ACCEPTANCE AND COMMITMENT THERAPY (ACT) – AN ONLINE RESOURCE
Q: What can I do when I’m feeling fed up?
A: Do something meaningful!
Taking action when we don’t feel like it is at the very heart of ACT. In fact it is so central to it that it gives it its very name.
ACT or Acceptance and Commitment Therapy is about just that. Accepting what we cannot change and committing to take an action in line with our values is what this Therapy is all about.
In order to change our lives for the better, in order to bring about meaningful change, ACT encourages us to develop a different relationship with our thoughts and feelings. When we start living our lives based on our values rather than our moods things start to improve. Why?
Because when we see ourselves as more than our thoughts and our feelings we can make some space, what ACT calls Defusion, and watch our thoughts come and go. Defusion frees us up to do things that are important to us. This is what will help us to create a meaningful life, so that when we look back there will be something to see.
I wrote “SOMETHING TO SEE” to remind me of that.
HOW ABOUT YOU?
- Are you learning to turn to your values rather than letting fleeting moods dictate your day?
- What defusion techniques do you find helpful?
- What can you share that might be of help to others?
Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.
THOUGHT FOR TODAY
POEM FOR TODAY
SOMETHING TO SEE
When lifetimes are ending and years are lived through
We won’t ask how we felt, we’ll ask, “What did we do?”
What activities flourished, what did we achieve?
Did we make any difference, give more than receive?
Oh our feelings are with us each step of the way,
But did they know their place or were they holding sway,
Did we learn to live with them, take them in our stride?
Or did we let them rule us and push us aside?
If we’re asking these questions it isn’t too late
To establish new orders, re-negotiate,
And decide from now on we won’t be shoved along
By a feeling that’s fleeting, no matter how strong.
For a feeling is flimsy whilst action is real,
We can choose what to do, we can’t choose how to feel,
And a lifetime of action has something to show
Whilst a lifetime of feeling is lived in limbo.
So let’s look for an action and do it right now,
Irrespective of feelings let’s act anyhow,
For we find when we’re living life more flexibly
That when we’re looking back there is something to see.
© Corinne Shields, 2016
If you enjoyed, “SOMETHING TO SEE” please pass it on, and do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.
And just before you go …..
A final word from ACT …..
Acting when we don’t feel like it isn’t easy and it isn’t guaranteed to make us feel better. What it is guaranteed to do, however, is to help us to build a more meaningful life. Meaningful lives are built on meaningful actions not fleeting feelings, and though we can’t choose how we feel, that is beyond us, we can choose what we do.
Having and exercising that choice is a great boon. It helps us to spring the trap of difficult feelings that can rob us of our joy. It is the beginning of freedom.
For more on the benefits of the psychological flexibility that is at the heart of ACT I enjoyed an article at harleytherapy.co.uk.
It can be difficult to understand what psychological flexibility is and isn’t and I particularly liked their explanation.
Perhaps an easy way to understand what psychological flexibility is, is to first look at what it is not.
The main contributors to psychological inflexibility are:
- living in the past or the future instead of the present moment
- being “stuck” and unable to let go of thoughts, beliefs, emotions, and sensations that cause suffering (called being ‘fused’ to them)
- always trying to avoid your unpleasant thoughts, memories, and feelings, hoping that they will, somehow, go away
- being addicted to an idea of yourself, or ‘self-concept’, always telling the same stories about yourself and your life
- not being aware of your personal values
- patterns of behaviour that keep all of the above going
It’s a great website with lots of useful information and resources. I shall visit often.
How about YOU?
What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life?
Just for today I will ………………………
If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you?
I am a student of ACT. I am on a journey. I would love you to join me.
With all good wishes