ACCEPTANCE AND COMMITMENT THERAPY (ACT) – An Online Resource
Q: I’ve got so far to go. How can I possibly reach my destination?
A: Taking one step at a time.
ACT is quite clear. The route to a meaningful life lies in discovering our purpose and then carrying it out. In other words, a meaningful life, one that feels rich and vibrant, requires that we discover our values and then do things that reflect them.
This is more difficult than it sounds. Sometimes discovering our purpose can feel like one big head-ache. Life was much easier pre-purpose. Of course it was. Life was easier when we lived on automatic pilot, life was much easier when we stayed within our comfort zone and life was much, much easier when we just did the same old, same old.
Easier yes, but also stagnant and stifling. Easier yes, but also generating a feeling of discontent, a feeling of something being missing.
If we are still asking ourselves the question, “What’s it all about?” it’s likely we have yet to discover our purpose!!
Assuming we have discovered our purpose the question then is are we willing to pursue it? Are we willing to put in the effort required? Are we willing to take one step forward and two steps back? Are we willing to accept that there will be times, perhaps many times, when we will feel uncomfortable, frustrated and unsure? Are we willing to accept the discomfort and carry on anyway?
If the answer is yes, then happily we don’t have to do it all at once. Happily we can take just one step at a time in a meaningful direction. I think I can manage that.
HOW ABOUT YOU?
- Are you willing to accept the discomfort that comes with pursuing your purpose?
- Are you willing to accept that the way will be strewn with obstacles and difficulties and carry on regardless?
- What can you share that might be of help to others?
Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.
TIP FOR TODAY
POEM FOR TODAY
ONE STEP AT A TIME
It all seems so confusing, ‘twould be easier to stop,
There’s a mountain that needs climbing and the prize sits at the top,
And we’re stumbling in the foothills, have we even come that far?
Monkey mind’s already saying, “It’s too far this Shangri-La!”
And it’s tempting to believe it for the effort that’s required
Leaves us feeling more exhausted than it makes us feel inspired,
But in all of this confusion, let’s not be in any doubt,
The retreat we are considering is not our best way out.
For already we’ve moved forward and a new place we have reached,
It may not have been a pretty sight but boundaries we’ve breached
And we know a bit too much now, and what’s known can’t be unknown,
It is part of who we are now and ourselves we can’t disown.
And so it’s better we continue in a forward sort of way,
Making just a little progress, and then bit by bit each day
We’ll emerge from those old foothills and the mountain start to climb,
And one day we’ll reach the summit taking one step at a time.
© Corinne Shields, 2015
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And just before you go …..
A final word from ACT ……….
I first heard about this wonderful book in my ACT group and it is a story that has stayed with me ever since.
Touching the Void tells the amazing story of Joe Simpson’s terrifying adventure in the Peruvian Andes. Joe and his climbing partner, Simon, reached the summit of the remote Siula Grande in June 1995. A few days later, Simon staggered into Base Camp, exhausted and frost-bitten, with news that Joe was dead.
What happened to Joe, and how the pair dealt with the psychological traumas that resulted when Simon was forced into the appalling decision to cut the rope, makes for compelling reading.
However, from an ACT perspective, what this story also illustrates is how taking one step, in this case one excruciatingly painful crawl and a hop, at a time can lead to tremendous progress. In Joe’s case his actual survival depended upon his taking that next terrible step. With broken limbs and a dehydrated body, Joe Simpson is forced to make his way down a treacherous mountain, to his base camp. In the story Simpson talks of a tiny voice in his mind, pushing him onward when everyone else had seemingly left him for dead.
God forbid we are ever faced with the challenges that Joe had to meet, but in our every day lives we all of us have that “Joe moment” when we have to decide whether or not to take that next step! What Joe describes is the very definition of digging deep and is inspirational for all of us.
Which brings us to the ACTivation Point!
How about YOU?
What can YOU do just for today to ACTivate your life?
Just for today I will ………………………
If you have read this far, please do leave your comments. How is ACT helping you?
I am a student of ACT. I am on a journey. I would love you to join me.
With all good wishes