ACCEPTANCE AND COMMITMENT THERAPY (ACT) – AN ONLINE RESOURCE
Q: What should I do in the midst of a turmoil?
A: Seek wise counsel.
When we are in turmoil it can be hard to know what is best to do. Our emotions are screaming, “Do this, do that, do something, do anything!” It is tempting then to do something just to try to reduce the uncomfortable feelings inside.
This is not always the best way. When we are in a state of upset that is rarely the time to make important decisions, rarely the time to take definitive action. ACT reminds us that feelings come and go. They are fleeting, they are temporary, whilst the aftermath of things we do and say because of them can have permanent consequences.
Seeking wise counsel at such times can save us from a lot of heartache. That doesn’t mean we have to take any advice given. We are always free to accept or reject what others say. We, after all, are in the best position to know what is really best for us in our own lives, especially if we are in touch with our values and are learning to act in line with them.
If we are fortunate we will have a trusted friend or two who love us enough to give us wise counsel. They have our best interests at heart and we should give thanks for them. And we always have ACT. When we are in turmoil if we act in accordance to ACT principles we will rarely go wrong and will usually go right.
I wrote “WISE COUNSEL” to remind me of that.
HOW ABOUT YOU?
- Do you remember to seek wise counsel when things get difficult?
- What wise counsel have you found in ACT to be particularly useful?
- What can you share that might be of help to others?
Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.
THOUGHT FOR TODAY
POEM FOR TODAY
Let’s listen to wise counsel, let’s seek out someone we trust,
Let’s not give in to harsh words and deeds before we have discussed
Other options that are open, let us see what might appear
When we are prepared to listen, for who knows then what we’ll hear.
It’s a difficult dilemma, when to recognise as fact
That sometimes it is inaction that’s the better way to act,
And that sometimes when we’re lost for words that silence is a boon,
And that least said soonest mended is right now more opportune.
Oh the way ahead is tricky, and quite often there will be
Unexpected blocks and obstacles that we just didn’t see
That have festered hidden and toxic, waiting just to do their worst,
It’s no wonder that they floored us when quite suddenly they burst.
But it’s now we must consider what will be the better way
To respond to such an aftermath that’s facing us today,
Is it better to take action, or allow it to subside?
Well it’s now that that wise counsel can help us to best decide.
So let’s choose our counsel carefully for it may shed a light
On an aspect unconsidered, help us make a choice that’s right,
For when we are in a turmoil that’s the time that we most need
The wise counsel that can clarify how best we can proceed.
© Corinne Shields, 2016
If you enjoyed “WISE COUNSEL” please pass it on, and do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.
And just before you go …..
A final word from ACT …..
When we are in turmoil it is usually because we feel that life is not dealing us the hand we want to play. The gap between what we want and what we have got is wide, wider than at the time we are willing to accept.
At times like these I return, when finally I remember, to that great book written by Russ Harris, “The Reality Slap”.
If you haven’t read it I commend it to you. If you have, then here’s a reminder that when life deals you a bad-hand a re-read will always be helpful.
How about YOU?
What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life?
Just for today I will ………………………
If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you?
I am a student of ACT. I am on a journey. I would love you to join me.
With all good wishes