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Q: How can I resist the siren songs?
A: Don´t believe everything you hear.
Just because we think something doesn’t mean that it’s right; just because we think something repeatedly doesn’t mean that it’s true. In fact there is a good case for saying that anything that we think automatically, habitually, we would do well to treat with scepticism.
Research shows that about 80% of our thoughts are automatic and, unfortunately, negatively automatic! There is a good evolutionary reason for this. Thinking automatically frees us up to scan our environment for threats, for dangers. The human organism has evolved with a default position for survival and hooray for that! It has ensured the survival of the species, but let’s not fall into the trap of believing that everything we think is true. Automatic thoughts are automatic because we have thought them so often that we have hard wired our brains to produce them. That doesn’t make them true, it just makes them automatic.
If we have automatic thoughts that are unhelpful let’s remember that ACT has a strategy to help us to deal with them more skilfully. It’s called Defusion.
I wrote “SIREN SONGS” to remind me of that.
HOW ABOUT YOU?
- How do you cope with your siren songs?
- Are you able to create distance, to treat them with scepticism?
- What can you share that might be of help to others?
Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.
THOUGHT FOR TODAY
POEM FOR TODAY
Maybe we have a story we have told ourselves so long
That we’ve forgotten how it hurts us when we heed its siren song,
And how when we fall for its treachery, its seeming to be true,
We are deafened to the real truth that’s what siren songs will do.
They will whisper in the small hours when we may be feeling low,
Feed our tender insecurities, take pleasure as they grow,
And when we are at our weakest they urge us to action take,
And drown out the voice of reason in decisions that we make.
For a siren song is powerful, it lures us constantly
As it pretends to be a friendly port in an unfriendly sea,
And although it’s much frequented, that won’t mean that it must last,
For there’ll come a time when siren songs are best left in the past.
And although it won’t be easy to resist the siren call,
If we turn to our awareness then the siren call can stall,
And if we tune in to our values, and change course despite our fears,
Then the siren song’s receding and it’s falling on deaf ears.
© Corinne Shields, 2016
If you enjoyed, “SIREN SONGS” please pass it on, and do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.
And just before you go …..
A final word from ACT …..
Defusion is the key to unlock us from our automatic thoughts, our habitual stories. Awareness of what is happening and making contact with our Self as Context is our path to freedom. Creating a different relationship with our thoughts and seeing ourself as The Thinker and not the thought can empower us hugely.
When we understand that evolution has conspired to ensure our survival and that automatic negative thinking is an important part of that process maybe that will help us to take our thoughts less seriously.
For more on all of this, Delusion and Defusion, there are some great Defusion techniques at getselfhelp.co.uk. Check them out; I found them really useful.
How about YOU?
What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life?
Just for today I will ………………………
If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you?
I am a student of ACT. I am on a journey. I would love you to join me.
With all good wishes