ACCEPTANCE AND COMMITMENT THERAPY (ACT) – An Online Resource
Q: I’m fed up with fighting my feelings. What can I do?
A: Accept them.
Nobody likes uncomfortable feelings, unpleasant thoughts, difficult emotions. The natural reaction, the human reaction, is to fight against them, to try to get rid of them, to want to see them gone. But sometimes the more we fight them the stronger they get, sometimes the more we deny them the more persistent they become and sometimes the louder we shout at them the louder they shout back.
It’s all very wearing. We exhaust ourselves without exhausting them.
ACT suggests an alternative. ACT suggests that instead of fighting our feelings we accept them, instead of denying our emotions we explore them, instead of challenging our thoughts we observe them. It’s all a lot less hassle. It doesn’t mean that they will necessarily disappear. What it does mean, however, is that we will not waste our precious energy in futile struggle. Then we will have that energy to do something useful, something meaningful.
I wrote “LIVING PRESENTLY” to remind me of that.
HOW ABOUT YOU?
- Do you wear yourself out fighting your feelings?
- Are you willing to give up the struggle and explore them instead?
- What can you share that might be of help to others?
Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.
TIP FOR TODAY
POEM FOR TODAY
To go about our business in a present sort of way,
To accept what is occurring without pushing it away,
And be one with our experience, whatever it may be,
This is what it means when we are living presently.
It’s the laying down of struggle to allow the what-is in,
It’s a curious exploration when we’re willing to begin
To let all our thoughts and feelings unimpeded move on through,
When we’re living presently then this is what we do.
It’s an elegant alternative we now put to good use
Not in tying ourselves in knots, but rather shaking ourselves loose
From an overwhelming feeling or a discomforting thought,
When we’re watching from safe distance then we’re not in those knots caught.
So let’s go about our business in a present sort of way,
Be alert to what’s unfolding every moment of the day,
And let’s not become a victim of a stubborn clinging on
To a feeling or a thought which if we let it will be gone.
© Corinne Shields, 2015
If you enjoyed, “LIVING PRESENTLY” please pass it on, and do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.
Which brings us to the ACTivation Point!
How about YOU?
What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life?
Just for today I will ………………………
If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you?
I am a student of ACT. I am on a journey. I would love you to join me.
With all good wishes