ACT and Failure

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Q:  How do I cope with failure?

A:  Redefine it.  Dare to fail whilst daring greatly!

I have just read the most amazing  post!  You know how sometimes you just seem to stumble across something at the very time you need it, or someone rings you at the very moment you were thinking of them, or something crops up at the very instant that it is suddenly the right moment?

Well that just happened to me!

I have been thinking a lot recently about external approval, or more to the point I suppose, I have been thinking about my own over-dependence on external approval.  This is not a sudden thing.  I have known for a long time that being overly dependent on the good opinion of others is for me NOT A GOOD THING!

Yes, it is lovely when people think you are wonderful, when they admire you and what you do.  Yes, it is fantastic when the world warms to you and rewards you with its goodies, but if you are over-dependent on other-approval you are on a sticky wicket.  That approval can be withdrawn in a heartbeat, and then what?  Better far to learn to give that approval to yourself and in the words of Theodore Roosevelt, the 26th President of the United States,

“Don’t be afraid to fail because it is your actions, not your achievements that make you a success.”

I could have quoted his whole speech.  It is wonderful, but I would far rather that you visit The Seeds 4 Life and read it in its entirety there.  The Seeds 4 Life is a fantastic website which provides both inspirational messages and personal development articles.  The concept behind the site is in itself inspirational.

“This site was created around the idea that your mind functions like a garden, with your thoughts acting like the Seeds.  The more inspirational or positive thoughts you seed within your mind, the more flowers you’ll grow …..”

The latest post at Seeds is entitled, “You are Successful the Moment You Start Moving Towards a Worthwhile Goal” – Charles Carlson.

It inspired me to write this post.  The reason why it was so spookily timely was that I wrote the poem “FOLLOWING OUR HEART” that I am using here just hours before I read the Seeds post! Great minds …..

HOW ABOUT YOU?

  • Are you ready to dare to fail whilst daring greatly?
  • How do you overcome your fear of failure?
  • What can you share that might be of help to others?

Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

POEM FOR TODAY

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FOLLOWING OUR HEART

 

If we crave the world’s approval we will always be in thrall

To a host of hungry masters, we can’t satisfy them all,

And although it may sound lovely with cheers ringing in our ears

We had better be prepared for when the cheering disappears.

‘Twould be good if we could slacken off these chains that would us bind,

Redefine the word “approval”, relocate where we it find

And remember it’s the glow inside that we seek to ignite,

And we do not need the world outside to set that glow alight.

We can do it any time we choose to follow our own heart,

Choose to disregard externals and determine when we’ll start

To create our own illusions, whatever they may be,

We don’t need the world’s approval, for you see my friends we’re free

To pursue a path unfashionable, if that is what appeals,

Cock a snoop at popularity and stick with our ideals,

And when we’re living our own purpose and immune to the world’s bribe

It is likely we’ll meet others and in time form our own tribe.

© Corinne Shields, 2015

If you enjoyed, “FOLLOWING OUR HEART” please pass it on, and do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

And just before you go …..

A final word from ACT …..

Actually on this occasion I am going to leave the final word to Theodore Roosevelt, because I am sure if ACT had been around in his day he would have been a devotee anyway!

I can’t resist leaving you with one last quote, my favourite actually.  This quote is famously known as “The Man In the Arena Speech” , and is an excerpt from the speech “Citizenship In A Republic” delivered at the Sorbonne in Paris, France on 23 April, 1910.

Enjoy!

 

Theodore Roosevelt's The Man in the Arena:

Wonderful isn’t it?

Which brings us to the ACTivation Point!

SO ……………………….

How about YOU?

What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life?

 Just for today I will ………………………

If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you?

I am a student of ACT.  I am on a journey.  I would love you to join me.

With all good wishes

Corinne

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Corinne Shields

I am a wife, mother, grandmother, erstwhile teacher for thirty plus years, and permanent student. I have long been interested in psychology and spirituality and enjoy writing inspirational poetry. Hence the publication of this blog at ACT Made Lyrical.com. I play golf badly, piano a little better and I love reading, writing, and all things French. I divide my time between Wales and France and enjoy travelling with my husband, Len and my dog Charlie.

8 thoughts on “ACT and Failure”

  1. What a great and relatable topic to write on! It sounds weird, but it is a favorite topic for me, how not to need others’ approval. Because it happens! I loved your line of “We don’t need the world’s approval, for you see my friends we’re free.” Perfect! Thank you for the insight Corinne.

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  2. Getting over the feeling of fear varies I think. Sometimes I just need to put a pair of walking boots on and escape or mull it over. Other times I find talking and discussing an issue with a close friend makes you realise that the problem isn’t as bad as you originally feared once you’ve retold it aloud.

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    1. Feelings come and go if we let them and I remind myself of this when I am feeling fearful. But I am getting better at exploring what the feeling actually feels like too. I don’t like it but I am not so afraid of the feeling itself now. Thanks for your comment. It is a reminder too of how physical exercise is so good at dispelling negative emotions.

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