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Q: Where do I look for guidance when I don’t know where to turn?
A: Revisit your values
Sometimes things happen which are so unexpected that we literally don’t know which way to turn. We are caught so much off guard that for a while it actually feels as if the ground under our feet has shifted; we are completely at sea.
So many mixed metaphors are not usually very helpful, but in this sort of instance they sort of sum up the general state of confusion and bewilderment we feel when the unexpected comes up to bite us.
When we are in this situation it is difficult to know where to look for guidance. We may cast around looking here and there for answers, quite forgetting that what we seek is far closer to home. When we don’t know where to turn a good rule of thumb is to revisit our values. When our world is in turmoil they remain constant. They won’t let us down.
I wrote “VALUES RIVISITED” to remind me of that.
HOW ABOUT YOU?
- How do your values help you to find your bearings?
- What do you do when the world seems upside down?
- What can you share that might be of help to others?
Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.
THOUGHT FOR TODAY
POEM FOR TODAY
Disappointment and denial, disillusion and despair,
What has happened is alarming but not going anywhere,
And if it’s still there in the morning after sleep gives us respite,
Then it doesn’t really matter if we deem it wrong or right.
It may be we still are reeling, not yet ready to accept
What it is we were escaping in those moments when we slept,
But a sleep can’t last forever, in the end we have to wake
And decide on our responses, on the next steps that we’ll take.
And it may be it’s too soon to plan a detailed strategy,
It may be our eyes are blinkered and for now we cannot see
Any further than the next step and the one that follows that,
Well let’s treat ourselves with kindness if that is the stage we’re at.
Because for now there is a future unpredictable and yes
We could spend it agonising, but we cannot second guess
What will happen in tomorrow, and we couldn’t any-way,
If we needed any proof of that we’ve got it in today.
And so in face of what’s arising let us take another tack,
Let us focus on feet forward without ever looking back,
And if we’re scrambling for a foothold and unsure which way to go
Then let us turn again to values, for as ever they will know.
© Corinne Shields, 2016
If you enjoyed, “VALUES REVISITED” please pass it on, and do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.
And just before you go …..
A final word from ACT …..
Having clarity about our values is really important. When we know what really matters to us, when we know what sort of person we want to be in the world, it is easier for us to behave in ways that make us feel good, make us feel authentic.
Rachel Collis has written a really good article entitled “Getting Clear About Values” in her blog Working with ACT. I really enjoyed it, so if you want some help in clarifying your values head on over and give it a read.
How about YOU?
What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life?
Just for today I will ………………………
If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you?
I am a student of ACT. I am on a journey. I would love you to join me.
With all good wishes