ACCEPTANCE AND COMMITMENT THERAPY (ACT) – An Online Resource
Q: I don’t think my blog will ever be ready to launch. What should I do?
A: ACTivate your blog now!!
It can be very scary when we are on the brink of something new, can’t it? In fact it can be so scary that we can look for any excuse not to actually take that final step. We can always find something else to do, some other detail to tweak, something else not quite right, not quite perfect that we can play around with.
I feel a bit like that with this blog. I am not very teckie, I am not at all social media savy, I struggle every day with some new aspect of WordPress. There is so much to learn. At this rate this blog may never get launched!!
I have therefore decided that it is time to ACTivate my blog.
What does this mean? Well from an ACT point of view it means that I am going to accept the uncomfortable feelings that I am having, the inevitable uncomfortable feelings that accompany something new, something strange. I am going to accept the discomfort, befriend and explore it even, and I am going to take action in a valued direction.
For me, that means that I am going to launch my blog even though I am full of misgivings. I am going to feel the fear and do it anyway!!
HOW ABOUT YOU?
- Are you willing to “be ready for the strangeness and accommodate the new”?
- Are you prepared to live with the discomfort that accompanies change?
- Are you, like me, going to “feel the fear and do it anyway?”
- What can you share that might be of help to others?
Please leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.
POEM FOR TODAY
If something new’s approaching let us not bar fast the door,
Let’s be fair and open-hearted, welcome what may lie in store,
Let’s be ready for the strangeness and accommodate the new
Let’s not scurry back to safety before we have seen it through.
If discomfort overwhelms us let’s stand strong until it fades
And relinquish scepticism and reluctance that persuades
Us to turn our back on progress, it’s too late and we’re too old,
Let’s not buy into the story that’s the oldest ever told.
For it’s not a case of number, we’re as old now as we feel
You can put a label on us but that label isn’t real,
And for everyone who’s saying that old age is full of strife,
Let us tell them we are proudly silver surfing through our life.
© Corinne Shields, 2015
If you enjoyed “Silver Surfing” please pass it on, and do leave your comments. I would love to hear from you.
And just before you go ……………….
A final word from ACT
ACT has a very special term for the excuses that we make to avoid the discomfort that goes with stepping out of our comfort zone. That term is:
It is a term that embodies our suffering, not just once but twice. We suffer the pain of presence and we suffer the pain of absence. What does this mean?
Experiential avoidance is the process of trying to avoid our own experiences, our uncomfortable feelings, memories, bodily sensations, behaviours, even when doing so causes us long-term behavioural difficulties. We don’t go to the party because we are shy and lacking in confidence, we don’t go the gym because we feel too fat or too depressed, we don’t launch a blog in case nobody visits!!
Experiential avoidance means that we suffer the presence of our uncomfortable feelings and we also suffer the pain of the absence of the things that we don’t do, the things that we avoid. A double whammy!!
Learning to live with discomfort, to accept our uncomfortable feelings and to commit to valued action anyway is what lies at the heart of ACT. It is what gives Acceptance Commitment Therapy its name. It is the key to living a meaningful and valued life even in the midst of life’s challenges.
If you want to find out more about Experiential Avoidance then I recommend you dip into Steven Hayes’ wonderful book:
Worth learning how to deal with it!!!
Which leads us to the …………………………..
If you have read this far please leave your comments. How is ACT helping you?
I am on an ACT journey and I would love you to join me.
With all good wishes