ACCEPTANCE AND COMMITMENT THERAPY (ACT) – AN ONLINE RESOURCE
Q: I don’t like the look of what’s coming. What should I do?
A: Stop projecting. Remember, we see such a little way.
Our mind is a wondrous thing. It is capable of such fantastic feats. Analysing, planning, evaluating, judging, imagining, the list is endless. And what benefits it brings us, our wondrous thinking mind.
But the mind is a double edged sword. For every wonderful imagining there is a niggling worry waiting in the wings, for every hopeful fantasy there is a gloomy projection casting its shadow. And we do well to remember that the mind is programmed to look on the dark side. It evolved to keep us safe and so it is more likely to perceive threats even when there are none; it is more likely to seek out the negative than plump for the positive. That’s just what minds do. ACT reminds us of that. We should be sceptical of the wondrous thinking mind and remember H M Tomlinson’s wise words:
“We see things not as they are, but as we are.”
I wrote “BLINDED BY SHORT-SIGHTEDNESS” to remind me of that.
HOW ABOUT YOU?
- Do you remember to treat your wondrous thinking mind with a bit of healthy scepticism?
- How do you deal with looming situations?
- What can you share that might be of help to others?
Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.
THOUGHT FOR TODAY
POEM FOR TODAY
BLINDED BY SHORT-SIGHTEDNESS
We cannot hold the tide back, nor else order winds to change,
When it comes to Mother Nature there’s not much we can arrange,
And so in time we just accept it since there’s nothing else to do,
We know that practicing acceptance is the wisest thing to do.
It’s a shame we can’t transfer it, all this wisdom we’ve accrued,
To a situation looming which is darkening our mood,
But resistance builds within us and we’re spoiling for a fight,
We’ve already made our minds up that what’s looming isn’t right.
And so our mind begins to harden, it starts taking up a stand,
There’s no room for compromising, fixed minds cannot understand
That solutions yet unfolded are beyond the ken of man,
We are blinded by short-sightedness, can’t see a master plan.
And it’s not easy this acceptance, this forbearance, this restraint,
Stemming words deemed justifiable, not moving to complaint,
But in the end it’s just a moment when we’re taking pride of place,
And consequences now unknowable we’ll later have to face.
And so next time the future’s looming let’s not be in such a haste,
Let’s be less quick to rush to judgement something isn’t to our taste,
And be aware the future’s hidden, we can’t know how ‘twill unfold,
Whereas the present is a province that is ours to have and hold.
© Corinne Shields, 2016
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And just before you go …..
A final word from ACT …..
When I have a relapse, and it happens more often than I would like, this is the book that I return to.
Relapses can be painful but they are not the end of the world. In fact, if we treat ourselves kindly, and ACT would certainly encourage that, we can learn a lot from a relapse. It can set us back on the right path with renewed vigour and motivation.
This book offers a five-step plan for coping with painful emotions such as anxiety and depression and teaches the life-enhancing behavior strategies that help us to pursue the goals we value most. It shows us how to engage with and overcome painful thoughts and feelings with step-by-step acceptance and mindfulness-based techniques. We learn how to let go of control, and develop compassion and flexibility. It helps us to create a meaningful life even in the midst of our challenges.
How about YOU?
What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life?
Just for today I will ………………………
If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you?
I am a student of ACT. I am on a journey. I would love you to join me.
With all good wishes