Q:  I don’t know which way to turn.  I am so afraid of going wrong.  What now?

A:  Look to your values.  They will lead you in the right direction.

ACT loves us to take action, considered action, value-driven action that moves us in a meaningful direction.  If we are not sure what to do then a quick check-in with our values will usually point us in the right direction.

Another way to look at it is that if we take actions based on our values then we are acting with integrity and that will feel good.  Integrity is a very reliable inner compass.  It soon tells us if we are off track.  If something doesn’t feel right, if we don’t feel right, that’s a sure sign that we are not acting with integrity.

What’s also interesting is that when it comes to value driven action we need not concern ourselves over much with worrying about whether an action is right or wrong.  As long as it is moving us in the direction of our values then it can’t  be wrong.  What’s more any step in the right direction, no matter how small, will be just that, a step in the right direction.  How reassuring is that?

I wrote the poem “STEPPING IT OUT” to remind me that as long as my values lead my actions I will not go far wrong.


  • Do you remember to look to your values before you take action?
  • How do you cope with misgivings?
  • What can you share that might be of help to others?

Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.





ACT loves us to take action, to do things we truly prize,

Choose a meaningful direction and then find to our surprise

That we needn’t make a judgement about what is right or wrong,

For everything’s of value if it helps us move along.

Sometimes we may feel thwarted, may feel stranded, may feel stuck,

But if we lack motivation there’s no better place to look

Than at the last step that we took which brought us here where we are now,

For we didn’t think we’d make it but we stepped it out somehow.

And there’s something reassuring about stepping out this way

For despite our own misgivings values never swerve or sway,

And so next time we’re called to action let us hold our values near

For when a value drives an action then misgivings disappear.

© Corinne Shields, 2015

If you enjoyed, “STEPPING IT OUT” please pass it on, and do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.

And just before you go …..

A final word from ACT …..

It seems that ACT is popping up everywhere these days.

I am not particularly sporty, although I do love my golf, and I was interested to read that Psychologists have recently begun applying the principles of ACT in a variety of sports, believing that if athletes can switch their attention to the relevant athletic task versus internal states such as anxiety or frustration, they will be able to perform more successfully.

You can read more about how the ACT Hexaflex can be applied to Sport at  According to the author, “This may be especially true in situations of heightened stress or arousal, such as a penalty kick in football or a free throw in basketball.”

I am sure it would be equally effective on the putting green.  I shall try it next time I am on the course and let you know if I am able to shave some shots off my handicap.

Which brings us to the ACTivation Point!

SO ……………………….

How about YOU?

What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life?

 Just for today I will ………………………

If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you?

I am a student of ACT.  I am on a journey.  I would love you to join me.

With all good wishes


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Corinne Shields

I am a wife, mother, grandmother, erstwhile teacher for thirty plus years, and permanent student. I have long been interested in psychology and spirituality and enjoy writing inspirational poetry. Hence the publication of this blog at ACT Made I play golf badly, piano a little better and I love reading, writing, and all things French. I divide my time between Wales and France and enjoy travelling with my husband, Len and my dog Charlie.

4 thoughts on “ACT and INTEGRITY”

  1. Hi Corinne. Great post. I would be interested to hear about what ACT has to say about resolving conflict between two people when your values are different. I am struggling with this at the moment. It’s hard to resolve something when your ideals are very different. X


    1. It’s so hard isn’t it when values are so different. I guess where there is room for compromise without compromising your values then there is room for manoeuvre. When I was in that sort of situation, and I was, I always leant on the Serenity Prayer. Accept what you cannot change, change what you can and pray for the wisdom to know the difference. And minding my own business! That was another thing I learned. Our values are our values, they are our business. Someone else’s values are not our business much though we might like them to be. I am thinking of you.

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      1. Thanks. I have learnt to accept that there are some things I can’t change so I will be doing some compromising this week! I feel positive about it actually now that I have thought it through. X


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