ACT and Decision Making

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Q:  I still feel so confused.  Nothing is clearer.  What now?

A:  Turn to your values

"It's not hard to make decisions once you know what your values are." Roy E. Disney #freeprintable:

Because confusion does not always behave nicely and suddenly clear and present us with the right answers, I wrote a follow up post!

What to do if the mists don’t suddenly lift?  What if, despite all our analysing and ruminating, we are still no further forward?  What do we do if we don’t know what to do?

Well ACT is very helpful here.  ACT suggests that when in doubt turn to our values.  Feelings change, we know that.  Thoughts come and go, we know that too.  But our values are steadfast, they do not change.  If we know what our values are then it will make our decision making much easier.  If we do not know what our values are, it might be time we spent some time finding out.

I wrote “STERNER STUFF” to remind me of that.

HOW ABOUT YOU?

  • Have you spent time clarifying your values?
  • Have you used them as a touchstone in your decision making?
  • What can you share that might be of help to others?

Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

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POEM FOR TODAY

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STERNER STUFF

If we return to values then no matter we’re confused,

For we’ve a touchstone to rely on even though we are bemused,

It’s not our job to know all outcomes, nor to work all problems out,

But just as long as we have values we’ll know what our life’s about.

It can be tricky to negotiate a crisis that appears

Or to find ways to best accommodate our doubts and all our fears,

And it is hard to remain constant when a little voice within

Whispers treacherous misgivings and we’re tempted to give in.

But just as long as we have values we need not be too concerned,

For though our feelings come and go our values won’t be overturned,

For in the midst of our confusions, they are plenty strong enough

To overcome our flimsy feelings, for they’re made of sterner stuff.

© Corinne Shields, 2015

If you enjoyed, “STERNER STUFF” please pass it on, and do leave your comments.  I would love to hear from you.

And just before you go …..

A final word from ACT …..

In ACT terms values are very important.  Much ACT therapeutic work rests on using values to move a client forward.  If there are conflicting values, then a positive value can be used to counteract a more negative one.

This would help me!!!  I want to lose weight.  But do I want to lose it enough to give up all those lovely goodies???

Recently I have been reading “The Diet Trap” which uses ACT strategies to approach the issue of weight loss.  I haven’t done very well so far, but I do understand that it is going to involve me establishing what matters most in terms of my values.

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Watch this space!  I will report back!

ACTivation Point!

SO ……………………….

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How about YOU?

What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life?

 Just for today I will ………………………

If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you?

I am a student of ACT.  I am on a journey.  I would love you to join me.

With all good wishes

Corinne

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Corinne Shields

I am a wife, mother, grandmother, erstwhile teacher for thirty plus years, and permanent student. I have long been interested in psychology and spirituality and enjoy writing inspirational poetry. Hence the publication of this blog at ACT Made Lyrical.com. I play golf badly, piano a little better and I love reading, writing, and all things French. I divide my time between Wales and France and enjoy travelling with my husband, Len and my dog Charlie.

5 thoughts on “ACT and Decision Making”

  1. It’s been a while, but I’m back and getting in touch with my virtual friends once again! I always enjoy seeing things from your point of view. I just finished rereading Eckhart Tolle’s “A New Earth” and am in the midst of “The Power of Now.” It’s been 8 years since I first read his books and it’s interesting to see how I’ve progressed in my understanding of “Being.” What “speaks” to me doesn’t “speak” to my family members and somehow that affects how they view my “values.” I’ve always been inclusive of family belief/value differences, but not so my family. I am, however, pleased to say they are gaining acceptance of who I am! BTW the man in my life is also named Len and I have been to Wales but not France. Thanks for sharing and you are welcome anytime to visit my blog and enjoy my adventures in Australia!

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    1. Hi Gina, Great to hear from you and I shall enjoy following your adventures! I had the same sort of experience with Russ Harris book, “The Happiness Trap”. I read it, or tried to read it, for the first time a few years ago and it did little for me. When I stumbled upon ACT some years later I discovered he was one of the main proponents. When I re-read his book I had a quite different experience. “When the student is ready the teacher will appear … x

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