought we’d got it beaten, but ‘twas only lying low,

Now it’s back with teeth to bite us, if we chew on it ‘twill grow.

Of a sudden it’s inflaming, stirring feelings we don’t like,

All those bodily sensations even now begin to strike,

As our Mind starts telling stories and a crisis re-enacts,

It was such a small occurrence, but Mind’s careless of the facts.

And if we are in Mind’s orbit without making a safe space,

We’re in danger of colliding with reactions out of place

Which eclipse a swift appraisal of what’s really going on,

For there’s little room for logic when for now all logic’s gone.

And so, although it isn’t easy when we’re caught out in this way,

When a something back to haunt us springs a comeback in today,

And we didn’t see it coming, and mistakenly believed

We’d consigned it into history, but how we were deceived.

But it’s not a real disaster, a catastrophe, or worse,

We can choose to treat this haunting as a blessing or a curse

If we remember it’s a story, just our latest mental ruse,

And it will melt away the moment we decide that we’ll defuse.

© Corinne Shields, 2017

If you enjoyed, “HAUNTINGS” please pass it on, and do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

And just before you go …..

A final word from ACT …..

One of the greatest gifts of ACT is defusion.  How wonderful to know that when Mind starts playing its tricks we do have a powerful antidote at hand.  We can stop Mind in its tracks.  We can create some distance and look at the games it is playing without getting embroiled in the downward spiral.

If you need a reminder of some defusion techniques head over to  The article “Don’t Believe Everything You Think” is one I return to often!!

ACTivation Point!

SO ……………………….


How about YOU?

What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life?

 Just for today I will ………………………

If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you?

I am a student of ACT.  I am on a journey.  I would love you to join me.

With all good wishes


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Corinne Shields

I am a wife, mother, grandmother, erstwhile teacher for thirty plus years, and permanent student. I have long been interested in psychology and spirituality and enjoy writing inspirational poetry. Hence the publication of this blog at ACT Made I play golf badly, piano a little better and I love reading, writing, and all things French. I divide my time between Wales and France and enjoy travelling with my husband, Len and my dog Charlie.

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