ACCEPTANCE AND COMMITMENT THERAPY (ACT) – AN ONLINE RESOURCE
Q: What do I do in the midst of a crisis?
A: Keep calm and carry on!
Sometimes life comes up to shock us! It may be personal, it may be political, or the personal may have become political and vice versa.
We may not have seen it coming or maybe we did, and it shocked us anyway!
Whatever and however it happened, if we are in the midst of something that feels like a crisis it is likely we are not feeling very comfortable. Fears of the unknown are natural, resistance to something we view as unwelcome is understandable, we are in shock!
At times like these ACT reminds us to be kind to ourselves, to treat ourselves with patience and compassion. The shock will pass, if we let it; the uncomfortable feelings will move through, if we give them time and space; if the world, our world has re-arranged, we will catch up with it, in time.
Allowing ourselves to accept and experience all of our feelings just as they are without struggle may seem counter-intuitive. Human beings are, after all, pre-programmed to move away from what they don’t like and towards what they do, but ACT is clear on this. Accepting what we cannot change, uncomfortable feelings in this case, and changing what we can, maybe taking a valued action, will serve us better than wasting precious energy on futile struggle.
I wrote “A COMPLETE HUMAN BEING” to remind me of that.
HOW ABOUT YOU?
- How have you dealt effectively with a crisis?
- How has ACT helped you to keep calm and carry on?
- What can you share that might be of help to others?
Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.
THOUGHT FOR TODAY
POEM FOR TODAY
A COMPLETE HUMAN BEING
Sometimes a something happens and its impact is so great
That we can’t internalise it, nor expect it to abate,
For the moment we’re all rawness and all we can do is hurt,
There’s no place that we can hide in, we cannot this pain avert.
So if we cannot escape it then what are we meant to do?
It could be we’d best accept it and allow it to move through,
For although it’s only natural to wish we could repair
This event that’s come to floor us, it’s not going anywhere.
For this something is a fact now, it’s unchangeable, and so
All the wishing in the world is not enough to make it go,
For we’re in a new reality, and though we it resist
When we wake up in the morning this new thing will still exist.
And so for now all that is possible may be that we endure
And accept the pain we’re feeling, for right now ‘tis premature
To expect to circumvent it or reduce it in some way,
For if we have loved what now is lost that is the price we pay.
And this journey we are facing is not one we want to take,
But if we are in a state of loss ‘tis one we’ll have to make,
And if we would find some value in the face of what we’re seeing,
It will be in being prepared to be a complete human being.
© Corinne Shields, 2016
If you enjoyed, “A COMPLETE HUMAN BEING” please pass it on, and do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.
And just before you go …..
A final word from ACT …..
Bearing in mind the human predisposition to move away from difficult and distressing things and towards attractive and appealing things, we do well to remember that although this often makes sense in the external world it often works less well in the internal world of our thoughts and feelings.
In ACT terms this means that avoidance of, or struggle with difficult thoughts and feelings is not the most effective way of behaving. ACT teaches us other, more effective ways and amongst them is Mindfulness.
I came across a really interesting article written by Melissa O’Brien at everyday-mindfulness.org entitled:
Melissa shows us how we can “learn to turn our difficult emotions into our greatest teachers and sources of strength”.
Her Six Step Process for mindfully dealing with difficult emotions is well worth a read.
How about YOU?
What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life?
Just for today I will ………………………
If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you?
I am a student of ACT. I am on a journey. I would love you to join me.
With all good wishes