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Q: I’m in shock! What can I do?
A: Use it wisely. Take stock and reaffirm your values.
I suppose some shocks are pleasant, of course they are, the surprise present, the unexpected encounter, the lucky break, but generally speaking shocks have a more sinister implication.
In my book a shock is more likely to be unpleasant and unwelcome, something that comes out of the blue to shake my complacency and shunt me out of my comfort zone.
If you are the same then you probably view shocks in the same way, unwelcome occurrences that rock your world, at least for a while. Unless we are pretty extraordinary human beings, and there are some of those around, first reactions to shock are pretty standard. They may include some or all of the following:
disbelief, fear, anxiety, denial, irritability, nightmares, flashbacks, numbness, detachment, guilt, shame, helplessness, the list goes on!
All of these feelings are unpleasant, none of them are feelings we would want to encourage, but nonetheless in ACT terms, “if we have them they are already here.” Struggling against them just increases our emotional pain. Accepting what we cannot change is a tall order, especially in the first after math of a shock, but when we are willing to do so then we are on the road to something different.
That something different can include using a shock in a more constructive way, as a chance to take stock and reaffirm our values.
I wrote “SHOCKS” to remind me of that.
HOW ABOUT YOU?
- How do you cope with shocks?
- Are you able to use them constructively, as a way to reaffirm your values?
- What can you share that might be of help to others?
Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.
THOUGHT FOR TODAY
POEM FOR TODAY
Sometimes a something shakes us and it comes as such a shock
That we’re reminded we are overdue some time for taking stock,
And that because we’ve been too busy, too complacent or too low
We haven’t reassessed if where we are is where we want to go.
Maybe life’s become so crowded we forget what we once knew
That when we settle in the stillness values tell us what to do,
And that a little readjustment can a lot of difference make,
And when we let our values lead us then a surer step we take.
It’s a shame this sense of knowing isn’t with us constantly,
How that it often takes a shock to wake us from our reverie,
But although a shock’s unwelcome it can serve us very well
If we allow it to speak to us and we heed its warning bell.
And so if we are still astounded, still dumbfounded or amazed,
Let us use this shock occurrence as a chance to reappraise
If the route that we are choosing is the same route that we chose
When we let our values lead us, long before this shock arose.
© Corinne Shields, 2016
If you enjoyed “SHOCKS” please pass it on, and do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.
And just before you go …..
A final word from ACT …..
In ACT terms leading a meaningful life means discovering or rediscovering our values and then taking actions which are in line with them. This can be easier said than done! Sometimes we have strayed so far from our values that we cannot easily remember what they are. Sometimes we are so goal orientated that we mix up values and goals. Doing this leads to a very different experience of life.
If we want to discover or re-discover our values there is a very good article at Working with Act. It is entitled “Finding True North: How to Clarify Values” and it includes some helpful exercises for “finding true north.” I loved it!
How about YOU?
What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life?
Just for today I will ………………………
If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you?
I am a student of ACT. I am on a journey. I would love you to join me.
With all good wishes