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Q: What should I do with uncomfortable feelings?
A: Honour them. Pay attention to the messages they send.
We all love lovely feelings. Of course we do. They make us feel good, flood us with a sense of well-being, and make us feel glad to be alive. It’s great when our whole system is in harmony. We feel like we are on top of the world and that’s where we want to stay.
Unfortunately, feelings aren’t like that. They are fleeting, they come and go, often appearing out of nowhere and leaving just as suddenly. That’s the nature of feelings. We can no more hang on to our good feelings than demand that our bad feelings either don’t come at all, or if they must, then they don’t hang around for too long.
We can spend a long time battling with our feelings, trying to change the ones we don’t like and trying to keep the ones we do. It is an energy sapping, largely fruitless exercise. ACT suggests another approach. ACT suggests that we practice acceptance. When we practice acceptance of our feelings, good, bad and indifferent we are able to conserve our energy for other more fruitful activities.
ACT also encourages us to develop a different relationship with our feelings. This is where “Honouring our Feelings” comes in. Our feelings are powerful clues to things we may need to be aware of in our lives. Gut reactions are nature’s way of alerting us to things we may need to pay attention to. Our feelings are there to help us, our evolutionary friend. When we view them in this way, rather than doing battle with them, we can learn to honour them, listen to them, and then decide whether they are relevant or not.
I wrote “HONOURING OUR FEELINGS” to remind me of that.
HOW ABOUT YOU?
- How do you cope with your uncomfortable feelings?
- Are you learning that accepting and honouring them might be a more useful strategy?
- What can you share that might be of help to others?
Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.
THOUGHT FOR TODAY
POEM FOR TODAY
HONOURING OUR FEELINGS
Let’s learn to honour our feelings, even when they agitate,
And let’s look on them with kindness, even when they angst create,
For they’re with us for a reason, they are trying to keep us safe,
And so, let’s give them space sufficient even when they jar and chafe.
There are times when feelings flood us with sensations of alarm,
When our heart starts pounding madly ‘til we feel ‘twill do us harm,
But it’s just our evolution sending messages so slick
That we forget it’s just a wondrous part of all that makes us tick.
And we’d wish that it were other, that we’d always feel just fine,
But our system is much wiser, it is able to define
Situations masquerading as a danger or a threat,
It won’t leave us unprotected, it will situations vet.
And this may bring some discomfort, but how fortunate are we
To possess our own antennae of such sensitivity
That they work on automatic, even when our mind’s elsewhere,
They are always working for us, always scanning everywhere.
And at times it can be wearing, we may wish they’d take a break,
Let us be a while oblivious to the fuss that they create,
But in the end, we know their value is immeasurable, and so
Even though they cause discomfort, we’ll just let them come and go.
© Corinne Shields, 2017
If you enjoyed, “HONOURING OUR FEELINGS” please pass it on, and do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you. And just before you go …..
A final word from ACT …..
I have been away for a while. For the last few weeks I have not had instant access to the internet and, being out of the loop, so to speak, I have had more time for reading and writing, more time for reflection. It has been a great time, rather like being on a retreat.
During that time though, things happened that I had not been expecting, things that upset me and caused alot of uncomfortable feelings. This poem is one consequence of those feelings. Something that has really helped me with ACT is learning to use the power that strong emotions generate in a creative way.
The last few weeks have been very productive creatively. When we are forced out of our normal routines, when we are cut off from the instant communications that the internet offers, there is room for other stuff to come in. ACT has helped me alot during this time out. I needed it and it did not fail. I hope that it will do the same for you too.
How about YOU? What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life?
Just for today I will ………………………
If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you? I am a student of ACT. I am on a journey. I would love you to join me.
With all good wishes