ACCEPTANCE AND COMMITMENT THERAPY (ACT) – AN ONLINE RESOURCE
Q: I still feel so confused. Nothing is clearer. What now?
A: Turn to your values
Because confusion does not always behave nicely and suddenly clear and present us with the right answers, I wrote a follow up post!
What to do if the mists don’t suddenly lift? What if, despite all our analysing and ruminating, we are still no further forward? What do we do if we don’t know what to do?
Well ACT is very helpful here. ACT suggests that when in doubt turn to our values. Feelings change, we know that. Thoughts come and go, we know that too. But our values are steadfast, they do not change. If we know what our values are then it will make our decision making much easier. If we do not know what our values are, it might be time we spent some time finding out.
I wrote “STERNER STUFF” to remind me of that.
HOW ABOUT YOU?
- Have you spent time clarifying your values?
- Have you used them as a touchstone in your decision making?
- What can you share that might be of help to others?
Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.
THOUGHT FOR TODAY
POEM FOR TODAY
If we return to values then no matter we’re confused,
For we’ve a touchstone to rely on even though we are bemused,
It’s not our job to know all outcomes, nor to work all problems out,
But just as long as we have values we’ll know what our life’s about.
It can be tricky to negotiate a crisis that appears
Or to find ways to best accommodate our doubts and all our fears,
And it is hard to remain constant when a little voice within
Whispers treacherous misgivings and we’re tempted to give in.
But just as long as we have values we need not be too concerned,
For though our feelings come and go our values won’t be overturned,
For in the midst of our confusions, they are plenty strong enough
To overcome our flimsy feelings, for they’re made of sterner stuff.
© Corinne Shields, 2015
If you enjoyed, “STERNER STUFF” please pass it on, and do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.
And just before you go …..
A final word from ACT …..
In ACT terms values are very important. Much ACT therapeutic work rests on using values to move a client forward. If there are conflicting values, then a positive value can be used to counteract a more negative one.
This would help me!!! I want to lose weight. But do I want to lose it enough to give up all those lovely goodies???
Recently I have been reading “The Diet Trap” which uses ACT strategies to approach the issue of weight loss. I haven’t done very well so far, but I do understand that it is going to involve me establishing what matters most in terms of my values.
Watch this space! I will report back!
How about YOU?
What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life?
Just for today I will ………………………
If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you?
I am a student of ACT. I am on a journey. I would love you to join me.
With all good wishes